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How is your dating as a trans.

excellent
11 (25%)
all right
3 (6.8%)
kind of a bummer
8 (18.2%)
non existent
18 (40.9%)
other
4 (9.1%)

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Offline stephaniec

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as a person who has transitioned, how is your dating life
« on: November 18, 2016, 04:24:41 pm »
My dating life either as trans or cis has been non existent for a long time , but that's mostly been of choice.
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Re: as a transgender , how is your dating life
« Reply #1 on: November 18, 2016, 04:27:29 pm »
Mines kind of a bummer. It was going good for like 8 months, but then all the sudden guys stopped asking me out. I mean I still get hit on, but all of them just want sex.

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Re: as a transgender , how is your dating life
« Reply #2 on: November 18, 2016, 04:46:20 pm »
It was good, so good, that I"m engaged to be married. Hugs
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Re: as a transgender , how is your dating life
« Reply #3 on: November 18, 2016, 04:51:16 pm »
lucky girl, best wishes

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Re: as a transgender , how is your dating life
« Reply #4 on: November 18, 2016, 05:10:08 pm »
What's dating?

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Re: as a transgender , how is your dating life
« Reply #5 on: November 18, 2016, 06:12:47 pm »
Bf and I are together for 10 months now :) we've been arguing lately tho...


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Re: as a transgender , how is your dating life
« Reply #6 on: November 18, 2016, 06:18:14 pm »
It's as garbage as it gets. I'm 29 and have never been on a date. Thanks, transsexuality.
Trying to take it one day at a time :)

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Re: as a transgender , how is your dating life
« Reply #7 on: November 18, 2016, 06:39:23 pm »
Before I realized I'm partially transmale and demisexual, I'd date, or get married, to prove to my loved ones that I'm "normal" but after my religious parents passed away, I stopped trying. It takes over a year for me to feel sexual attraction to someone (demisexual) and otherwise I'm asexual (no sexual attraction for any gender), so zero motivation.

In fact, I ran off to teach in southern Thailand, where people are allowed to be single without being hassled or thought odd.

I do miss my former Navy pilot, airline pilot ex since we traveled the world, went camel trekking in Australia, camping in Tasmania, camping at the Grand Canyon, drove and rode our Walking Horses and camped outdoors year around. He gave me two hour foot rubs every night, dressed impeccably, we read books to each other, and he finished my housework whenever I turned my back for a moment. He also was a gender mix, although I didn't realize it at the time, who allowed me to express my male nature, which I hadn't suspected I had, before him.

I don't see how I can date now because..I have no idea who to date..men, women, a blend? I am strongly attracted to gender blends, like my ex, but my mixed gender ex was treacherous, manipulative, and dangerously jealous of anything that caught my attention other than him.

I can't behave as a female to live with a male, and I don't behave enough as a male to live with a female, as I resent their bossy ways.

My ex recently emailed me that he is going to transition to live as a female and wants to move to Thailand live with me, but I remembered how treacherous he was before and discouraged him doing that. Yet it seems to be the perfect solution if a person can actually change.

We are both 64 years, but have such a limited, organic diet, we don't act or look like it. Or maybe it's from being mixed gender.



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Re: as a transgender , how is your dating life
« Reply #8 on: November 18, 2016, 07:35:09 pm »
My wife is very supportive, but that would definitely change if I started dating!   >:-)
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Re: as a transgender , how is your dating life
« Reply #9 on: November 18, 2016, 07:48:29 pm »
Not interested in relationshops at my age. Sex is all I need and that part has been easy. lol
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Re: as a transgender , how is your dating life
« Reply #10 on: November 19, 2016, 12:02:21 am »
At just turned 25 I've never had a relationship in my entire life. My thought process for most of the time was "If I can't love myself how could I possibly love someone else?" I'm also probably one of the most passive/submissive girls out there so little chance of anyone thinking I was actually female in high school, thinking I'm cute and asking me out Haha I've never really felt like I was missing something though have felt lonely quite often. But since coming to the realization that I cant live wasting my life away not living all I've been doing is working on improving myself and relationships couldn't be further from my interests. Though in a way I'm kind of thankful for it. I've read sop many posts on this site about people who are married and after so long coming out, I can't imagine how hard that must be so I'm kinda glad I've had no relationships yet. One day though! Haha

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Re: as a transgender , how is your dating life
« Reply #11 on: November 19, 2016, 12:39:13 am »
I got married two months ago tomorrow.... My husband is taking me out on a date night Sunday  evening...so marriage is not the end of dating!!!...Life is Awesome!!!!

Onward we go!!!

Ashley :)
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Let go of the things that no longer serve you... Let go of the pretense of the false persona, it is not you... Let go of the armor that you have worn for a lifetime, to serve the expectations of others and, to protect the woman inside... She needs protection no longer.... She is tired of hiding and more courageous than you know... Let her prove that to you....Let her step out of the dark and feel the light upon her face.... amg🌸
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Re: as a transgender , how is your dating life
« Reply #12 on: November 19, 2016, 12:43:19 am »
that's great

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Re: as a transgender , how is your dating life
« Reply #13 on: November 19, 2016, 08:30:49 am »
None existent for a year now...
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Re: as a transgender , how is your dating life
« Reply #14 on: November 19, 2016, 08:35:44 am »
minor  council , but at least I'm not alone.

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Re: as a transgender , how is your dating life
« Reply #15 on: November 19, 2016, 01:04:49 pm »
I'm not interested in any relationship at the moment. I don't want to expose myself to the possibility of getting hurt again and additionally I don't have any free time due to full time work and single parenting.

I'm happy when I can finally go to bed alone and get some rest... ;)


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Re: as a transgender , how is your dating life
« Reply #16 on: November 19, 2016, 05:40:11 pm »
The hubby and I try to have a monthly date night. While "dating", dates were usually just sitting down and talking. Things were different when I was younger. We always went out and did some type of activity. Some times, I'd have 6 or 8 dates before we decided it wasn't going to work. These days, guys would make that decision after just one date.
While I was on online online dating sites, I found that most men will not even take anyone out on a date. They'd rather just talk or text. Persistence is key. I am grateful that I no longer need to keep trying to find dates.
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Re: as a transgender , how is your dating life
« Reply #17 on: November 20, 2016, 01:30:25 am »
Had 4 dates in 8 years which is not very impressive. I'd run a mile from anyone who wanted a date with me, they must be more disturbed & damaged than I am.

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Re: as a transgender , how is your dating life
« Reply #18 on: November 20, 2016, 07:18:25 am »
I haven't dated in a while, the last girl I dated was a classically bad fit and of course I fell hard in love/lust. There are girls I like and I very much am enjoying getting closer to them. Even where there's sexual attraction I'm not pushing that.

I really hit it off a while back with my masseuse she left town on very short notice, I think due to problems with the INS. I miss her badly.

My gf has occasional dates about half vanilla and half for sex. I enjoy her experience vicariously and she's been more motivated lately due to my becoming less sexual since starting HRT.

If I had time I'd date, I don't choose to make time for that.
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Re: as a transgender , how is your dating life
« Reply #19 on: November 20, 2016, 07:57:37 am »
My wife is very supportive, but that would definitely change if I started dating!   >:-)
Not even if you got her a date too? lol
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