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Kaitlyn

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Re: I am such a failure
« Reply #20 on: September 06, 2008, 01:51:42 am »
That's the problem... I don't have any intuitions when it comes to this stuff.  I'm socially stunted.  Nor did I ever hang out with groups of guys (can't make friends there, either), so I guess I'm just creepy all by myself.

I guess I might have a kind of "desperate" vibe that puts biogirls off.  It's odd - lots of them try talking to me out of the blue, but after a few minutes, they just sort of back off or bring up male partners.  Every now and then, some girl or other makes me her special "project", and tries to draw me out of my obvious shell, but they seem to get tired of me.

I just don't know how to reciprocate.
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Re: I am such a failure
« Reply #21 on: September 06, 2008, 02:05:58 am »
That's the problem... I don't have any intuitions when it comes to this stuff.  I'm socially stunted.  Nor did I ever hang out with groups of guys (can't make friends there, either), so I guess I'm just creepy all by myself.

You do have intuition, honey. You just haven't used it. The more you get used to being yourself, Kaitlyn... you'll feel it. It's like... a sixth sense if you like. You'll get a feel for people without having to say a word.

You can always look around the net for information on how to read body language. That will help. :)

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I guess I might have a kind of "desperate" vibe that puts biogirls off.  It's odd - lots of them try talking to me out of the blue, but after a few minutes, they just sort of back off or bring up male partners.  Every now and then, some girl or other makes me her special "project", and tries to draw me out of my obvious shell, but they seem to get tired of me.

I just don't know how to reciprocate.

First of all, don't try. Just be yourself. When you try to fit a role that you think people want from you then you stop being yourself and you start being them.

How would a typical conversation go? If you don't mind me asking.
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Re: I am such a failure
« Reply #22 on: September 06, 2008, 02:30:35 am »
Hi Nephie hon, we just shared some on another thread. I must say hon that in the beginning before you even come out to anyone else, coming out can be a terrifying experience. I was going stir crazy before I began playing the game, going out in the evenings to meet a few select friends who had accepted me as who I am today. I went to Trans meetings for a total of four times to the closest city to where I lived which was 200 miles away. The need to come out was just to overpowering to resist and finally came out and started my first day full time on my job.

I was lucky that a few of my close friends which were female accepted me and continue to be my friends, like I was just one of the girls. There were no Transgender groups anywhere near where I lived. I was just fortunate that a few of the girls at work and a few friends outside of work accepted me as one of them. Now as for finding a trans suport group near where you are, try a Google search using these search terms:    transgender resources (name of city, town, county, state/province).  That is how I found what I did back in Ontario and also here in Vancouver BC.

And yes Katie has been the inspiration of many members here including myself, personally I admire her.

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Re: I am such a failure
« Reply #23 on: September 06, 2008, 02:56:26 pm »

Gosh, you really sound like someone who Id like to meet and build a friendship with! I recognize some of the things you said, and the struggles :)

Sadly I live across the ocean in a little cheese-country^^

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