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Tessa James:
I entered my first puberty with the childish hope that "the change" meant I would become the girl who lived in my heart and mind as an unspoken shadow.  It was the early 1960s and i knew nothing of transgender as even that word had yet to be coined.  The stark and awful truth was that I was then drenched in testosterone and those resultant physical developments were a reality shock.  I became very cynical, felt alienated and entered a phase of resignation and despair.  Like too many of us i tried to double down on "acting like a man."  I grew up with the nonsense that being a soldier, dead or alive, guaranteed an heroic manhood.  I was in the army at age 17, survived Vietnam and found myself to be queer with an adult boyfriend.  Who i was with that boyfriend was a GIRL whether he knew it or not.  Subsequent boyfriends and a wife did recognize my feminine side and responded with rejection.  We learn to hide to survive.

I would guess that there are still plenty of teens who are challenged by our cultural paradigms, knuckle under and attempt to live according to an "assigned gender."  Thank goodness more young people are now better educated, with more resources and willingness to tell and live their truth.  I celebrate those who stand up for their truth and mourn for those individuals who still suffer in silence while trying to measure up to some rigidly reinforced stereotypes. 

There is no way people who live in the closet are numerically accounted for.  They remain invisible to the masses by choice, even if horribly coerced.  Diagnosticians put an emphasis on persistence of gender identity with the inability to account for the powerful repression we might internalize as children.  Dysphoria kills, fight back with your truth!

PrincessCrystal:
Anyone else here feel like their gender changed in a trans direction when they went through puberty?

cheryl reeves:
I wouldn't wish my puberty on anyone,it was rough,i developed like a girl,mood swings,breast development(aa),body shape and mass all female,the problem was I was assigned male at birth. The only way I look male is with facial hair.

PrincessCrystal:

--- Quote from: cheryl reeves on November 02, 2016, 12:08:33 pm ---I wouldn't wish my puberty on anyone,it was rough,i developed like a girl,mood swings,breast development(aa),body shape and mass all female,the problem was I was assigned male at birth. The only way I look male is with facial hair.
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You're intersex, right?  Can I hear more about that?  We're you treated for that as a minor, or..?

cheryl reeves:
Never treated,but I had a general idea of what was going on from watching documentaries and porn magazine's on this. I was mean in a fight,never developed muscle mass like a guy but like a woman,i was strong but didn't look like it. The only way I pass as a man is facial hair,if I took female hormones I would finish a puberty that was stalled and I love my wife and she is fine with the dressing and makeup but not me being full-time, and I kinda like playing a guy at times.

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