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Offline Sinead

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When did you decide to start living full time?
« on: October 18, 2017, 04:33:34 pm »
Hi guys. Before even considering living as a woman full time, I want to learn how do make up, get a decent wig, learn how to pass, get laser surgery and learn how to act feminine.

I'm just curious, when did you start living full time as a woman? Did you wait until HRT? Did you do it before then? Did you wait till you passed before living as a woman full time? How long had you realised you were transgender before making the choice as living as the opposite gender full time?

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Re: When did you decide to start living full time?
« Reply #1 on: October 18, 2017, 04:59:09 pm »
Hi Nina,  I'm in the UK,  and going through the NHS GIC pretty much mandates going full-time before HRT, or at best at the same time.
I had done some facial hair removal,  but I'm still at it.
Passing is a very individual thing,  voice and mannerisms can be practiced,  but until full-time it's hard to get these fully perfected.
I made sure I could do a solid basic daily-wear makeup, and simply style my hair,  so I could look presentable and professional in my workplace.
The reality is most girls spend literally years as teenagers practicing this stuff,  we have to pick it up quick,  so identify what you might need early on and focus on that. X

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Re: When did you decide to start living full time?
« Reply #2 on: October 18, 2017, 09:05:15 pm »
    Living full time kind of sneaked up on me. I took this little road trip and had left home dressed as Laurie aka myself. I had only intended making it to Denver area in female mode as I hand been out in public more that 6 time prior to this. But by the time I returned home a month later I had changed into male clothes only twice and had met 9 wonderful sisters from Susan's along the way. As I got closer to home I could think of no good reason to resume my pseudo male life. I count my full time date as the last time I changed out of male clothing on June 26, 2017.

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Re: When did you decide to start living full time?
« Reply #3 on: October 18, 2017, 09:12:20 pm »
I consider my fist day at work as Tamara, the day I went full time.

It was liberating to go to work and be called my new name and pro nouns and to be able to go to work as me.

Ironically I’m terrible with dates but it was Mid August this year (2017)


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Re: When did you decide to start living full time?
« Reply #4 on: October 18, 2017, 09:21:38 pm »
I just kind of gradually eased into full time. I went from male to androgynous to female within one year. It just happened and people started calling me Miss  more often than not. I really cannot give you a single date.



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Re: When did you decide to start living full time?
« Reply #5 on: October 19, 2017, 07:00:29 am »
I went full time as soon as I finished high school. I had already been on hrt for a year. I didn't have to learn female behavior because it's just my nature. But before I transitioned, female behavior caused me a lot of grief!
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Re: When did you decide to start living full time?
« Reply #6 on: October 19, 2017, 07:23:06 am »
Hi Nina

I went fulltime about 6 or so months earlier than I had planned...I had been on HRT about 8 months. I was attending anywhere I thought of as a "safe space" as Liz. These were places like my Psych and Psychologist, My Specialist Dr and my GP as examples.

I very quickly got tired of flip flopping presentations depending on who I was out to and where I was going. So I talked it over with my wife and we both agreed I may as well finish coming out and then go fulltime, but to make sure I sorted out my Name changes out before hand and had some legal ID.

I wasn't great with makeup nor fashion, nor voice but all those things I have worked on. I can now do my basic makeup in about 30 minutes to a level that is certainly reasonable but continues to improve. My voice is good enough for to make a difference now

Passing requires context, where do you want to pass? Being examined by a Dr or sitting in your car waiting to the lights to change. Are you thinking late night partying at a nightclub or going to the supermarket to buy bread and milk....

Whilst it is the toughest thing I have ever done in my life the rewards make it all well worth it. Good luck in whatever you decide to do.
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Re: When did you decide to start living full time?
« Reply #7 on: October 19, 2017, 11:00:10 am »
...I'm just curious, when did you start living full time as a woman?

At age 53.

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Did you wait until HRT? Did you do it before then?

I started HRT at 55, I had used herbals for a few years before that.

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Did you wait till you passed before living as a woman full time?

I can't really answer that, I'm non-binary.

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How long had you realised you were transgender before making the choice as living as the opposite gender full time?

About eight years.
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Re: When did you decide to start living full time?
« Reply #8 on: October 19, 2017, 08:19:51 pm »
Did you wait until HRT?
Yes, I was 3 months on HRT when I went full-time.
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Did you wait till you passed before living as a woman full time?
No.  I don't pass, and probably won't ever.
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How long had you realised you were transgender before making the choice as living as the opposite gender full time?
A bit more than a year.
2015-07-04 Awakening; 2015-11-15 Out to self; 2016-06-22 Out to wife; 2016-10-27 First time presenting in public; 2017-01-20 Started HRT!!; 2017-04-20 Out publicly, beginning full-time; 2017-07-10 Legal name change

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Re: When did you decide to start living full time?
« Reply #9 on: October 19, 2017, 08:32:02 pm »
I went f/t as soon as l had fully recovered from srs. By then l had been of heavy doses of female hormones for about two years.  Prior to my srs l was masquerading male.

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Re: When did you decide to start living full time?
« Reply #10 on: October 20, 2017, 08:26:16 am »
I timed it with FFS surgery and having completed roughly 120 hours of electrolysis on my face. By that point I could go from week to week without needing to put a razor on my face. Reality dealt me a serious blow when at the time of going full time I was fired from my job, but I went ahead with everything anyways. The next day I filed my name change in court and moved up my FFS date since I had plenty of time. A few weeks later I was changing all of my documentation. That was full time to me, the day when I left the past in the dust.

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Re: When did you decide to start living full time?
« Reply #11 on: October 20, 2017, 10:07:16 am »
I went full time about 8 months after starting HRT. During those months I went from male, to effeminate guy/ androgyne. People started gendering me female, and most of my family already knew. On last new year's eve I came out to what was left of my family and changed my Facebook name. I've been living as Lis since then.
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Re: When did you decide to start living full time?
« Reply #12 on: October 20, 2017, 12:20:53 pm »
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    ...I'm just curious, when did you start living full time as a woman?

At 60

   
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Did you wait until HRT? Did you do it before then?

Started HRT at 59, I went full time 8 months later.

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    Did you wait till you passed before living as a woman full time?

No

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    How long had you realized you were transgender before making the choice as living as the opposite gender full time?

40 years.

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Re: When did you decide to start living full time?
« Reply #13 on: October 20, 2017, 04:42:46 pm »
TBH sort of full time since the wife kicked me out beginning of this year, only worn male clothes once to my grandsons Christening . Off course being old and bald no way of passing but its taken me 50 years to get here and almost starting to go full time as Davina (waiting for decent wigs and name change) but not expecting to pass ever but to old to give a s**t now. Maybe in4 years after HRT and GRS  for when I retire . Lots of older females around here look manish and look like they have raided there husbands wardrobe
a long time coming (out)


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