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Offline Anne Blake

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Benefits of gender marker change
« on: February 16, 2017, 08:36:29 pm »
Greetings All,

I have been cruising down this pathway of transitioning for a bit now. Most of the time it feels slow and then it feels too slow. I have been focusing on the things that I can control to maintain sanity. The big things on my list of to do's are; finishing electrolysis (in progress), hair transplant (in three weeks), RLE (four months into it), GCS (consultation in May), name change and gender marker change. The name feels big but for legal reasons it can't be done for a year or so. That leaves that gender marker. My hrt provider is more than willing to sign the needed paperwork, no problems. Drivers license and passport are quite doable. My question is the benefit of changing the marker while the name is so disconnected from either gender or looks. Will it be a net gain or risk when interfacing with authorities and more importantly, what does it do for personal feelings of well being. I won't know for me until I get it done but what has it done for those of you that changed your marker before your name change?

I will appreciate any inputs that you can offer,
Anne

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Re: Benefits of gender marker change
« Reply #1 on: February 16, 2017, 08:52:28 pm »
Anne,
   Hi Hon! I changed the name first and had to wait for the gender change. I know I am not answering your question but I can say that only changing one was very unsatisfying for me. I wasn't fulfilled until both were done. Because of the political climate, I am now wanting to push for birth certificate change. With that in mind, if laws change, your ability to change gender could be jeopardized. It might be safer to do it now. The name process would be unlikely to change.
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Re: Benefits of gender marker change
« Reply #2 on: February 16, 2017, 09:15:42 pm »
I am going to do the gender change ASAP. I finally got a new state ID (still listing F since I let the old one lapse and you can't do both steps at once) which will allow me to get the Birth Certificate updated as well as Social Security and my state ID. Name is more problematic because of the financial mess my divorce left me in, but I go by the masculine version of my birth name so for me that is not as big an issue. To me having the marker match the presentation is more important

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Re: Benefits of gender marker change
« Reply #3 on: February 17, 2017, 12:45:55 pm »
Legally, I would advise you to change your gender marker on as many documents as you can ASAP because your ability to do so in the future may be diminished. Of course, you may end up paying some fees twice to update again once your name is changed, but a name change is easy and easily accomplished without too much of a hassle in most states.

I changed my gender marker and name as soon as I could, because I wanted my transition to be over with as fast as possible. It feels good having everything on every form of ID congruent. If my name change had been delayed for some reason, I may have held off on the gender marker solely for financial reasons. If those financial reasons hadn't been present, I probably would've gone ahead and done it in advance.
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Re: Benefits of gender marker change
« Reply #4 on: February 17, 2017, 01:35:53 pm »
Hello Max, let me plead ignorance here. You mentioned getting gender marker changed on as many documents as possible, I am aware of drivers license, passport and birth certificate; what am I leaving out?

Anne

Oh, and social security

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Re: Benefits of gender marker change
« Reply #5 on: February 17, 2017, 01:38:07 pm »
Anne, in the US also your Social Security records

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« Reply #6 on: February 17, 2017, 02:10:04 pm »
Those are the big ones! Just remember when you update with all of them, you have to update on any accounts that have your gender listed as well. Car insurance and health insurance are the big ones that I can think of.
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Re: Benefits of gender marker change
« Reply #7 on: February 17, 2017, 02:51:19 pm »
Thanks for all of your inputs. For some foolish reason I thought that all of the mental, emotional and physical aspects of transiting were going to be the confusing parts. It sure appears that the paper work may be toughest part of it all!

Thanks again,
Anne

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