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Offline Ive

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Hello everyone,

it's 9 months since I am in therapy with my psychoanalyst. I am on my path towards an healthy life.
I am starting to see that probably GD is not the only issue I got in my life. It seems that I suffered (and still suffer) from a form of "emotional dependence", which may be due to "abandoned child syndrome".
In my family, my father has always had "problems" with his emotional life, and us (me and my sister) suffered a lot from his way of being.

Have anyone of you experienced a strong emotional dependence from random people, and a difficulty to trust people fearing of being hurt?
Anyone experienced this difficulty, beyond him/her/zer gender variance?

Thanks for your sharing.
Kisses,
Iv.

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Re: [HEALTH AND PSY] Anyone (has) experienced "abandoned child syndrome"?
« Reply #1 on: November 14, 2016, 03:47:59 pm »
I have PTSD from child abuse.  I get the impression that there is a significantly higher rate of secondary psychological issues among transgender people, and not just because of rejection...

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Dear PrincessCrystal,

Sorry to hear that... I hope that you get better...

I don't know, my sensation is that few TG people have the same problems I am recognizing and experiencing, and are probably due to me and the environment I grew in.
I am realizing that I got really many problems in relating with people, fear of being abandoned and abandon someone. I am too much worried about what others think of me, at the point I am paranoid since I was teenager.

Dysphoria maybe only made it worse...

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Iv

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Re: [HEALTH AND PSY] Anyone (has) experienced "abandoned child syndrome"?
« Reply #3 on: December 20, 2016, 04:27:24 am »
Hello everyone,

I am still very curious about this topic.
Any of you experienced ACS? Deep sense of shame, fear of abandonment, dis-functional relations to peers?

Thanks to all,
Ive

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Re: [HEALTH AND PSY] Anyone (has) experienced "abandoned child syndrome"?
« Reply #4 on: December 20, 2016, 05:43:07 am »
Possibly; although I've never heard of this syndrome previously. I've always been emotionally abused by my dad. He's never encouraged me or try to talk to me without having to prove he's smarter than I am. He's never understand my anxiety problems or understand I had depression through college and that's why I dropped out. He just thinks I'm a bad person who doesn't care. As a result I can't trust people and have no clue how to form bonds with people. I still feel some shame towards me being queer and trans bcos my daf still views it as abnormal.

I plan to move out fri and writing this has made me realise more so that it's definitely the right choice.
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Re: [HEALTH AND PSY] Anyone (has) experienced "abandoned child syndrome"?
« Reply #5 on: December 21, 2016, 02:57:50 pm »
I don't know. Looking at the symptoms of this syndrome, I wouldn't say so, I don't have any dependencies on drugs or people, really.

But I would say my parents made some poor decisions regards me, and I do feel abandonment from both of them. That tends to happen when you know your father didn't really want you, doted on his other kids more, and your mother tells you she feels nothing for anybody and was violent and unstable. It was her I had to live with after they split. I found out recently she was abused herself as a kid... probably why she is distant with her own kids and most people in her life.

I do have massive trust issues. I don't really trust anybody. I can prescribe levels of trust to people but I know in the end they're all out for themselves. And that's just nature, the way people are built. I didn't have difficulty forming friendships and stuff after school years, but I make some mistakes with the concept of friendship. Namely that I valued it more than my friends ever did.

I've actually become less trusting over time and with experience, which is saying something for me. But then sometimes the odd person surprises me and seem to hold me in high esteem when I never thought they did. It's a confusing state to be in as I would like to trust people, but they've never proven to be reliable.
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