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Offline AliyahL

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« on: September 15, 2017, 01:31:07 pm »
I just called my PCP's office to reschedule an appointment, and she called me "sir" three times. I didn't correct her because I was in a hurry and wanted to get off the phone, but it was frustrating and discouraging. I didn't get the impression she was doing it deliberately; she was friendly and helpful the entire time. Still, I'm tired of this happening. My counselor tells me that my voice sounds female, but I still get misgendered on the phone. My husband tells me that my voice sounds higher sometimes and lower sometimes, like it goes up and down in pitch. This makes me so self conscious when I'm out in public, and there aren't any voice therapists anywhere in my state. Does anyone else deal with this? How do you handle it?

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Re: Voice?
« Reply #1 on: September 15, 2017, 06:39:34 pm »
There are voice therapist who work by Skype and I am willing to help people on the site though I haven't received any professional training other than what I  learned from my therapist. One of the tips would be to give your feminine name and make sure you put all your effort into the first few sentences. The human brain gender the voice quickly and once it does, it will continue to carry that into the rest of the conversation. You can also post your voice sample in the voice section and we will evaluate it and tell you where the problem is.

In therapy, you do most of the work but the therapist has a trained ear and tells you where the problems are and how to correct them. Often a voice has a few issues that need to be corrected to sound feminine so a limited amount of therapy may be all that's required.
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