Hey guys, just wondered if anyone had advice or has dealt with this situation before...my partner and I are really stumped on how to come out to his parents.
We've been together for 6 months. He came out to his parents as gay 2-3 months ago. They pretty much don't mention it, but they don't believe it and are really hoping it's some kind of phase that he will grow out of. He only told his parents that he had a boyfriend about a month ago, and they don't really talk about that either. If they do, they just call me his "friend". We would probably keep dancing around the subject for a while, but his college graduation is in June. I'll be meeting them for the first time if I go.
So boyfriend and I are trying to come up with a way to explain me to his parents. At the moment, I'm still "girl name"/prounouns/etc. at work and with my family, and myself with friends/boyfriend. We're unsure how to explain things to his parents. If we just leave it at the fact that we are boyfriends, we are afraid that if I don't physically transition and things are serious down the road and we get married, his parents will feel like we lied to them. But if we tell them I'm his girlfriend, that's not really correct, because he has never seen me as less than male and I'm his boyfriend. It also will give them false hope that he's straight. If we try to explain transgender stuff to them, they probably won't understand it and will probably still come to the conclusion that he isn't gay and I'm not a guy.
Obviously this is quite the pickle. Sorry it was so long but I figured you needed the backstory. Have any of you been in a similar situation, how did you handle it? Any advice is appreciated...just really unsure what to do.