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Offline Sarahthenerd

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Dealing with sexism when your not presenting?
« on: September 27, 2017, 10:39:05 am »
Yesterday I was shopping with my brother for some heavy duty electrical connectors for a project of his. While we talking to the guy behind the counter he made the comment that "females were always more expensive" it was obvious the innuendo was much stronger than the actual reason we were there. To the point another customer made the comment "that's racist." While race was not even brought up.

Overall this was not enjoyable, and ultimately resulted in us leaving without spending 30 bucks each for a few connectors. Once out the door I made the comment to my brother that I wanted to be out of there three minutes earlier. I know very well that sexism is a real problem in the  construction trades. But what I'm curious about is how others deal with this kind of situation? I would love to be in a place mentally where I could confront these issues before I transition, however I'm fearful that i would out myself by speaking up. I have a lot to loose if the wrong people find out, but can't stand anymore when I don't speak up against this. How would you respond?

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Jessica Lynne

Re: Dealing with sexism when your not presenting?
« Reply #1 on: September 27, 2017, 04:20:51 pm »
You get used to it and remember being a martyr is no fun and your choice is to endanger yourself by trying to change the world or.................... you develop some very thick skin very fast  ;D

Dianne H

Re: Dealing with sexism when your not presenting?
« Reply #2 on: November 25, 2017, 10:22:48 pm »
Times have really changed over the years.
Now women have equal rights and are accepted in areas traditionally male dominated.
With these changes many have a hard time with living the trials of the opposite sex.
Women now have to put up with traditional male activity in places they never had to before.
Men now have to put up with having female bosses and such.
Whether or not this person knew or suspected, about the best thing you can do is get used to a new women's world.
Times and circumstances change and many get offended. But; women have put up with some things for many years and now men have to as well.
Trans men have to put up with what men have always put up with and trans women have to put up with what women have always had to put up with, as well as the changes.
It ain't right but as they say, it is what it is.
I wish you well.

Offline Paul Muad-Dib

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Re: Dealing with sexism when your not presenting?
« Reply #3 on: December 08, 2017, 05:54:24 pm »
The important thing is you have all the same basic rights as men when you are a woman.

You might have to listen to some guy saying women are more expensive, and I had to listen to the chick at the till in the local complaining about her husband and following it up with "all men are idiots/useless, though" loudly across the shop, and all the women present nodding and laughing in agreement. Then she'd look at me as if expecting me to agree as well because she knew I also had a male partner.

I wouldn't look too much into it. A bit of sexism in someone's opinion isn't the end of the world. If we want freedom to be what we want, we can't expect to take away other people's freedom to make daft sex-based jokes and statements. Being offended at more and more things hasn't done the West any favors lately.

Now I have to shrug and ignore the fact it's much more socially acceptable for a woman to make sweeping sexist judgements against men in this climate than it is the other way around. A woman could make a joke in a progressive boardroom meeting about useless men and nothing be said; a man doing it about women these days could get him fired.