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Offline Colleen_definitely

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Re: "Masculine" interests and Gender Identity
« Reply #20 on: January 18, 2018, 10:16:54 am »
I like fast cars, pickup trucks, and motorcycles.  I can work on them too.  I like to shoot competitively and do all my own work on my guns as well as load my own match ammo.  I can weld, run machine tools, fix plumbing, work on electrical stuff, and am the unofficial family IT person.  But I'm also quite good in the kitchen, like pretty things, like looking pretty, am good at decorating, and most of the other stereotypical girly stuff.  I play the occasional video game, am a total sci fi geek, but can't stand watching sports.

The thing is I'm friends with several cis women who are just like me in these regards.  So I say embrace it.  Specializing based on gender is for insects.

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Re: "Masculine" interests and Gender Identity
« Reply #21 on: January 18, 2018, 10:44:16 am »
I collect comic books and the like. I have several guns and when I get extra $, I’ll usually go out and buy another. I love driving fast, play video games (I have 3 consoles) when I have time. I cook, love tech, heavy metal and NASCAR. All of those things will not change.


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Re: "Masculine" interests and Gender Identity
« Reply #22 on: January 18, 2018, 12:38:35 pm »
Interests should not be controlled by gender. Think Danica Patrick.
I yam what I yam, and that's all what I yam.
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« Reply #23 on: January 18, 2018, 02:27:46 pm »
Interests should not be controlled by gender. Think Danica Patrick.

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Re: "Masculine" interests and Gender Identity
« Reply #24 on: January 18, 2018, 08:44:15 pm »
While I like cars, and snowmobiles...Nobody has mentioned fishing?

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Re: "Masculine" interests and Gender Identity
« Reply #25 on: January 19, 2018, 01:48:38 am »
While I like cars, and snowmobiles...Nobody has mentioned fishing?

My wife loves fishing! About 100% more than I do. Haha. See? Even cis women can like stuff. :)

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Re: "Masculine" interests and Gender Identity
« Reply #26 on: January 19, 2018, 02:21:36 am »
My wife liked fishing too.  I never liked it much myself and always felt a little bad sticking hooks through worms and minnows.


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« Reply #27 on: January 19, 2018, 02:34:25 am »
I'm one of the highest ranked longsword fighters on North America and pretty high up in the world overall.  It's actually delayed my transition a bit due to wanting the advantages of testosterone.  Going to see about starting HRT soon, though.

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Re: "Masculine" interests and Gender Identity
« Reply #28 on: January 19, 2018, 03:46:15 am »
I love video games but not ones that are violent. Mostly story driven and a little bit cartoony! Like Rayman and some RPGs. I love age of mythology as well so that's pretty teenage boyish! I've always found them a great place to leave reality behind.

For sports I tried to fit into that mold but I can't. Watching is the dullest thing ever and I never really enjoyed playing them. Working out is great fun and I try to work out everyday.

And after that I love cooking and baking which aren't that manly I don't think. But I also like home-brewing which is largely just middle aged men as far as I can tell.



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Re: "Masculine" interests and Gender Identity
« Reply #29 on: January 19, 2018, 04:27:56 am »
I think the point of transitioning is to become yourself. If you force yourself to conform to what you think you're supposed to be rather than who you actually are I think its going to cause unhappiness - kind of like where you started.

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« Reply #30 on: January 22, 2018, 10:18:49 pm »
I think the point of transitioning is to become yourself. If you force yourself to conform to what you think you're supposed to be rather than who you actually are I think its going to cause unhappiness - kind of like where you started.

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Re: "Masculine" interests and Gender Identity
« Reply #31 on: January 23, 2018, 04:31:45 am »
I find cars incredibly boring, enjoy watching sports and I love computer games but only games with a great story.
I can't imagine being a guy or girl would change that

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Re: "Masculine" interests and Gender Identity
« Reply #32 on: January 23, 2018, 06:17:38 am »
I love cars , guns and out doors stuff (hiking survival bushcraft) and I know I’m really a woman there have been “tom boys” for years and it doesn’t matter if you are cis or trans there will always be “tom boys” 

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Re: "Masculine" interests and Gender Identity
« Reply #33 on: January 23, 2018, 07:45:02 am »
I'm school trained in auto/small engine/diesel engine mechanics, military science, combatives, police science, carpentry, criminology, sociology, psychology, law, and nursing(nursing was the more femaley stuff, I did in my macho days to try to express my caring/warm side), competent in welding, electrical, plumbing, and masonry. I exercise them all, out of necessity, did in male mode, still do nowadays as necessary, comes in handy. If there's a need for the more male endeavors or desire, I will do that, but do nowadays exercise, the more feminine range of things, unless I feel threatened, then I will shift to male endeavors.

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Re: "Masculine" interests and Gender Identity
« Reply #34 on: January 26, 2018, 06:10:11 pm »
I really like cars, video-games and many stereotypical "male things".  I feel strongly that my body should be a woman, with dysphoria ranging from discomfort to outright hate of lower half and facial/body hair among other things.  I am having trouble squaring my interests with my feelings on my body.

I surf, downhill skateboard, play various instruments, sew, play in a ska/reggae band, have a serious addiction to vinyl records.. and enjoy the odd spliff.. i work as a sound engineer .. i just do it like a girl :) i do find it hard to believe that interests are gender specific .. but the thought had run few my head a few times  :laugh: do what makes you happy <3

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Re: "Masculine" interests and Gender Identity
« Reply #35 on: January 26, 2018, 09:55:25 pm »
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Is anybody else dealing with problems like this and how did you resolve them?

Well, I'm definitely a techy but, as my sig says, I wear bra, pantyhose and nail polish daily.  That's just me.  Hopefully, should I get on hormones, I won't lose my interest in tech.
I'm a 64 year old male who has been thinking about SRS for many years.  I also was a  full cross dresser for a few years.  I wear a bra, pantyhose and nail polish daily because it just feels right.  I am exploring where I want to take things and recently talked to my doctor about HRT.

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Re: "Masculine" interests and Gender Identity
« Reply #36 on: January 27, 2018, 01:02:17 am »
There's a lot of stereotypically manly stuff I like doing: fitness, anything involving the outdoors, off-roading, working on my car, construction, and a lot of my music tastes skew male-dominated.

But there's a lot I love that is stereotypically girly too: Hello Kitty, embroidery, sewing, needlepoint, cooking.

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Re: "Masculine" interests and Gender Identity
« Reply #37 on: January 27, 2018, 07:08:16 am »
I'm pretty simplistic about that.  I'm a woman, so I have "female" interests.  End of story.

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Re: "Masculine" interests and Gender Identity
« Reply #38 on: January 31, 2018, 09:48:25 am »
Classic cars, vintage & modern photography, reading. Sometimes a cross-stitch or two.  ;D

It's only when I have to fix the classic cars that the dysphoria can raise it's ugly head.  I used to really enjoy restoration but it doesn't really interest me now...
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Re: "Masculine" interests and Gender Identity
« Reply #39 on: January 31, 2018, 02:19:48 pm »
https://www.statista.com/statistics/232383/gender-split-of-us-computer-and-video-gamers/

The idea that many things are male or female dominated are often perpetuated by a small, vocal minority who want to "adopt" these things for themselves. To make themselves feel good, or something. I've seen no end of times people who just want to troll, saying stuff like "there are no girls on the internet" and "there are no girl gamers". Maybe not for them, if that's the attitude they have. But that doesn't make it true.

People can do, or be, whatever and whoever they want. Your gender shouldn't have a bearing on it. You like what you like, you're into what you're into. And if someone has a problem with that... too bad. That's their issue, not yours.

Don't be a stereotype. Be an individual. :)

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