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felixtemin

Hi All,
So here goes...
I am happier now, more than ever before, but also anxious.

I am an intersex person, mosaic, I have a mix of male, female, and klinefelter's cells in my body.
It is soooo obvious now, but how could I, or anyone else have missed how I looked, acted and felt.
But at the same time ..... "You're tall, go and play rugby! etc....."

I am 42 and look male (mostly),  for medical reasons I had a bilateral orchiectomy (nov 2016), for possible neoplasms, and well ...rampaging hormones etc.... (actually ovotestes)
I grew breasts in about 3 weeks (almost a B cup) all by myself.

I was given the choice of hormones to take, and after a very unhappy (but short time) switched from T to E. I knew I wanted to, I knew it was right.
This was, and is the biggest and best choice I have made in my life, and given that I have a fair proportion of female only tissue, the changes are amazingly fast.
My brain loves E, I can be so calm.

Boobs are a solid B; thighs, hips and bum are getting soft and curvy.
I am having electrolysis, and I think very slowly my face is changing.
Planning on getting full SRS, not to be a women, but to be as feminine as possible.
Feminine is not to be confused with effeminate. I guess I would be an Intersex "Male" transitioning to Intersex NB female.?!

So here are my list of questions, (Would like to hear form a full male moving to female preferably someone old 40+)

• While on HRT how much did your face change shape? How long did it take?
• The estrogen makes me Horny, and I get great erections (better than before), does everyone loose their ability to get an erection in the end? (not that it matters as it will be gone soon)
• My scrotal and penile skin is sticky/mucousy, is that happening to anyone else?
• Stimulation internally (anal) is amazing and if I concentrate I can orgasm inside vs penile, and get a whole body response.
... after SRS does this still happen, or change?
• How does your new clit feel, in relation to your penis? Phantom erection ?
• Is it easy to achieve orgasm with mastibation?
• I like my shape, does anyone have tips on getting a smaller waist?
• After SRS what is vaginal penetration like?
Painful, similar to anal? Is there pleasure from the rubbing of the inverted penis skin or is the pleasure from the prostate being stimulated.
• I love they way my thighs and ass feel, especially when this area rubs against itself. Does that still feel good after SRS?
• Do you "bottom out" during sex, and does it hurt?
• I have seen some great SRS and some not so great. Are there always scars with the inverted method?
• Tell me about sex after SRS. With a guy or a girl.
 I am deeply fascinated to know how it all works and feels. Vogue interviews are not specific enough... detail please.

• Has anyone seen results of Dr.Dugi? Aesthetically is he producing good results?

Love to you all

Felix.




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So here are my list of questions

I was in my early 30s when I transitioned, and am now almost 50.

• While on HRT how much did your face change shape? How long did it take?

My face didn't change much at all with hormones.  Mostly it improved my skin.  It was facial surgery that really was profound.

• I like my shape, does anyone have tips on getting a smaller waist?


Other than keeping fit and working the core abdominal muscles to keep them tight, I'd recommend waist-training with a corset.

• The estrogen makes me Horny, and I get great erections (better than before), does everyone loose their ability to get an erection in the end? (not that it matters as it will be gone soon)
• My scrotal and penile skin is sticky/mucousy, is that happening to anyone else?
• Stimulation internally (anal) is amazing and if I concentrate I can orgasm inside vs penile, and get a whole body response.
... after SRS does this still happen, or change?
• How does your new clit feel, in relation to your penis? Phantom erection ?
• Is it easy to achieve orgasm with mastibation?
• After SRS what is vaginal penetration like?
Painful, similar to anal? Is there pleasure from the rubbing of the inverted penis skin or is the pleasure from the prostate being stimulated.
• I love they way my thighs and ass feel, especially when this area rubs against itself. Does that still feel good after SRS?
• Do you "bottom out" during sex, and does it hurt?
• I have seen some great SRS and some not so great. Are there always scars with the inverted method?
• Tell me about sex after SRS. With a guy or a girl.

I didn't get horny on E, and I thank the Goddess for that, as having it all wrong downstairs made me very dysphoric.  But I could still make it all work, and did once a month just so I wouldn't lose tissue or sensation.  Never had mucousy stuff going on. 

I can get whole body orgasms from vaginal penetration, but it took a while (many months) with a regular sex partner after SRS to get there.  It's very easy to orgasm by my own hand, clitorally.  My clit feels like a clit, but inside my body right under my clit (actually at the dorsal base of it) the sensation of arousal is reminiscent of the before times.  Vaginal intercourse doesn't feel like anal at all, imo, except perhaps the feeling of being filled up.  I feel pleasure from my vaginal interior being simply touched as well as from special spots receiving attention; those pleasures are different, but complementary.  (All this depends on being aroused in the first place, otherwise it's just annoying.)   

The only difference of how my thighs and ass feel is if I'm dripping wet, which can make those areas slippery but which soon leads to chafing.  There is more feeling between my thighs than before, I believe, simply because I'm configured a bit differently now, and can now easily walk with my legs together. 

I've been bottomed out during sex, and it both hurt and felt great at the same, but I'm a masochist so take that with a grain of salt.  I have scars, but they are positioned alongside my inner labia and so really aren't visible. 

I've had sex with both guys and girls since SRS, and it's definitely been the guys who tickled my fancy.  I've found it immensely rewarding, both physically and psychologically.  Physically, what I found so striking the day after my first time was how sore I felt, sore and open.  The actual feeling of sex is hard to describe!  For me, at least, it seems more like the nerves behind the vaginal lining are what's really being stimulated, rather than surface of the tissue.  Being opened up really makes me feel, well, open.  Receptive, even when squeezing my Kegel muscles.   

I can say I love getting face much more than I ever did.  It's multi-orgasmic better!

Psychologically, heterosexual intercourse (all with non-disclosure) has been one of the most affirming things I've ever experienced.  That first time, I feel like I learned more in five minutes (actually, he went about an hour and a half) than I had in the previous five years.  And what I learned was not just about myself. 

All my best,
Sophie
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Has anyone seen results of Dr.Dugi? Aesthetically is he producing good results?

Not seen any results, but I believe this is Dr Dugi.

https://karenpayneblog.com/2016/08/15/bad-surgery-story/

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I'm pre-op but I'll answer what I can.
BTW- After I came out to my wife/gf of some 30 years she fessed up that the first time she saw me naked her first thought was Klinefelter's Syndrome. I eventually looked it up, saw a picture and.... "Hey, that's my body"

• While on HRT how much did your face change shape? How long did it take?
I had the nick name of Baby Face since I was a teen. A few years back I wound up returning to work for a company I was was at 10-12 years earlier. Everyone was amazed how I had not changed a bit. (at least the bits they can see  ;D )

• The estrogen makes me Horny, and I get great erections (better than before), does everyone loose their ability to get an erection in the end? (not that it matters as it will be gone soon)
Having been on/off low dose E a few times I can say that the kick ass AA I was on pretty much put an end to erections after the first few weeks. My T level also started to reside in the sub-basement and also the gift of no longer stinking like a guy.

• My scrotal and penile skin is sticky/mucousy, is that happening to anyone else?
From tucking and especially nylon panties in my case.

• Stimulation internally (anal) is amazing and if I concentrate I can orgasm inside vs penile, and get a whole body response.
... after SRS does this still happen, or change?

Once I allowed my self to enjoy it, I could  ;D
Knowing very well a post-op woman I can tell you anal became off-limits. She now had the proper plumbing and intended to make sure it got used. Anal pre-op was only because it was the only option available.

• How does your new clit feel, in relation to your penis? Phantom erection ?
• Is it easy to achieve orgasm with mastibation?
• After SRS what is vaginal penetration like?

Again I can report for her, different and nice. She also soon started to have the best leg shaking orgasms ever.

• I like my shape, does anyone have tips on getting a smaller waist?
As a former fatty, "Hard Work". No really. Lots of grueling physical activity helped a lot. Portion control has always been my key to weight loss and maintenance. My wife claims I also still eat too fast that my brain hasn't caught up with what my stomach is.  Lay off the carbs and the booze. Try to stay far away from anything that comes in a can, bottle, or box. Just about everything has HFCSS and salt that you don't prep and cook yourself.

• Do you "bottom out" during sex, and does it hurt?
• I have seen some great SRS and some not so great. Are there always scars with the inverted method?

It depends what's there to start with.... and of course your partner  ;) Yes, there was some scaring but it mostly faded away. Perhaps techniques are better these days. I'm going back almost 30 years.
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felixtemin

Many thanks for all the info.
This is all very affirming.

Aloha


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I am nine months post-op with Dr. Dugi and I will highly recommend him. There are pictures of my Vaginoplasty results on my website