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Offline thedementedlamb

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Wanting to come out in a few months
« on: October 27, 2015, 06:01:51 pm »
Howdy all of you awesome and amazing people. 

I'm new to the site but I'm a 17 (18 in 4 months) ftm, pre everything.  I don't know if I can still call myself an ftm if I haven't gotten T or anything, but oh well, I'm sticking to saying that. 

ANYWAYS, On my 18th birthday, I plan to come out as trans and request help to go through therapy or find a way to go ahead and jump on testosterone boat. 

I'm on the weighty side but am working on it.  When I get top surgery, if I ever get to it, I'll probably end up doing double incision.

I guess my main question or whatever is - for those of you that have come out as trans around family (most of my friends know so I'm not concerned), how did you come out?

My birthname is Miranda but I'd like to go by Auberon/Aubbie in the future.  I prefer he/his.


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Re: Wanting to come out in a few months
« Reply #1 on: October 27, 2015, 06:20:32 pm »
Welcome to Susan's Place. The rule around here is you call yourself what ever you feel comfortable with and people will address you that way. Our new identity can sometimes take a little getting used to and we use the desired identity in order to help others get comfortable with what people will use in the future.

I hit melt down at age 23 and I knew my life depended on coming out. I waited till my dad was out of the house and my mom was in the office doing some work and I explained it to her. Latter she and my father went for a drive and she explained it to him. I spent the next three days not eating anything because my stomach was so tied in a knot that I could only eat a few spoons of food before I felt full. My brother and sister were out of the house at that point and I started therapy and moved to California but I suspect it was a long time after that when my mother explained it to them.
I had very few friends at the time and to the best of my knowledge, they are still unaware of my transition.

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Re: Wanting to come out in a few months
« Reply #2 on: October 27, 2015, 06:27:38 pm »
Congrats on coming to terms with who you are! I've known since I was 4.... Luckily for me it was easy coming out as trans to everyone. I've always been extremely effeminate and preferred girly things. It was hard for my grandfather and we don't talk as a result but I'm just happy to be. What I'm trying to say is that there is no right way to do it. You just kinda do and not everyone is going to agree with it, but if they love you they'll stay. Just be strong and don't change for anyone.
Irrelevant but I was born Joseph Charles & I plan to become Zoe Christine <3

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Re: Wanting to come out in a few months
« Reply #3 on: November 10, 2015, 01:56:34 am »
What I did was bring up and talk about topics about the LGBT community first, this made me more comfortable with coming out because I knew where their heads were at about transgender people. They will get a hint so when you tell them they won't be as shocked I guess?

Let us know what happens and congrats on coming out in your 18th!

Natalia

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Re: Wanting to come out in a few months
« Reply #4 on: November 28, 2015, 11:21:20 pm »
I agree with NataliaDoll, feelers about LGBTQIA topics can help get a sense of people sensibilities.
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Re: Wanting to come out in a few months
« Reply #5 on: November 29, 2015, 12:42:37 am »
I'd like to address something in your post... though I won't really answer your question.  You definitely don't need any medical intervention to be FTM.  You might need it to treat your dysphoria or to help you pass, but if you self-identify as male, then you're male.  End of story.  Others in your life will have a harder time accepting that, but you shouldn't have any difficulty with that around here.

The reason that I'm not really answering your question is that I'm nonbinary and coming out means something very different to me for now, as I'm not asking many people do change what they call me.  As such, most of "coming out" for me is just telling people that I identify as transgender.  I don't want them to change how they treat me, and most people haven't.  Sometimes I tell them a little more, but I still haven't figured out my gender, so I don't have much to say.  I guess I've been "living out" without "coming out."  I don't hide, but I don't share much.

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