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After your transition or when you're full-time - do you plan on...

Live as stealth as possible and "keep away from things Transgender" to avoid detection
9 (33.3%)
Be an advocate and support Transgender causes publically
2 (7.4%)
Be more than an just advocate - actively seek an audience to inform and educate on what being Transgender is all about
4 (14.8%)
Other - please specify in your comments
12 (44.4%)

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Offline Michelle_P

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Re: What are your thoughts on your "Post" transition role
« Reply #20 on: February 17, 2017, 12:56:25 pm »
Post-transition I plan on continuing my activism and public advocacy for transgender and other marginalized peoples.

I find that having gotten past the old repression that I am not actually an introvert.  I'm downright obnoxious, and activism seems an appropriate channel for me.


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Re: What are your thoughts on your "Post" transition role
« Reply #21 on: February 17, 2017, 01:05:32 pm »
 I think the poll ought to have another selection to encompass those who will post transition attempt to live normal lives neither in hiding nor actively advocating. I think it is possibly to integrate.

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Re: What are your thoughts on your "Post" transition role
« Reply #22 on: February 17, 2017, 03:49:32 pm »
I think the poll ought to have another selection to encompass those who will post transition attempt to live normal lives neither in hiding nor actively advocating. I think it is possibly to integrate.

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Pretty much where I think I'll end up.

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Re: What are your thoughts on your "Post" transition role
« Reply #23 on: February 17, 2017, 04:01:48 pm »
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Re: What are your thoughts on your "Post" transition role
« Reply #24 on: February 17, 2017, 05:42:17 pm »
I think the poll ought to have another selection to encompass those who will post transition attempt to live normal lives neither in hiding nor actively advocating. I think it is possibly to integrate.

 Jeanette
The correct term for that is assimilation, which is something that I struggle to balance "being accepted" and staying grounded, since it's easy to forget about the fact that trans and gnc folks will always be marginalized and there is no true safety (at least in my country, the US 😟)

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Re: What are your thoughts on your "Post" transition role
« Reply #25 on: February 18, 2017, 06:31:43 am »
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So good to hear from others from many years ago that have had a successful life. 
Too often we hear of the problems, but not the long term successes.

I think we need to get out and show others that we can have successful and happy lives.
Thank you Georgette, probably the most successful fulfilment in my life since I transitioned was getting married to my boyfriend and becoming his wife, life is just so normal, life was a struggle in relationships over the years, now I'm in just a normal typical  marriage, hubby does all the guy stuff, fixing things etc, I do all the wife stuff, housekeeping cooking etc, it's not for everybody, I can live with it, just being a woman and getting on with life with as little stress and my husband just being there for me.
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Re: What are your thoughts on your "Post" transition role
« Reply #26 on: February 18, 2017, 08:11:17 am »
I think the poll ought to have another selection to encompass those who will post transition attempt to live normal lives neither in hiding nor actively advocating. I think it is possibly to integrate.

Good point - I guess when I created this poll I was considering that as Stealth.  Basically I wanted to know how many people would check, like me, to actively seek an audience to educate people.  Some have gone as far as TED talks.

So "Integrated" would be those people who are open about being Trans, but don't bring it up in conversation unless someone brings it up first.  I like it.  Thanks.
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Re: What are your thoughts on your "Post" transition role
« Reply #27 on: February 18, 2017, 10:07:57 am »
So "Integrated" would be those people who are open about being Trans, but don't bring it up in conversation unless someone brings it up first.  I like it.  Thanks.

"Don't bring it up in conversation unless someone brings it up first."

Imagine how this life looks when five years go by and no one brings it up.


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Re: What are your thoughts on your "Post" transition role
« Reply #28 on: February 18, 2017, 11:03:05 am »
"Don't bring it up in conversation unless someone brings it up first."

Imagine how this life looks when five years go by and no one brings it up.

That sure sounds like a successful transition to just living life as yourself!  (I don't know that I would be able to pull that off.)


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Re: What are your thoughts on your "Post" transition role
« Reply #29 on: February 18, 2017, 01:56:01 pm »
I agree with Michelle and Sophia,

That has been most of my early life.  Even where I worked and transitioned, can't say I ever had any of those conversations.
Guess I assimilated and had a very successful life.

Only since I have come back out to the LGBT community have I had those conversations.  Surprising how many women and Gay men are interested in my story and how it was way back then.
Plus WASH DC was quite a bit segregated from the Lesbian and Gay communities.  Very seldom did they get together.  Now we have quite a few LGBT and straight clubs.
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Re: What are your thoughts on your "Post" transition role
« Reply #30 on: February 18, 2017, 02:37:52 pm »
That sure sounds like a successful transition to just living life as yourself!  (I don't know that I would be able to pull that off.)

I think it's almost always possible to pull off. 

Pulling it off, however, usually requires sacrifices. That's the touch choice, and it's a very personal one.
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Re: What are your thoughts on your "Post" transition role
« Reply #31 on: February 21, 2017, 07:22:31 am »
"Don't bring it up in conversation unless someone brings it up first."

Imagine how this life looks when five years go by and no one brings it up.

That honestly sounds like my dream.  I never wanted this, and I sure as hell would rather not bring attention to it.  I just want to be me, be happy, and be left alone about this. 

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