Faith, this comment "...Anyways, she told them that no way she wanted me to go back to the way that I was. She much prefers the current me that treats her with respect and as an equal. The thing is, I always respected her and felt her equal, better even in a lot of ways. BUT, my actions due to being a crappy person didn't allow that to show" really rings true. I can look back and see that just maybe I wasn't as nice as I thought I was. With the fog of T gone, I have worked diligently to rectify that and as with your Lori, my wife sees a vast improvement. Through all the pain, something good does come about!