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Re: Jess’s mess
« Reply #660 on: October 12, 2018, 03:17:51 pm »
I hope everything goes well for you Jessica! I know how alarming not being able to breathe can be. I have battled with Asthma for most of my life. As you mentioned something about extra tissue on one side of your vocal cords, hopefully your doctor can get a better look at it this time.

Warm hugs! Stay positive!
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Re: Jess’s mess
« Reply #661 on: October 12, 2018, 04:35:38 pm »
Made me emotional reading this so best wishes and a giant hug dear.
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Re: Jess’s mess
« Reply #662 on: October 12, 2018, 05:11:09 pm »
Quote from: Jessica on October 11, 2018, 08:42:08 pm

My dear friend that abandoned Jessica has done just that, I am crushed.

My upcoming surgery on my vocal cord has me concerned on a major front.  The ability to clear my throat as often as I need will be curtailed to zilch.  This will cause untold stress on me.

Hugs, Jess


Hi Jess

Feeling abandoned by a good friend is a horrible way to feel. It makes us second guess all our relationships

"Well if that person could do it to me then anyone could", suddenly that solid ground you thought you were on can now feel a bit shaky.

I hope you and your wife are able to sort this out and be able to move on together. Take care of yourself Jess and know that we are here for you.


My thoughts are with you both.
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Re: Jess’s mess
« Reply #663 on: October 12, 2018, 09:37:37 pm »
@Donica @davina61 @LizK

Quote from: Donica on October 12, 2018, 03:17:51 pm
I hope everything goes well for you Jessica! I know how alarming not being able to breathe can be. I have battled with Asthma for most of my life. As you mentioned something about extra tissue on one side of your vocal cords, hopefully your doctor can get a better look at it this time.

Warm hugs! Stay positive!
Donica.

Donica, I know personally through my son the hardships of asthma.  I remember the terror in his eyes rushing him to the hospital for a breathing treatment.


Quote from: davina61 on October 12, 2018, 04:35:38 pm
Made me emotional reading this so best wishes and a giant hug dear.

Thank you dearly, I need the hugs!


Quote from: LizK on October 12, 2018, 05:11:09 pm

Hi Jess

Feeling abandoned by a good friend is a horrible way to feel. It makes us second guess all our relationships

"Well if that person could do it to me then anyone could", suddenly that solid ground you thought you were on can now feel a bit shaky.

I hope you and your wife are able to sort this out and be able to move on together. Take care of yourself Jess and know that we are here for you.


My thoughts are with you both.
Liz

You have said this so well, and it’s so true.
I definitely feel the love sent to me from everyone here.

Hugs and smiles from a California girl
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Re: Jess’s mess
« Reply #664 on: October 13, 2018, 04:44:14 pm »
Smile! 🌸🌸🌸
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Re: Jess’s mess
« Reply #665 on: October 13, 2018, 05:10:10 pm »
Quote from: Jessica on October 13, 2018, 04:44:14 pm
Smile! 🌸🌸🌸

@Jessica:
Yes indeed Jess..... smiling is good medicine and makes everyone that sees you just a little happie.,
 I love your new Avatar/Profile picture... your hair looks terrific...
....and your great big beautiful smile :)

I trust that today is a better day for you?  ???
Hugs and as always well wishes,
Danielle
« Last Edit: October 13, 2018, 08:38:51 pm by Alaskan Danielle »
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Re: Jess’s mess
« Reply #666 on: October 13, 2018, 09:14:48 pm »
@Alaskan Danielle  @Laurie @Michelle_P

Quote from: Alaskan Danielle on October 13, 2018, 05:10:10 pm
@Jessica:
Yes indeed Jess..... smiling is good medicine and makes everyone that sees you just a little happie.,
 I love your new Avatar/Profile picture... your hair looks terrific...
....and your great big beautiful smile :)

I trust that today is a better day for you?  ???
Hugs and as always well wishes,
Danielle

Today was spent centering myself with my two sisters Laurie and Michelle.
I needed reflection and confidence garnered from these two powerful women.
I see their strength through their forthright resolve.  Both of these women are as different from each other as they are the same.  Each have their own set of life rules, that somehow compliment one another. 
They have love that they express unabashedly.
I do think it’s sweet.

Am I happier, yes!  On all of my troubled fronts there is a positive ring to it.
I am still hopeful for the future. 🌸🌸🌸

Hugs and smiles from a California girl
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Re: Jess’s mess
« Reply #667 on: October 13, 2018, 09:33:37 pm »
Quote from: Jessica on October 13, 2018, 09:14:48 pm
@Alaskan Danielle  @Laurie @Michelle_P

Today was spent centering myself with my two sisters Laurie and Michelle.
I needed reflection and confidence garnered from these two powerful women.
I see their strength through their forthright resolve.  Both of these women are as different from each other as they are the same.  Each have their own set of life rules, that somehow compliment one another. 
They have love that they express unabashedly.
I do think it’s sweet.

Am I happier, yes!  On all of my troubled fronts there is a positive ring to it.
I am still hopeful for the future. 🌸🌸🌸

Hugs and smiles from a California girl

@Jessica
Dear Jess: 
I am so glad that you had your very good friends @Michelle_P and @Laurie at your side and with you today.  I can certainly understand that they can be a big help to you as a sister in need.  I follow both of their threads with great interest and I garner a wealth of insight as their comments are exchanged...  they both are glass half full people... the best kind of people to surround yourself with.

Continue on, not dwelling on problems and instead pondering for positive solutions not only put you in a better frame of mind but also is a lot less stressful.

Hugs and praying for good outcomes for you on all that you are dealing with in your life.
Danielle
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Re: Jess’s mess
« Reply #668 on: October 14, 2018, 01:05:52 am »
Quote from: Jessica on October 13, 2018, 09:14:48 pm
@Alaskan Danielle  @Laurie @Michelle_P

Today was spent centering myself with my two sisters Laurie and Michelle.
I needed reflection and confidence garnered from these two powerful women.
I see their strength through their forthright resolve.  Both of these women are as different from each other as they are the same.  Each have their own set of life rules, that somehow compliment one another. 
They have love that they express unabashedly.
I do think it’s sweet.

Am I happier, yes!  On all of my troubled fronts there is a positive ring to it.
I am still hopeful for the future. 🌸🌸🌸

Hugs and smiles from a California girl
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@Jessica
Dear Jess: 
I am so glad that you had your very good friends @Michelle_P and @Laurie at your side and with you today.  I can certainly understand that they can be a big help to you as a sister in need.  I follow both of their threads with great interest and I garner a wealth of insight as their comments are exchanged...  they both are glass half full people... the best kind of people to surround yourself with.

Continue on, not dwelling on problems and instead pondering for positive solutions not only put you in a better frame of mind but also is a lot less stressful.

Hugs and praying for good outcomes for you on all that you are dealing with in your life.
Danielle
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  Oh my gosh such fibs being told by these two friends.

First Jess..
  Powerful women? .. Strength through forthright resolve?... Well she's could be right about one of us...
  Different? - Yes... Same? - No
  They have love that they express unabashedly.? - Okay she got one right.

And now Danielle..
  they both are glass half full people... Wrong! Okay maybe Michelle is but for me the darned glass is empty again! (I was thirsty)

 And to both of them I'm MeanRotten.

Hugs,
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Re: Jess’s mess
« Reply #669 on: October 14, 2018, 06:42:20 am »
The lady doth protest too much, methinks.

Quote from: Laurie on October 14, 2018, 01:05:52 am
  Oh my gosh such fibs being told by these two friends.

First Jess..
  Powerful women? .. Strength through forthright resolve?... Well she's could be right about one of us...
  Different? - Yes... Same? - No
  They have love that they express unabashedly.? - Okay she got one right.

And now Danielle..
  they both are glass half full people... Wrong! Okay maybe Michelle is but for me the darned glass is empty again! (I was thirsty)

 And to both of them I'm MeanRotten.

Hugs,
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Re: Jess’s mess
« Reply #670 on: October 14, 2018, 10:00:37 am »
Quote from: Faith on October 14, 2018, 06:42:20 am
The lady doth protest too much, methinks.


Danielle, Jessica, Laurie and Michelle! All 4 of you ladies and so many more here at Susan's have brought many smiles to my face in good times and bad. I'm glad to know you all.

Methinks so too Faith. Shush Laurie! I can only hope to find a friend like you.

BTW Jess! I love your new avatar.

Hugs ladies!
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Re: Jess’s mess
« Reply #671 on: October 14, 2018, 01:07:52 pm »


Can you tell I’m a California girl

Hugs and smiles


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Re: Jess’s mess
« Reply #672 on: October 14, 2018, 02:46:46 pm »
@Jessica
Dear Jess:
Nothing makes a girl feel better than getting pampered at a salon...
... Wowzers! ....   getting a Manicure AND A Pedicure !!!!!
That is most certainly a good way to have a good day!!!

Thank you for posting and sharing.
Hugs and hugs,
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Re: Jess’s mess
« Reply #673 on: October 14, 2018, 02:50:44 pm »
Quote from: Jessica on October 14, 2018, 01:07:52 pm


Can you tell I’m a California girl

Hugs and smiles


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I love that color Jessica. What color is it? It almost looks like a pearl white?

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Re: Jess’s mess
« Reply #674 on: October 14, 2018, 03:07:18 pm »
@Donica @Alaskan Danielle

Quote from: Alaskan Danielle on October 14, 2018, 02:46:46 pm
@Jessica
Dear Jess:
Nothing makes a girl feel better than getting pampered at a salon...
... Wowzers! ....   getting a Manicure AND A Pedicure !!!!!
That is most certainly a good way to have a good day!!!

Thank you for posting and sharing.
Hugs and hugs,
Danielle

Well girlfriend, you know I needed it 💕💕💕💕



Quote from: Donica on October 14, 2018, 02:50:44 pm
I love that color Jessica. What color is it? It almost looks like a pearl white?

Donica.

Thank you Donica, it’s called “Blossom Pink”.  I get builder gel to strengthen my nails, they lasted 5 weeks till I needed them filled.  With the builder gel, the polish is removed when they shape (think Drexel) it each time.  This is a good way to avoid the chemicals that are needed to remove it otherwise.
You can remove it though, without it removing the builder gel, and put another color on.

Hugs and smiles from a California girl
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Re: Jess’s mess
« Reply #675 on: October 14, 2018, 06:56:50 pm »
Quote from: Jessica on October 14, 2018, 01:07:52 pm

Can you tell I’m a California girl

Hugs and smiles

Good for you!  A mani/pedi can be just the thing to improve a mood.  Nice color, too. But you knew that...

Hugs,
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Re: Jess’s mess
« Reply #676 on: October 15, 2018, 10:08:02 am »
My first avatar was made off of FaceApp.  It gave me confidence to believe I could pass at some point.
I have been using my true self pics exclusively for a while.
I revisited FaceApp to give another look see. 



Plumper cheeks, shaped brows with wide open eyes are the only major changes that I see.
Any comments from the peanut gallery?


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Re: Jess’s mess
« Reply #677 on: October 15, 2018, 10:19:03 am »
Quote from: Jessica on October 15, 2018, 10:08:02 am
My first avatar was made off of FaceApp.  It gave me confidence to believe I could pass at some point.
I have been using my true self pics exclusively for a while.
I revisited FaceApp to give another look see. 



Plumper cheeks, shaped brows with wide open eyes are the only major changes that I see.
Any thought from the peanut gallery?


Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk

@Jessica
Dear Jess:
Wow-zers ... terrific photos...
...you look beautiful in BOTH photos...

BUT PLEASE KNOW... Jess.... that you do not need FaceApp to look beautiful...

I have been following your thread and various photos since early this year about 10 months ago and I have always felt that you are presenting very well as a female, particularly in this last few months... your HRT,  and other cosmetic enhancements, are obviously doing their job.
 
OH, and your new hair style is certainly ultra-feminine !!!!!  Nicely done... and of course your mani/pedi that you just had done looks wonderful.
 
In my opinion you have nothing to be concerned about being able to continue in your journey and to eventually pass convincingly.

Thank you for sharing and posting on your thread.... your thread is always one of my first stops here on the Forums when I log in....  I am your avid follower and one of your biggest fans.
Hugs and hugs 
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Re: Jess’s mess
« Reply #678 on: October 15, 2018, 10:46:59 am »
New hair style? Hmmmmm did you do something with your hair? I hadn't noticed.
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Re: Jess’s mess
« Reply #679 on: October 15, 2018, 10:56:19 am »
@Laurie @Alaskan Danielle @Michelle_P @Jayne01

Quote from: Laurie on October 15, 2018, 10:46:59 am
New hair style? Hmmmmm did you do something with your hair? I hadn't noticed.

Everyone must be told... when I said “only my hairdresser knows for sure” in Jayne’s thread.  I was speaking of my dear friend Laurie.  She took me aside and said “listen girl, you’re parting your hair on the wrong side!  She fixed it and it made a huge difference to even my worse critic...myself.
Her advice is always welcome and has helped me immensely, as has Michelle’s!

Hugs and smiles from a California girl
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