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Re: Restroom Design - All Gender
« Reply #20 on: December 01, 2017, 11:35:41 am »
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4) Most of the people freaking out in the bathroom debate seem to be men.

I'm sorry that you were intimidated in a male rest room.

I haven't seen any statistics or enough news stories to agree with your statement that most of the people "freaking out" are men.  Most politicians are men, so most speakers in public debates are probably going to be men.  Also, the Snopes Dot Com website has identified a number of fake news stories about male police or security guards overreacting when trans women use female facilities.  Perhaps that has caused a perception that it is mostly males who object.

There are plenty of cis women who are unhappy when they learn that a trans woman is using their facilities, as can be found by Googling

"Morganna Snow, 24, was banned from using the women's loo after up to 20 clubbers reportedly said they were 'uncomfortable' sharing the facilities with her"

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"Female guard accused of hate crime after forcing transgender woman out of ladies' lavatory".


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« Reply #21 on: December 01, 2017, 02:06:41 pm »
People are always going to see us by what we have between our legs instead of between our ears. That kind of tells me where their minds are. ;)

Even posing as a guy sometimes and using the men's room a while back, there were plenty of Glory holes between the stalls and I have been hit on and one time almost raped in a rest area in the middle of the night.

The whole debate is kind of crazy. One side claims that I am a freak yet would probably get raped in the middle of the night while wearing makeup, heels and hair. So why can't I sit and pee again while wearing a skirt, heels and makeup? Well I can most times if not all. Even sitting to pee some woman always seemed to walk in and sit in the stall next to me and commence with grunting. ::) Truck drivers ya' know? I do not poop in public. Driving I would shower everyday and then do that business in private.

As a trans woman people should be able to used the restroom of their choice but I would be kind of scared of someone next to me standing to pee. Are they MTF in a Ladies' room? Even at home I sit to pee. I hate when guys splash and yes when I was younger even have used men's rooms and standing??? Urine is so corrosive and I will splash. :embarrassed:

But I will say to all you girls while presenting use the ladies' room or pee outside behind a tree. If you are dressed and use a the men's room then you are either inviting trouble or violation. But even with me don't want to use the ladies' room dressed as a guy and vice versa. Hell as a guy and looking feminine you may even face crap or potential rape. And vice versa if you are a FTM in the men's room so get one of those thingies that will allow you to pee standing up. Or sit and grunt at least for a few minutes.

Why do Cis people think that we are sexual deviants? I have never hurt a child and have never raped anyone. Yet a child molester can use the proper restroom. Gays too because they are attracted to the same genitals they have. A vagina holds no special interest for me. :embarrassed: So when I use the ladies' room all the women are safe. ::)

Jesus Christ the space between the door and the stalls? Does anyone know how many people look through those tiny slits? Instead of knocking and asking if the stall is occupied most people both men and women seem to want to look ::). But now this has mostly been truck stops so take what I said for what it is. But it gets kind of annoying if a man, woman, Trans or cis. I really try not to use public restrooms though.

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« Reply #22 on: December 02, 2017, 10:04:46 pm »
I had to pee real bad today and worked up the nerve to use the 'Ladies' for the first time! But I couldn't find it so I asked where it was, He sent me to the Unisex. It was close[whew!] so I went there, maybe next time! The bad part was it was nasty, toilet paper every where and piss on the seat :(. I have a bad left leg and must sit, my wet discovery sucked...  I wish women that 'hover' would learn to aim to.
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Re: Restroom Design - All Gender
« Reply #23 on: March 30, 2018, 09:58:01 am »
I have seen many places in different parts of Europe with unisex toilets and common washing up area, but ran into it for the first time here in Canada at a restaurant in Toronto last week while I was visiting. I made a point of asking for the manager and told him how happy I was! He told me this is the future and they are proud to accommodate all guests.

As for women's toilets I have found the rooms themselves to usually be much nicer but the toilets to be sometimes worse regardless of country. Reminds me in the past talking to waitresses who said the same thing in bars/pubs. Makes you wonder what these people live like at home.

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« Reply #24 on: April 03, 2018, 03:06:02 pm »
One of the really nice parts about transitioning is no longer having to go into a bathroom used by men who pee on the seat, the commode and the floor in front of the commode and even across the floor. I hate multi-gender bathrooms as a solution. Women's Rooms are also a nice way to get away from male energy for a few minutes. . .

Women's rooms are not much different. A lot of women stand to pee over the seat because they don't want to sit on it. I always carry a small can of Lysol in my purse to disinfect the seat.

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« Reply #25 on: April 21, 2018, 09:13:14 pm »
This is one of the things I don’t look forward to if I transition.  I never realized there were “glory holes.”  Now I know to look out for them.  What an informative thread!  Thanks everyone?

Also, that all gender design looks pretty good to me.
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« Reply #26 on: May 03, 2018, 09:58:14 pm »
I have been in men's rooms when cis women presenting as women have entered and used one of the stalls and washed at the sink afterwards. They were not approached or even touched and were never in any danger.  Why can't the same be true for a cis male using the female restroom?

Better than that, why can't we just have all multi-user unisex public restrooms with private stalls and a common sink area?
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« Reply #27 on: May 13, 2018, 06:03:12 pm »
That makes perfect sense to me.  I think it's because of prejudiced people who want to be able to continue to discriminate under the guise of "safety."
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Re: Restroom Design - All Gender
« Reply #29 on: August 27, 2018, 11:09:40 pm »
Ooh, I like the design in that article.

Regular public restrooms are terrible. Why would I want to do my business in a place where everyone can see and hear everything I do?

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« Reply #30 on: August 31, 2018, 09:03:04 am »
The thing you are forgetting...money. Redesigning and adding new bathrooms costs money. People can't just flip a switch and magically generate bathrooms so bigots and transwomen can feel more comfortable.

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« Reply #31 on: August 31, 2018, 09:17:51 am »
The thing you are forgetting...money. Redesigning and adding new bathrooms costs money. People can't just flip a switch and magically generate bathrooms so bigots and transwomen can feel more comfortable.


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Re: Restroom Design - All Gender
« Reply #32 on: August 31, 2018, 11:37:15 pm »
Haha, I like that clip.

That said, I do like most of the gender neutral bathroom designs I've seen, not because they're gender neutral, but because they are designed with privacy in mind. If any of the public spaces I use installed bathrooms like that, I'd be very happy.

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« Reply #33 on: September 01, 2018, 12:01:37 am »
I live in a country where tgs are accepted by society. However, no female or passable tg, I know, wishes to have a unisex restroom facilities. As tgs who have used male facilities and female facilities, we know that there is a great difference in restroom behavior between male and female. Women so often use the bathroom as a social gathering place and a place to just be away from agressive men and those leering looks. So many females just enter restrooms to relax and get away from bothersome men.

Its a big  NO from me. I am so glad we do not even need to initiate this debate here.
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Re: Restroom Design - All Gender
« Reply #34 on: September 01, 2018, 03:16:30 pm »
I don't know what country you're from, but it sounds like transgender people are accepted enough there that no one questions the right for transgender people to use the restroom of their true gender, in which case gender-neutral restrooms aren't really necessary or a notable improvement.

In the U.S, it's relatively likely that a female restroom patron will complain that there's a "man" in her restroom if she sees a mannish-looking woman, and will confront them about it or get the local security involved. This happens to both transgender and cisgender women. If that happens, there's not really a way for the accused individual to prove that they're a woman, rendering the whole idea of gendered restrooms pretty pointless since it's impossible to tell with certainty what gender someone is without some sort of incredibly invasive and inappropriate check.

Gendered restrooms only work when practically 100% of the population voluntarily go along with them, and don't complain about about the sorts of other people who choose to use the same restroom they do. Once people start using restrooms opposite of their assigned birth sex and others complain, it becomes clear that gendered restrooms are unenforceable. So while they may work wherever you live since it seems that cisgender don't make a fuss about transgender women using their restroom, I don't see any other solution for the U.S.

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