Hey awesome guys, how's it going?
As you all may know, I'm new here and ever since mid-October of 2012, I've came out and understood that I am a transman—however, I haven't changed my name yet since I'm going on an overseas trip for 6 months soon and I probably can't change my passport quick enough along with other crucial information too within a 3 month time period (leaving in July, coming back to the states in January of next year), not on hormones yet, but I have a binder and a packer, I do all I can to pass through clothes and haircuts, and so on that's pretty much the instant changes I can do without doing things that'll take a while to alter with legal documents.
Anyways, without boring you all to tears, I'm just going to go ahead and get down to the question.
When it comes down to FTM make-up, is it totally fine to draw on fake facial hair?
I ask this because my features look too soft, or just way too clean to pass as a male most of the time. No matter how much I try to naturally deepen my voice and avoid an attempt to 'dupe' someone into fitting a 'role', I just want for them to see me as the man I am, to be recognized as a male by many and pray for acceptance in any form. I don't ever want to trick someone, if it's possible, I just want to be me—a man born in the wrong body who's fighting tooth and nail to show himself and be comfortable. It's pretty painful to try my best day after day and keep getting kicked down by others since, well, it's how society goes I suppose. I know better time after time to not let it get to me and through the support of my amazing fiancé who's a pre-hormone transman as well (we're going through this and discovered each other together!), I know I'll soon have my day in the sun to match how I truly feel inside through treatment down the road when things are all in the right place with plans.
I just look so much better with facial hair, even drawn on, I look much better and there's such a large difference when I wash it off for the night. I tried to go out today with the make-up, gathering up my courage and trying my best not to feel so paranoid that someone's going to call me out on it since I'm obviously different, and I had gotten a remark towards my drawn on (I thought it looks pretty convincing from a distance) facial hair that said "Did you go to the circus/carnival today?" to which I tried to play around with and politely said "Nah." The woman who made the comment then nodded her head and replied in a neutral tone "Ah okay, cool."
I feel so much more confident with my drawn on facial hair, but I'm worried that it may become more of an issue than ever, you know? Since it'll be noticeable up front with no dimensions at all than a flat drawn on texture, of course, it can be noticed up front but may be passable in the distance.
For some unknown reason, I just feel that it's more common for MTF pre-transitioning women to wear make-up and people really won't say a thing at all to them, but I guess for men like me trying to feel so happy with the best they can make-do with at facial hair, comments will be said. I just wish that FTM make-up that goes the whole nine yards could be treated as every other ways-of-life/lifestyle groups that are associated with make-up, like how goths of any gender sometimes wear face paint/make-up and bold lipsticks to be who they are. I understand that it's not for ~fashion~ and I'm not saying it's a fad, it was just a little comparison to other lifestyles that use make-up is all. If I'm wrong about this silly feeling without any malice or grumbling behind it on my behalf, I mean no harm or picking on anyone or anything at all, please feel free to correct me. I'm here to learn and gather up information to help me with this life changing process towards happiness.
I'm wanting to go into work fixing myself up to how I see myself to feel comfortable within my own skin until treatment comes into play... And I really feel that a lot of costume facial hair is just way too obvious more than make-up ones are, I can't find anything good enough than what make-up can do.
So once again, is it fine for a man like me to put on the best he can make-up facial hair or will I look like a fool begging to be picked on? Please guys, I really need your help...