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Offline Angelic

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Do girls get called man online?
« on: September 16, 2018, 07:37:32 pm »
Okay so, a buddy of mine, said something along the lines of, "Here's the website, man".

It kind of irritated me but, I try to keep my cool.

I am wondering, if I make a fuss will it prove I am a male? Because I imagine, if a chick online someone said that to them, they wouldn't make a fuss about it. And that "cool" chicks get called man. But I'm not sure, so I made this thread.

Also, I never actually told him what gender I am, I figure neutral will be best of both worlds.
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Re: Do girls get called man online?
« Reply #1 on: September 17, 2018, 12:11:06 am »
By looking at your example the use of "man" is not really gender related. A lot of people, including cis gender woman, will use the word "man" in this sample.

It bothered me a little at the beginning until I realized they weren't referring to me or any one else in that matter. It's just a expression just like "honey" is used sometimes without actually meaning you are their honey. :)
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Re: Do girls get called man online?
« Reply #2 on: September 17, 2018, 12:52:41 am »
Yeah agree, I think it just kind of interjection :)
Many cis women call themselves bro sometimes in jokingly manner and ok when others call them same.
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Re: Do girls get called man online?
« Reply #3 on: September 17, 2018, 05:24:32 pm »
Could it be just a regional thing? Where I live, guys call each other "bro", and only "man" when they are upset. Women are "miss", or "ma'am". I never see a guy finishing a line with "man" to a woman, even online.
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Re: Do girls get called man online?
« Reply #4 on: September 17, 2018, 05:42:29 pm »
Could it be just a regional thing? Where I live, guys call each other "bro", and only "man" when they are upset. Women are "miss", or "ma'am". I never see a guy finishing a line with "man" to a woman, even online.

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"Hey girl," or "see you later girl", is the usual beginning or ending line in real life casual conversation or in texts, emails and thread posts with a woman acquaintance and in most cases with a stranger unless more formality is called for then "miss" or "ma'am" is sometimes used.... at least in most encounters that I am involved in.
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Re: Do girls get called man online?
« Reply #5 on: September 17, 2018, 05:43:57 pm »
I know several people who, online, call literally everyone "man". Regardless of gender. It's just how they speak.

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I am wondering, if I make a fuss will it prove I am a male? Because I imagine, if a chick online someone said that to them, they wouldn't make a fuss about it. And that "cool" chicks get called man. But I'm not sure, so I made this thread.

It really depends on the person. I know some women online go out of their way to assert their womanhood at every possible opportunity. But some don't. Some make a giant deal of it, and are quick to correct anyone. But some just roll with it. I don't think it says as much about you, either way, as you might think it does, sweetie.

But then I roll in gamer circles. And online, women who play games are basically treated like unicorns. Inherent disbelief from the guys. We're supposed to like fashion and flower arranging. So a lot of us feel the need to assert ourselves at every opportunity. Personally I don't really care. But I know a lot of women do.
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Re: Do girls get called man online?
« Reply #6 on: September 17, 2018, 05:44:59 pm »
then of course if someone is addressing a group of guys and girls, men and women, then one could say "hey guys",,,  "see you later guys"   "are all of you guys coming to the party."  etc, etc.
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Re: Do girls get called man online?
« Reply #7 on: September 17, 2018, 08:03:31 pm »
I think the use of ''man'' there is just a substitution. You can remove it and still make sense... I see it very often in my online communities and most of the time it ain't gender related.  ;)

In fact, I get mistaken as a girl online from the way I write!  :D It's very flattering!

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Re: Do girls get called man online?
« Reply #8 on: September 18, 2018, 11:46:10 am »
By looking at your example the use of "man" is not really gender related. A lot of people, including cis gender woman, will use the word "man" in this sample.

It bothered me a little at the beginning until I realized they weren't referring to me or any one else in that matter. It's just a expression just like "honey" is used sometimes without actually meaning you are their honey. :)

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Could it be just a regional thing? Where I live, guys call each other "bro", and only "man" when they are upset. Women are "miss", or "ma'am". I never see a guy finishing a line with "man" to a woman, even online.
Miss or ma'am, implies a Western chivalry, of putting someone else higher than you. Like a man getting on his knee demonstrating subservience to a female.

Online, post people would not call a buddy "ma'am", it is too formal anyway.

But yes, a customer service representative, of a business, would call someone "ma'am" because, they are in a position of subservience, to treat the customer on a pedestal.


@Lady Sarah:

"Hey girl," or "see you later girl", is the usual beginning or ending line in real life casual conversation or in texts, emails and thread posts with a woman acquaintance and in most cases with a stranger unless more formality is called for then "miss" or "ma'am" is sometimes used.... at least in most encounters that I am involved in.
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The only time I hear guys call girls "girl" is when they have a crush on them or the hots for them or something.

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Re: Do girls get called man online?
« Reply #9 on: September 18, 2018, 04:09:00 pm »
then of course if someone is addressing a group of guys and girls, men and women, then one could say "hey guys",,,  "see you later guys"   "are all of you guys coming to the party."  etc, etc.

In that context, it is far more likely for me to hear someone say y'all, instead of guys.

One context in which I could see someone finishing sentences with "man" would be a regional or generational thing, kind of like Canadians finishing a sentence with "eh". Nothing wrong with that at all. I wouldn't expect anyone to change a speaking habit all because someone might get a bit butthurt over it due to being oversensitive.
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