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Offline Alanna1990

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One of those days..
« on: April 27, 2017, 05:53:33 pm »
A looong tiring day coming, you've been warned.

So you see... today is one of those days, no doubt, I wake up super late and feeling very ill, when I finally have the strength to get off the bed I do what I usually do, take my pills and turn on my computer, I have to fix it so I can work, while I do some stuff on the system I log into facebook, and what do I find? just the sickest, meanest inbox I've ever read. It was an endless barrage of the most disgusting words one could ever write, from a fake profile, why? well, some days ago a guy said a lot of junk to one of my friends and I defended her, so friends of this guy have been attacking me on facebook, through fake profiles so "nobody" knows who's doing it.

After reading all those "kind" words (not), I just report the fake profile, I don't even accept the inbox so they don't notice I read all that, I keep on watching my newsfeed on facebook and make some comments on some of the news, it was about some illegal inmigrants and stuff, not important. I also make a comment that I don't like the "hipster lumberjack" style men have nowadays on a meme's page.

Anyways, trying to relax from the barrage of insults I just read I went to take a bath, the hot water works miracles when you're stressed, a second bath with skin cream with a little massage for further relaxation, just prettying myself up a little, I bet you can understand that feeling :), then I go back to my computer because I still need to fix it, and also I went back to facebook.

So what do I find when I log back in?, in the news this guy said that I was a "malincho" (despective male term for somebody who hates their own people) I'm like, "I just said that people should go there legally, it's a crime to not respect other countries laws you know?", wrote that and immediately this other guy says the same "malincho" thing all Caps alongside other "kind" words (not).

And my comment about the hipster lumberjack was answered by a guy saying I have a mustache... to the same picture I have as profile pic here.

Right now I'm like, holy baby jesus, what did I do today, I'm at the edge of laughing and crying at the same time, I'm trying really hard to put a happy face and keep on rolling, I look myself at the mirror with my cute clothes and makeup and feel very very cute, but the HRT has been making me feel down lately, and reading all that mean stuff in such a short amount of time is very stressful...  :(

Anyways, I hope you're feeling better and having a better day than me.

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Re: One of those days..
« Reply #1 on: April 27, 2017, 06:04:34 pm »
First of all, I'm sorry to hear about your rough day.  Unfortunately on the world of the internet, with the still relative anonymity of it, people still feel empowered to behave this way.  More and more I'm starting to believe that social media is something I need to lessen my involvement with. By participating in social media, we basically hand over a certain degree of power to perfect strangers to ruin our day, cause us stress, or build our anxiety.  Just as you've experienced in the events you describe here.

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Re: One of those days..
« Reply #2 on: April 27, 2017, 06:12:56 pm »
First of all, I'm sorry to hear about your rough day.  Unfortunately on the world of the internet, with the still relative anonymity of it, people still feel empowered to behave this way.  More and more I'm starting to believe that social media is something I need to lessen my involvement with. By participating in social media, we basically hand over a certain degree of power to perfect strangers to ruin our day, cause us stress, or build our anxiety.  Just as you've experienced in the events you describe here.

Yes, I've been thinking that too, It's just that I don't have many friends IRL (or on the web for that matter) and the only place I can find them is on Facebook, I might as well completely stop making comments since there's not a single time I make a comment that somebody pops out of nowhere and tries to say something mean.

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Re: One of those days..
« Reply #3 on: April 27, 2017, 07:09:11 pm »
It's sad but unfortunately social media allows people to make comments online that they wouldn't normally make in person because they're hiding behind the relative safety of their computers. I have as of late been avoiding Facebook because sometimes it's just overwhelming.


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Re: One of those days..
« Reply #4 on: April 28, 2017, 01:53:06 am »
Really sorry for what you've been going through.

Once upon a time, many years ago, I had a Facebook account... for a couple of months, anyways. I soon discovered that it wasn't my thing. I'm a relatively introverted woman, but I still prefer my very scarce but solid real-world friendships than the tens of superficial Facebook "friendships". I don't criticize Facebookers, but when you start suffering with something, rather than enjoying it, in my book it's time for a sanity check and for questioning if it wouldn't be a good idea to get back to just plain old-fashioned eye-on-eye friendship... My two cents. 😞

If you want people to know your status, you may consider creating a blog with the option to only accept comments from some subscribers (filtered by you) - I found its maintenance to be a little more time-consuming than FB's, but it's much more your "little personal space" than FB. With the added bonus that you won't have to deal with bullies. I just started my own blog, but it's not public yet...

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Re: One of those days..
« Reply #5 on: April 28, 2017, 09:05:11 am »
Hi Alanna,

  I have to agree with you, that was one rough day online. I hope you have a whole lot better days today.

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   Laura or Jeanette.. maybe I don't know who I am...

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Re: One of those days..
« Reply #6 on: April 28, 2017, 11:35:17 am »
Hi Alanna,

  I have to agree with you, that was one rough day online. I hope you have a whole lot better days today.

 Hugs,
   Laura or Jeanette.. maybe I don't know who I am...


It was, today seems better though, I just wish I could get rid of my insomnia, it's making me feel sooo tired.

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Re: One of those days..
« Reply #7 on: April 28, 2017, 11:58:07 am »

It was, today seems better though, I just wish I could get rid of my insomnia, it's making me feel sooo tired.

 I use audio books at night to distract the squirrels in my head. It works well for me usually, with it I falls asleep very quickly so quickly that I frequently have to start at the same place as I did the night before. Unless I get to a good part that grabs my attention and then sleep is but a memory.
  Go get some sleep girl.

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   Laurie, Laura, Jeanette?

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