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Re: Fiance recently came out as trans, mtf
« Reply #20 on: October 08, 2017, 06:03:01 pm »
It would help if your SO would come here and talk with us. Often we can see ourselves in others like us and it helps us understand we are not so different and what others may say applies to us. I can understand some people not wanting to come on the internet but for now I am going to give you two links to pass on that might help. The first is our WIKI that will provide a detail description of the various flavors of being transgender. The second link is “the transition channel” where a gender therapist will help explore your SOs feelings. Many find these links useful when they are in the early stages of exploring their feelings. Feel free to view them together as it can provide an eye opening view of the differences between a transgender and a CIS.
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Re: Fiance recently came out as trans, mtf
« Reply #21 on: October 23, 2017, 07:43:22 am »
Bethanyz that unknown is scary and have come to learn that myself with my SO. It's taken them time to come to terms with who they are and what to do about it. I suppose I need to open up with them more on my feelings so I'm glad to see you are with her because that is so important. Lets face it when they come out to us and things become more in focus, even when we know something is up all along, it is still a shock to us no matter how well prepared we are. Yellow Submarine this place is a great place for support. True many of us SO's don't come around, but we are here. Therapists are another huge resource so it's good to hear your going to reach out to one. Hugs
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Re: Fiance recently came out as trans, mtf
« Reply #22 on: October 24, 2017, 10:12:02 pm »
He told me on Friday night, my emotions have been all over the place. One minute I'm ok with it, the next I'm grieving for the future loss of my male partner.  I want to support him, but I'm so scared for the future. We have a 1 year old son together, we were (are?) going to be married. There doesn't seem to be much support out there for the partners of trans people.  :-\

I guess I just need someone to talk to sometimes.

Another ciswoman with an MTF girlfriend. She was already two years into transition when we met. You're in good company. Wishing you lots of support during these early days.


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Re: Fiance recently came out as trans, mtf
« Reply #23 on: November 08, 2017, 03:09:56 pm »
I wish you all the best. If it means anything, from personal experience, many  a transgender woman with a wife or CIS woman partner is only too aware of the impact of coming out.

There is no black or white, just lots of love, compromise and doing what's best for both people in a relationship.


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