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What if I'm not trans but still wish I was a girl?

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Trixie:
If that doesn't make sense... please hear me out.

I very, very much wish I was female. I like to be called "she". I desire to be feminine and pretty. I wish I could bear children. I feel I would be much happier in life and society if I were a girl.

But... I can't say that I'm transgender. Body dysphoria? Minimal to none. Of course I'd prefer to look female, but I have no NEED to. I don't hate my penis. I don't hate my body. I don't just KNOW that I'm transgendered or anything. Really, I don't think I am. Not in the sense that many of you here are. But my desire to be a woman is still there. :(

What do I do?  :'(

Edge:
(This is coming from someone who currently has a detached view of bodies.)
What do you identify as gender-wise? Would having gender dysphoria or not make that gender more or less valid? Personally, I think it's ok to be whatever gender and be comfortable in whatever body even if it's atypical. Minimal dysphoria is, after all, a good thing.
As for "what if," I think that's for you to find out.

Trixie:

--- Quote from: Edge on June 21, 2012, 10:25:48 pm ---(This is coming from someone who currently has a detached view of bodies.)
What do you identify as gender-wise? Would having gender dysphoria or not make that gender more or less valid? Personally, I think it's ok to be whatever gender and be comfortable in whatever body even if it's atypical. Minimal dysphoria is, after all, a good thing.
As for "what if," I think that's for you to find out.

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I am physically male, but wish I was female, and have identified as female for a while now. I do not have gender  dysphoria, or else it's minimal. I didn't know whether that invalidates my identity or not. :/ I wish it didn't, but I've always thought it did. Things people have told me (including on here) have suggested that it did.

SourCandy:
*huggles* It doesn't invalidate you, You are wonderful and a special snowflake x3 But seriously, For me I felt kind of like this back when I was a bit younger, For me as I got older it just kind of became something I told myself becasue I was scared. So for me at least, It grew becasue I tried to ignore it (or maybe it didn't really grow, but my ability to hide from it shrunk). It's possible you may over time feel differently about everything in your life (That's really just part of life sometimes), however you can't force yourself to do something now if you aren't ready becasue it's possible that you just don't need it.

You say you wish to be a girl, to be feminine, but that it's not that you hate who you currently are to a great extent. That's not unusual really. Are you worried that becasue you feel like it's a desire and not need that you aren't "worthy" enough to try to change who you are? Or are you currently more happy with being who you are that changing isn't really worth the stress to you?

Basically I think it's mostly self contemplating thing, and that regardless of what you are happy with and do, that ultimately it's the right choice as long as you feel it is.

Edge:

--- Quote from: Trixie on June 21, 2012, 10:32:02 pm ---I ... have identified as female for a while now.

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You are female to me then. (Again, this is coming from someone with a currently detached view of bodies and I am probably not qualified to have an opinion.)

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