It is normal to feel conflicted because people in power gaslight other people in any way they can.
The hidden nature of sexuality makes it a convenient issue for gaslighting.

More out in the open is the control of women by criticizing their appearance.
Women are given impossible and often conflicting criticism on how they should look.
Many women lose their voluptuous curves if they starve themselves.
But, they can't be thin enough for some critics.  Physically impossible to do both!
The criticism of TaylorSwift is perhaps the easiest to find because she is Rich and Famous.
She is a hero to many because she refused to "stay in her lane."
Instead she beat the man.  Over and over again!

Quote from: LoriDee on Today at 08:53:13 AMFamily dynamics can be thought-provoking. Since my transition, I have changed my role within the family dynamic. < deadname > was married three times, divorced twice, widowed once, and had two children during the first marriage which ended in a bitter custody battle. The children ended up being placed in "the system" and were adopted by my brother during the custody battle. He forbade the children from contacting me, so there is no relationship between <deadname> and that part of the family.

Since transitioning, I realize that Lori Dee is single, has never been married, and has no children. I celebrate Mother's Day and Father's Day to pay tribute to my parents and do not expect the same in return from <deadname's> offspring.

This morning, I got a heartwarming text message from my cousin. She has been very accepting, even joyful about my transition, but we only talk occasionally... usually around holidays.

Her message this morning made me smile because she is trying very hard:

"Hey, Cuz, this is kinda hard for me. I know I missed Mother's Day and now it's Father's Day!! But I'm confused on which day I should be wishing you a Happy ________ Day???  Either way, I want you to know I am thinking about of you!!! Love you!!! < heart emoji >

It is always refreshing to have someone in your life who doesn't have an agenda.

Lori,

 It is the nice thought that counts.  They can make a big difference in our lives.



Chrissy

Quote from: Helen994 on Today at 02:24:06 PMOk so if it doesn't make me less ant trans would the opposite also be true that because I don't feel nothing for it thst would be adding more towards signs that I am trans?

As LoriDee said, sex and gender are two completely different things.  So your sexual inclinations mean nothing at all about whether you are trans or not.  Trans people can be gay, straight, asexual, bisexual, etc., just as cis people can.

While it is not a sign that you are or aren't trans, my impression is that your situation is not uncommon among trans people.  I can certainly relate, as can many others.

I second Nadine's recommendation to talk to a gender therapist.  Like her, I wish I'd done it sooner.

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SATURDAY I had some Japanese pancakes in Chinatown.

For supper, I had steak and lobster.

Rite right

Happy birthday to each of you!

Chrissy

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