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Offline SkylarFox98

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Re: Hi, need advice about situation.
« Reply #40 on: April 10, 2017, 03:27:02 pm »
Hi Jennifer. In terms of not telling family about being trans, I'm on the same boat. I was thinking of going into cyber security but creating skins for models has been a passion for the past month so I'm thinking of going into game design. Here's what my mom said after I got home from school today. "You think you can pull a fast one on me? As soon as I'm better, we're going to talk about this day after day, week after week, and month after month." She even annoys her parents about religion, no wonder they don't call us much. My transguy friend is planning on getting an apartment with me between summer and before the end of the year. If that happens, I'll just come out on Facebook (will probably have to block a lot of people) then start HRT. I do forgive people but if they don't change their ways, then it doesn't do much. Well sadly my area of living is heavily red so starting a local thing may be hard but the college I have in mind does have a LGBT club that I plan to join. Thanks and same for you too. I may not always be on but if you do PM me, I'll try to respond whenever possible.

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Re: Hi, need advice about situation.
« Reply #41 on: April 12, 2017, 04:07:01 am »
Skylar,

Congratulations on telling them. That is a tough brave thing to have done.  Sorry your Mom is kind of coming  back at you. Stay as strong as you can.

Don't know where you are looking for schools but Champlain College in Burlington, Vt has very well respected game design and cyber security programs. It's also not far from Montreal with one of the larger gaming communities and cons. They also have a very liberal stance on their LGBTQ+ students.

I have not been on in a while (due to work) but am glad to see your progress.

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Re: Hi, need advice about situation.
« Reply #42 on: April 13, 2017, 07:18:51 pm »
Thanks and on Monday stuff was getting really out of hand so I had to apologize only to ease the stressful atmosphere. Well since then I've noticed something, everytime they do something nice for me, they now have bargains and deals attached to them even though I haven't have them any grief since Monday. It stresses me out and if I do this apartment plan, I may have to put off college for another year or two. Or live on campus but then my friend may get sent away to a government place cause of him being in a foster system and I rather not see that happen to him, he's the only trans person I know in person and is very resourceful and helpful for me. Yeah I'm bit half and half, cyber security is a great and expanding field but game design is something that I feel passionate about and sometimes working on texture projects can relief my stress (not always but it helps) I never did fly on a plane before, I don't live in Vermont but I do live in the north east but thanks for the suggestion, I'll check them out.

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Re: Hi, need advice about situation.
« Reply #43 on: April 18, 2017, 08:25:41 pm »
Ok I feel that I'm at a crossroads and unsure of which path to take.

1: Move out with transguy friend (and possibly my gf) into an apartment.
 -Pros: Get to see a therapist then start HRT, be free from harassment (mostly)
 -Cons: Financially, college may be an issue and might have to put if off a year.

2: Live on campus at a college
 -Pros: Away from home, can start HRT, meet new people and visit new places
 -Cons: If my transguy friend fails to get an apartment, he may get sent to a government run place and stuff (I'm not sure what all he said but I know he wouldn't like it and I would miss him)

3: Wait two more years to move out (Rather not do this, like at all)
 -Pros: Save money....but if I'm not happy, then what good does that do?
 -Cons: (May be a long list) Deal with my parents, not start, still hide, anxities may worsen, depression will probably worsen to, they'll probably be on me about religion and stuff, and I feel this list can go on and on.

If anyone can help me decide and also tell more pros and cons of each, I'll appreciate it. This wasn't my original plan after high school but if I can move out and start my life, then I feel I should take this.

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Re: Hi, need advice about situation.
« Reply #44 on: May 04, 2017, 04:38:09 pm »
Well looks like the apartment plan won't work out. I mean two years from now once i graduate college, have a car, and get a job, sure it'll work out well. But now with my gf and I not having our cars nor jobs and my friend wants to do this plan next month, it's getting unrealistic. My parent's financial situation is worse so but at least I'm still going to college and they have a PRIDE club like I said. I guess patience and more patience will get me to my goal. I'm not on here often, just come to post my thoughts and also get help with situations. But not all has been bad here, last time I went to the mall with my gf I bought inserts for my bras :) So worth it since I'm not on HRT yet and also bought another pair of panties.

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« Reply #45 on: May 16, 2017, 12:35:23 pm »
Skyler,

I have been pulled away at work a lot so not on so often lately, myself.  College is great. It is a good place to start working through things. Depending on the campus or proximity to a planned parenthood, you might have easy ways of getting therapy and potentially HRT.

It is hard to be patient. Once you start on this path, it seems harder. However, it is a long slow waiting game to go from one step to the next. The upside, (as you discovered) is that each step can seem small but feel so big.

Good luck,

Warmly,

Joanna
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