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Offline Julielynn

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Re: Pros and Cons, things you miss.
« Reply #20 on: January 10, 2020, 04:04:30 am »
I get it, I lasered damn near everything.  Haha  I can't stand stubble.

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Re: Pros and Cons, things you miss.
« Reply #21 on: January 10, 2020, 09:28:58 pm »
I was going to write a post here, but this captured my thoughts exactly.

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Things I will miss:
  • The queues for the toilets being empty at any event in which most people there are women
  • Being able to go to the toilet standing up easily
  • Cheap and easy haircuts
  • Being less self-conscious about my physical appearance and beauty.
  • Finding it easy to get shoes
  • Not worrying about being clocked and if so being discriminated against for being transgender.
Things I look forward to:
  • Women's fashion
  • Make-up
  • Having longer hair
  • Not being expected to be masculine
  • Living in the social world of women, which I have always felt is a far better place for me than that of men.
  • Being authentic to myself
I appreciate that other parts of the world are very different, but I don't feel that I ever had "male privilege" or ever would have done if I hadn't transitioned. I lived socially as a man, I now live socially as a woman, and I feel I am respected at least as much. I look at the men around me, and I look at the women around me, and I've never felt that the women are oppressed by comparison or that the men have some special privilege and gain more respect automatically. That may be the case in other parts of the world, but in my world it's just never something I've observed.
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Re: Pros and Cons, things you miss.
« Reply #22 on: January 15, 2020, 04:26:35 pm »
Winter has well and truly set in here in the Seattle area, and I miss being warm. I'm not cold ALL the over, but my fingers and toes feel cold pretty often.
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Re: Pros and Cons, things you miss.
« Reply #23 on: January 15, 2020, 07:48:51 pm »
The one thing I occasionally miss is that built-in pointing device. I take photos at softball tournaments, and sometimes it's pretty cold. Sitting on a stainless steel toilet, in an unheated bathroom, with temperatures in the 30's is simply torture. I am getting better at 'hovering'!

I don't miss the slight loss of upper body strength. During the holidays, one of my daughters brought her boyfriend to visit for a few days. I was trying to open a jar of something, and it was being uncooperative. I saw RJ on the couch and just gave it to him. I wasn't shy or embarrassed about it -- he's a guy, that's his job!

What do I like? Men opening doors, close friendships with other women, hugging, and just about everything else associated with being a woman. All the clothes, especially lingerie - my new favorite hangout at out at the local mall is Victoria's Secret!

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Re: Pros and Cons, things you miss.
« Reply #24 on: January 19, 2020, 09:01:56 am »
Only 2 things I miss are the cheap hair cuts and self confidence of my appearance.I don't miss shaving at all,not being masculine too and shopping for clothes taking too long.My life as Hailey,shopping for clothes is more fun and easier.Find something I like quickly and buy it.I still have my upper body strength,work out 3 days a week including lifting weights.

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Re: Pros and Cons, things you miss.
« Reply #25 on: January 19, 2020, 11:02:39 pm »
I won't miss shaving my face. I hated doing this. It always took so long and the results were short lived. Like by the end of day I'd have it growing back again. Getting it all lasered off was a major plus for me. Plus I'd say it's definitely help point people to gendering me as female.


I'll kind of miss some of the upper body strength though. I can already feel it slipping a bit. I know I'm not as strong as I used to be. It takes me more time/effort to open a jar than it used to. I can still do it, but it feels like it draws some suspicion that it takes me longer to.


Though I'd think it'd be even easier to get women's shoes than mens. I mean there's a ton of places to buy them and they have way more styles to pick from. From basic sneakers, sandals, to pumps or boots.

I will say though, having long hair can be a pain. Lots of brushing required. And if it's windy it goes in your face constantly. 

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Re: Pros and Cons, things you miss.
« Reply #26 on: January 20, 2020, 04:10:36 am »
Upper body strength loss is something that I have noticed too.


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Re: Pros and Cons, things you miss.
« Reply #27 on: January 20, 2020, 04:45:21 am »
I have experienced all the usual effects from one year of HRT, but weirdly, I have not lost any upper body strength so far. I’m still able to carry around some decently heavy things. I should note that I have always had naturally good upper body strength (always number 1 in push-ups at school growing up, despite being a scrawny kid), so I think it’s something genetic.

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Upper body strength loss is something that I have noticed too.


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Re: Pros and Cons, things you miss.
« Reply #28 on: January 20, 2020, 12:30:48 pm »
I started transitioning in my mid-twenties, so male muscle and youth get muddled for me. I do miss the strength, but some of that was simply being younger.

Here's what I enjoy: I have an owner's manual for the body I now occupy. I know what to do in social situations and I'm never shamed for choosing poorly.

Also, I was a much better teacher as a female than male.

Lastly, I get to pursue those past-times that have always interested me, like crafting and growing flowers, without raising eyebrows.

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Re: Pros and Cons, things you miss.
« Reply #29 on: January 20, 2020, 06:58:49 pm »
I buy houses off auctions, renovate them, then rent them out for a living now.   So most of the time they need new flooring so I had a pallet of hardwood flooring delivered to one lately and of course the UPS guy just had to put them at the furthest point in the yard because he got a little lazy about backing the truck in. 

So here I am pulling off all the plastic to haul each one of these bricks inside the house.  Each weighs like 75 pounds, but it's a 2800 square foot house, that means there's a heck of a lot of flooring boxes. I'm carrying in 2 at a time for the first couple, then 1 and getting tired fast.   You all would have laughed at me cursing my "stupid girl arms" by the time I hauled in the last one.   took hours.

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Re: Pros and Cons, things you miss.
« Reply #30 on: November 07, 2020, 09:36:03 pm »
Things I'd miss

Men's bathrooms (way cleaner)



Wait, mens bathrooms are cleaner!?
I wouldn’t know any different, but I find them filthy horrifying to imagine women’s rooms are worse ?!


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Pros and Cons, things you miss.
« Reply #31 on: November 08, 2020, 01:26:19 am »

Wait, mens bathrooms are cleaner!?
I wouldn’t know any different, but I find them filthy horrifying to imagine women’s rooms are worse ?!


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Well im very sceptical - I haven’t been in a men’s bathroom for about 40 months but I certainly remember when I started first using the ladies they were much cleaner and nicer. Oh how I don’t miss urinals.
I don’t miss anything at all I must confess, not a thing. I do kettlebell exercises daily so my shoulder and arm definition are actually better than my shadow self.

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Re: Pros and Cons, things you miss.
« Reply #32 on: November 08, 2020, 02:42:04 am »
In the garage I notice heavily my lack of strength.
When doing clutches most gearboxes used to be easy to lift, now it's a definite chore.
I could not lift the transfer from a discovery, I had to pry it out when on the lift and land it straight into an old welder box and styrofoam exploded everywhere lol. The things you gotta do lol
I'm just lucky I didn't miss.
That box was toast though, wasn't a gear left so I could be rough with it. Lol

Got a lend of a gearbox stand to get the new one back in.
That's a tool I really need to buy in the new year!.

Strength and sometimes the ability to not be stared at by men is things I miss.
Can get creepy some times



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« Reply #33 on: November 08, 2020, 03:08:01 am »
Pammie, I am with you on this one, I don't miss anything!  Men's bathrooms were awful for me, having to expose my male parts. I would check first if they had dividers between the urinals, and if not I would try a stall.  Stalls in men's were usually filthy as they were exclusively used for bowel movements.  What a relief to go the the women's, especially post-op!
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« Reply #34 on: November 08, 2020, 04:48:56 am »
Pammie, I am with you on this one, I don't miss anything!  Men's bathrooms were awful for me, having to expose my male parts. I would check first if they had dividers between the urinals, and if not I would try a stall.  Stalls in men's were usually filthy as they were exclusively used for bowel movements.  What a relief to go the the women's, especially post-op!



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« Reply #35 on: November 08, 2020, 05:09:21 am »
Bathrooms can be very dirty.

So much so one does not want to use it at times.

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