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Offline Valkyrie_2

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Stressed
« on: February 25, 2017, 10:06:47 am »
I'm absolutely exhausted all the time. I think it's due to stress.

At work I drive full size school busses. Those great big 16 ton yellow bricks on wheels with the flashy lights most love to hate.

My codriver refuses to leave the bus garage till 6:15 yet we are scheduled to leave at 6. This gives us less than an hour to cover an approximately 30 mile route, picking up individual children along the way. I can do this easily when my codriver is away because I leave on time. Most of the time my codriver is present and I am pushed to go over the speed limit by 5mph. I'm then criticized when I reach the school because I'm not there 10 minutes early so my codriver can take a short nap. The result is, a fun job has turned very, very stressful. So much so that I'm forgetting important things that are part of the job.

I did gripe to the supervisor and had a very sympathetic ear. He agreed that going over the limit was not good and that there was plenty time in the schedule if we left on time. There's a bit of a mismatch between my codriver and I in pay apparently. My codriver is paid for 15 minutes less. That probably accounts for the reluctance to leave on time.

It's Saturday and I had a really good nights sleep but I still feel stressed.


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Re: Stressed
« Reply #1 on: February 25, 2017, 11:24:24 am »
  IMO Your codriver has issues and is forcing them onto you. As I see it you have a job to do and a schedule to follow. I would do my job as required and stick to my schedule. If your codriver has a problem with it , tell him to put in for overtime or take it up with a supervisor. As long as you are do your job properly (which you are not by complying with his delays) you have no problem, your codriver has.  You need to disassociate yourself from his problems.

 Take control and do your jobs as you see it.

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Re: Stressed
« Reply #2 on: February 25, 2017, 11:46:24 am »
  IMO Your codriver has issues and is forcing them onto you. As I see it you have a job to do and a schedule to follow. I would do my job as required and stick to my schedule. If your codriver has a problem with it , tell him to put in for overtime or take it up with a supervisor. As long as you are do your job properly (which you are not by complying with his delays) you have no problem, your codriver has.  You need to disassociate yourself from his problems.

 Take control and do your jobs as you see it.

  Hugs,
     Jeanette
Oh yes, my codriver has issues. 3 months away from retirement, pretty inflexible and embittered. Somebody that hates Mexicans with a passion and whose not that keen on white folk either. I tolerate my codriver but given the choice I'd rather work with somebody else.




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Re: Stressed
« Reply #3 on: February 25, 2017, 11:56:54 am »
 Just remember your codrivers issues are his issues, let him deal with them. Do not take them on yourself, you don't need that extra baggage.

  If you continue to stress about it maybe you should address this again (and again) with your supervisor and request a change or something be done about him.

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Re: Stressed
« Reply #4 on: February 25, 2017, 04:25:27 pm »
That sounds like a difficult situation with no solution. If you're actually driving the bus, what makes them a "codriver"? What do they actually do?
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Re: Stressed
« Reply #5 on: February 25, 2017, 04:40:53 pm »
That sounds like a difficult situation with no solution. If you're actually driving the bus, what makes them a "codriver"? What do they actually do?
They're the original driver. They took me on for on the road training.

The long story is...

I was working in a crappy childcare position then saw a job advertised outside the bus garage wanting driver's and willing to train free. As I have a bus that I've made into a motorhome I figured some training might make driving it less daunting.

So I joined and had training, passed my CDL. Then I was assigned to be with the one driver as a codriver. We switch. One looks after the kids while the other drives.

So, I'm as good as the other driver who now screams at me every time I make a slip. Last time that included badmouthing me to everybody in sight.

In fact, I think I'm better because I try to keep the speedo between 0 and +3. The other driver is consistently +5 to +10 (maybe more when I can't see the speedo).

I'm being constantly berated for not being fast enough and earn praise only if I'm +5 and that's where I get stressed. It's wrong, it's dangerous and I'm yelled at if I don't do it.


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Re: Stressed
« Reply #6 on: February 25, 2017, 05:56:23 pm »
It's a shame your county sheriff or police won't pull over a school bus driver doing 5 or more miles over the posted limit. Is this nimrod retiring, perhaps?
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« Reply #7 on: February 25, 2017, 05:58:02 pm »
It's a shame your county sheriff or police won't pull over a school bus driver doing 5 or more miles over the posted limit. Is this nimrod retiring, perhaps?
Yup. In 3 months

I was on the interstate doing 45-50 in the school bus, another was doing 55-60. A police car was behind and didn't pull either of us over despite it being illegal to do over 45 on a School run!

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Re: Stressed
« Reply #8 on: February 25, 2017, 06:54:05 pm »
Speedometers can be off and one in my car reads 2-3 miles per hour fast at some speeds. Often the police will allow 5 miles per hour over the limit to allow for the speedometer error which means I could do as much as 8 miles per hour over the limit before getting a ticket. I obey the speed limit all the time so often I end up with people behind me who want me to move faster.

A GPS unit often can be used to check your speed as many have a speedometer as one of the functions.
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Re: Stressed
« Reply #9 on: February 26, 2017, 06:16:41 pm »
Oh well, back to work tomorrow. It's going to be challenging dealing with the speed demon for the next few months.


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