Author Topic: Difference between androgyne *Identity* and androgynous *expression*  (Read 24397 times)

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Offline Lizard

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Re: Difference between androgyne *Identity* and androgynous *expression*
« Reply #40 on: March 26, 2016, 05:55:56 pm »
Anyone who has ever bothered to get to know me, or paid any attention, would know that my personality/spirit always been androgynous to masculine. But, I dressed female exclusively for many reasons, work, family, expectations, social pressure... and pressure is the right word for me. Since I've started dressing more to the way I feel, androgynous to masculine, and those who know me aren't surprised in the least. Really, this has been hardest on the people who thought they knew me, but never paid attention.


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Re: Difference between androgyne *Identity* and androgynous *expression*
« Reply #41 on: March 29, 2016, 11:59:16 am »
It took me a while to understand the difference between androgynous and androgyne. Like, I used to identify as a transmasculine genderqueer. But I have always had an androgynous style. Being transgender, I felt like there was just so much pressure on me to be masculine or nobody would take me seriously. Like, the only people I'm closeted to is most of my family, and I'm involved in church. I was afraid that if I came to church looking feminine, they'd see that as me not being a guy. So that was a really emotionally trying time for me. Non-binary never really fit for me per say because I do identify strongly as transgender, even though I relate strongly to the feminine energy. But for the most part, thinking back on it, I would often forget I even had a gender until someone used her/she pronouns, which really bugged me. Now I don't mind as long as the person knows that I'm not just a she. My boyfriend still calls me his girlfriend and uses feminine words when referring to me. But he asked me if I was okay with him doing that. Which I totally am. I love being a girl when I'm with him; for him and him only. But then I discovered Androgyny as a gender. I thought that wasn't me either because I'm not really in-between but more towards one and nothing I learned more about it and finally it clicked. I'm androgyne.
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Offline jamie-lee

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Re: Difference between androgyne *Identity* and androgynous *expression*
« Reply #42 on: October 27, 2016, 06:19:29 am »
I think all of us come through a stage of conflating expression with identity. Identity, is something you know at your core. I might not be very clear in here, but I know that it's my gender identity and not expression at work when I say I am a tomboy and nobody believes me, because I don't do sports, use nail polish, and I'm quite girly in general. It's about some deeper truth about me, it's about the whole image, not the pixels that create it.