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Offline Draculess

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Employment Discrimination
« on: April 19, 2017, 01:30:06 pm »
So I guess I just want to vent a little about this and give others the space to do the same and relate how they deal with this or advice etc,. Anyway, yeah, ever since I came out as transsexual woman it's been virtually impossible to get hired anywhere. I'm not like horribly unpassable or anything and plenty of the jobs I apply to it wouldn't matter anyhow. I maintained a low-paying job (substantially less than minimum wage) that I got in high school from my ex for quite a while, but I had to leave when I moved. I actually moved from a small rural Illinois town to a place in the suburbs in hopes it would be easier to find a job, but nothing really changed. Then I had to move back anyway.

I haven't legally changed my name yet, so a lot of the time I've presented male in interviews, but this makes me incredibly uncomfortable and doesn't seem to change the response much as I don't really pass as male anyhow, but I did it for a long time because friends and family recommended I do so. If anything I feel like things go over better when I apply with my real name and only give my legal name when it becomes necessary.

I've had a variety of responses. Once this restaurant said they were hiring when we talked on the phone and then when I came in person they said they hadn't been looking for anyone. Most frequently, places just give really evasive answers when I follow up or the interview will go well and then I never hear from them again. They are usually polite and accepting to my face, but it's often very obvious they have no intention to hire me.

One of the most frustrating things about it is that cis people don't remotely comprehend the degree to which this is a problem. They'll flat tell me to get a job like I'm lazy or something when I'm searching for employment fervently. I remember when I first became homeless my friend's mother very condescendingly said I should look into getting a full-time job. I honestly kind of felt like slapping her across the face. Like thanks, Sherlock, I hadn't thought of that. Or they'll talk about how that type of discrimination doesn't exist anymore and how their gay friend has a job ( ::) totally the same thing) and it's illegal for them to discriminate, which of course it is, but that doesn't change the fact they indeed do it. I deeply resent someone telling me about an experience they inherently wouldn't know anything about.

so, yes, the whole situation drives me up the damn wall. I definitely want to leave Illinois, I'm just dealing with some legal stuff currently. what are some of your experiences?

Offline RobynD

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Re: Employment Discrimination
« Reply #1 on: April 19, 2017, 01:38:01 pm »
Sorry that is happening to you. I've heard others say similar things at times but i have also seen others go on to have great careers. Two thoughts: Try and find other trans folks in business and employ and see if you can get in to their company etc. When all seems hopeless go into your own business or do consulting in your chosen field. If food service is your thing for instance, get a permit to bake and sell cakes and learn how to decorate them etc. A big part of my drive to go freelance which ultimately resulted in my business was because i knew that as i feminized, employers could struggle with it.

English teaching in some countries like China and Japan is almost an assured job if you have any education at all. I knew a guy with a journalism degree that ended up doing it. Some of those countries are friendly or at least accepting to trans people.

I know not everyone sees such solutions as viable, just some thoughts.

Offline Rambler

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Re: Employment Discrimination
« Reply #2 on: April 26, 2017, 03:49:27 pm »
Try researching companies with LGBT inclusionary policies. Many advertise their policies in the employment section of websites.
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Re: Employment Discrimination
« Reply #3 on: April 26, 2017, 04:33:01 pm »
What besides your being trans add to your resume? Are you in college? Do your co workers accept you. Are you trying to get a job at one of these companies  This list was from the Human Rights Campaign. If a common job. Play up getting along, loving to help people, courtesy, initiative for improvement, highlight responsibility. When fighting for a common job, those not requiring an education. You are competing against many people with the same limited education . When applying for a skilled position you are competing against much fewer applicants. All with bona fides that warrant employment. In these types of jobs you need to focus on teamwork, constant improvement, what you can contribute to the bottom line. Bosses may not understand gender but I guarantee they know about money. Good luck and don't lose hope. What is harder coming out or going to a job interview?
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