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Re: What's your worst bullying experience?
« Reply #20 on: January 20, 2018, 10:45:34 pm »
I moved around a lot as a kid. I would usually get bullied when I would start a new school, for a while. I was... er, scrappy is probably the least butch way of putting it. I would let verbal stuff just kinda slide off my back, but if people got physical I would fight back.

And I was a dirty fighter. I would bite, low blow, tackle, break glasses. Anything to end the fight quickly. I don't think I was particularly good as a playground fighter, and I think of some of these people probably could have hurt me if they wanted. But they always seemed to decide that I was too much trouble to deal with. And it only ever took one fight to stop the physical bullying.

By high school this all kinda died down. I managed the trick of becoming part of the background, and high schoolers are less physical bullies than middle schoolers.

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Re: What's your worst bullying experience?
« Reply #21 on: January 20, 2018, 10:53:24 pm »
Compared to many of the stories I hear I don't know whether I really have anything that significant to tell. I was just mostly shunned, sneered at, sometimes ridiculed and usually left alone. I often didn't even understand some of the epithets people used for me.

The place I attended the longest was a missionary school so it was mostly safe in the physical sense. There was just one pair of boys that really seemed to hate me enough to single me out. One of them was huge and often threatened me. As it got worse I eventually told him if he really did want to fight me I knew I'd lose but I would oblige. Although he didn't stop, he did tone down a little after that.

It seemed that unexpected reactions also helped. When another boy stuck a fist at my face and asked what I though would happen if he bashed me over the head with it, I said his fist might hurt. After that he seemed to lose some of his animosity and would just call me "Fist Hurt."

Oh, that's right—although this incident happened at home and probably wasn't really as bad as it may sound in telling, I'll mention it because the situation now seems a bit funny. I had several sisters and the boys from their classes often played at our house. One Saturday they wanted to play some game that needed a lot of people, so they barged into my room while I was asleep. When I pretended to not awake because I didn't want to go, being the geniuses they were they decided to drag me out anyway and started to strip me in the living room—and that's when my mother walked in. Her reaction was much more than stern. I don't think I'd ever seen her that angry, and I believe we didn't have any visitors for some time after.

Anyway, after I got so disgusted by the hypocrisy at the school that I quit, I began to feel curious why exactly some people there had found me so disgusting. One member of the bully pair lived nearby, so I decided to go ask him. He was quite surprised when his mother showed me to his room that late evening. Once we were alone I asked why he hated me so. He was quiet for a long time, and then finally, after some minutes of silence quietly said "Because I was stupid. I'm sorry." His words made me feel like a castle of ice inside me melted.

After we talked a bit more, he asked me if I'd like a gin fizz, and took me on his motorcycle to a seven eleven to buy a can for each of us. Some time later, after we'd returned to his room and got comfortable his father opened the door and busted us—but all of that is another story. That visit changed everything, and I now remember him as one of my treasures.

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Re: What's your worst bullying experience?
« Reply #22 on: January 21, 2018, 01:45:35 am »
I was a punchbag for every bully til I was 13. A tall skinny timid kid. That summer I learned fighting back from a friend's brother who was soldier. He taught me the art of dirty fighting, how to put my weight behind a punch, make myself less of a target etc. Soon i was winning fights, I didn't care about winning or losing, the pain of an ass kicking took the edge off dysphoria. On my 15th birthday  I broke my class bully's nose in a rugby game, he waited for me with 2 of his goons, I fought back but was knocked out with a cricket bat & kicked in the body while on the floor so bruises wouldn't show. The games teacher found me, I wasn't a rat & told him I would sort it my self. Over the next few weeks I caught them alone & kicked the crap out of them. One of them would cross himself & move out of my way if he ever saw me approaching him. One of them's in jail for a very long time for sex crime, other bullies are dead from drug & alcohol abuse or tramps living rough, the rest I don't care enough to find out about.

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Re: What's your worst bullying experience?
« Reply #23 on: July 13, 2018, 07:40:55 am »
Hi everyone. I've seen so many threads with a description of bullying that I came to realize a huge number of trans people were bullied in school, not just me. This isn't meant to be triggering it's meant to be therapeutic.  It helps to talk about it with people who can relate. At least for me it does. So share your bullying experiences. And this is for the guys too. FtM people get bullied too, not just MtFs.

I was just too good of a target. Albino and a huge sissy on top of that was too good for other kids to pass up. I was lucky enough that I didn't actually get beat up. I'm pretty sure that was because of my brother. He had made it clear that he would beat the crap out of anyone who hit me and because he had done it a couple of times he had a reputation of someone not to be messed with. But of course there are endless ways to bully someone without beating them up.

I got tripped, my books knocked out of my arms, my food spit on and of course the endless name calling and being laughed at all the time. This one dickheaded guy loved to stomp on ketchup packets so I would get sprayed with ketchup.  You would think someone would have intervened but teachers didn't like me much more than the other kids.The worst 2 incidents were having blue food coloring thrown in my face. It ruined my clothes and totally stained my skin and hair. It took forever to wear off of my face and it permanently stained my hair. But I just adopted blue streaks as part of my style. It matched my nails at least. The asshole who did it told me I had needed some color in my face. The second was when some boys sprayed liquid plastic all over my hair which dried very hard. I had shoulder length hair at the time. The only way my dad could get it out was to cut it out along with my hair which made such a mess of my hair all he could do was buzz the rest to match.

And I found it infuriating that guys would call me fagot,homo,fudge packer, etc,etc but then they would turn around and tease me sexually. Blow me kisses, smack my ass, etc. The other guys found it hilarious when someone would do that stuff to me. But I was the "fagot" .   I did get an apology from one bully. I ran into him in public and he apologized for the stuff he had done to me. His explanation was that I "confused"  him and a lot of the other guys. I accepted his apology and told him I forgave him. But saying I had confused him is a piss poor excuse for bullying me.

I was also sexually assaulted by a guy at school who was helped by some other guys. I elaborated on that in the Me Too thread. He forced me to suck his dick but I was the fag of course. The only good thing I can say about high school is that it ended!

I'm so sorry that all of that happened to you, especially the last part.  Obviously, nobody needs to teach you what it means to be bullied or raped.

In my case, I did get beaten up a lot, especially in high school, although I got my first chipped tooth in primary school.  All of my front teeth are still chipped.  My glasses got broken so often that my parents got me a specially reinforced pair on one occasion.  The lenses really were made of glass in those days, so I'm lucky that I wasn't blinded.  I never met a bully who "wouldn't punch someone with glasses" in spite of what was sometimes said in TV programmes.

Even so, I'm not sure that it was worse than what happened to you, even excluding the oral rape.  Verbal insults are painful even in the short term but years of abuse and humiliation can be debilitating, especially if few people, not even the teachers, seem to be on your side.  It may sometimes have made you feel as worthless as the bullies, and those that laughed at their "jokes", tried to make you feel.  I am sure that for some victims, the feeling could last for a lifetime.

I agree that many teachers can be unsympathetic.  Their attitude is often that the victim should behave differently to avoid being bullied or should stop "telling tales" or should "learn to stand up for themselves".  Grown-ups don't have to stand up for themselves.  If they are insulted in person, they can sue for crimen injuria and if they are assaulted, the attacker can be imprisoned.  Much more vulnerable children, though, have to stand up for themselves.

Teachers can also be bullies.  I remember that my P.E. teacher and last vice principal were cronies and drinking buddies.  The former, a bodybuilder, grabbed boys, including me, and shook them hard.  I certainly didn't feel well afterwards.  I remember the police interviewing him after someone's parents complained.  The latter used the cane freely, including on me.  Usually, I got four strokes during a caning.  Like another teacher, he used my handwriting as an excuse but was not as persistently vindictive.  I couldn't avoid him as he was also my history teacher in my final years.  He was also a martial arts expert but I was present when he challenged a boy to a fist fight.  How inappropriate is that? 

The worst was a female teacher.  She was trained to teach English but covered as a biology teacher.  She really didn't like me.  Every day for weeks, she sent me to the then vice principal, to be caned.  His office was behind the class where he taught science, so I had the added embarrassment of telling him in front of his class that I had come to be caned.  Most were silent but some sniggered.  He was actually a very nice man and I especially resent the biology teacher for making him do her dirty work.  I think that my body must have been becoming as shaky as my handwriting because eventually, he went to her and told her in front of me and the class that he wouldn't cane me any more.

I had another experience of the biology teacher, which may be a bit off subject but is an example of how a bully can sometimes show his or her true calibre.  She had to demonstrate a fatty acid test.  It involved ether, of which the school had a large, heavy jar.  We had to move the desks to the back of the class and the chairs closer to the teacher's desk, for a better view.  A girl stood holding the open jar of ether, in both arms, next to the desk.  For reasons unknown, the teacher ignited the Bunsen burner!

Although a few feet from the burner, the jar suddenly ignited and the girl, understandably frightened, dropped the jar and ran out of the room.  I think that she was unhurt or had very minor burns.  The teacher, too, ran away and abandoned us to the flames!  I was not in the front row and did not immediately recognise the seriousness of the situation.  I think that I was actually about to laugh when I was trampled by classmates who had been closer to the action.  Before I got to my feet, my hands were burned and my trousers were on fire.  I was the last out of the room.  The vice principal (the nice one) had come running out of his nearby office.  He put out the flames on my trousers with his own jacket, as I recall.  He then grabbed an extinguisher and put out the fire in the classroom.  There was surprisingly little damage because, I gather, ether is volatile but burns out quickly if it does not ignite another material.  The biology teacher said that she didn't know that ether was inflammable ("flammable" started to be used only after manufacturers realised that some people thought that "inflammable" meant "non-flammable".)

Three pupils,  including me, went to the hospital for treatment.  The doctors said that I was the worst burned but another girl, who also had second degree burns, took the rest of the year off and did her exams from home.  I think that her parents took legal action and claimed compensation.  My mother didn't like me behaving like a sissy, so I had to walk around to prevent the skin from becoming inflexible.  Her method must have worked, though, because to everyone's surprise, I was back at school within a week or so.  The biology teacher wangled the job of recording how badly we were injured.  My palms and the whole of my calves were burned but she wrote that just my ankles had been burned.  She did give me a Parker pen with my name inscribed, though.  In my case, she need not have worried, as my family was not litigious and did not sue.

There must have been an inquiry after an accident like that.  A couple of months after the incident, the school announced that the biology teacher had left to get married.  I like to think that it was a cover for her dismissal. 

In spite of my burns, I am in retrospect glad of the incident, as although it is said that all bullies are cowards, it isn't every day that everyone gets to see their true colours.















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Re: What's your worst bullying experience?
« Reply #24 on: July 13, 2018, 07:50:28 am »
I was bullied as a kid, particularly in high school.  I wasn’t much of a sissy, but I wasn’t one of the jocks either.  I wasn’t bookish or brainy to be one of the nerds nor cool enough to be popular. I did have a few people who wanted to know if I was gay, which I’m not, but maybe I was giving off more of a feminine vibe than I realized.  I didn’t even know I was trans then.  But I was bullied on a daily basis throughout high school and never knew what I did to deserve it.  I’m 37 now, so that was a long time ago and I’ve made peace with the past.  Still, I wonder what I did to make myself such a target.
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Re: What's your worst bullying experience?
« Reply #25 on: July 13, 2018, 04:07:36 pm »
Anyway, after I got so disgusted by the hypocrisy at the school that I quit, I began to feel curious why exactly some people there had found me so disgusting. One member of the bully pair lived nearby, so I decided to go ask him. He was quite surprised when his mother showed me to his room that late evening. Once we were alone I asked why he hated me so. He was quiet for a long time, and then finally, after some minutes of silence quietly said "Because I was stupid. I'm sorry." His words made me feel like a castle of ice inside me melted.

After we talked a bit more, he asked me if I'd like a gin fizz, and took me on his motorcycle to a seven eleven to buy a can for each of us. Some time later, after we'd returned to his room and got comfortable his father opened the door and busted us—but all of that is another story. That visit changed everything, and I now remember him as one of my treasures.

What happened? Do you still know each other?
Sorry if I'm being nosy it's just that it seemed really sweet that you and your bully ended up getting along!
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Re: What's your worst bullying experience?
« Reply #26 on: July 13, 2018, 08:32:40 pm »
this thread.....so much I could put here, I can have just this one post create a page three if I wanted to relive every beating, harassment, sexual harassment and abusive gesture, every rape attempt, every fight, every assult, battery, basically, at 17 I have had to go through every single legal and illegal form of abuse or violent act against me there is.
but one of the ones that I can relive(mostly cause I chose to find humor in it) ill put here, even though it includes me getting jumped by armed highschoolers about 4 months ago. it was just a simple thing you would think, go off campus and get lunch from a nearby Mexican resturaunt(it was my usual lunch spot) and I was walking alone(stupid 100 lb 5'8 transgirl apparently) to get lunch when these assholes actually puuled off the road and drew pocketknives on me(my school did allow me to carry a weapon because this wasn't the first time and I had had cuts from earlier incidents) so I drew my own knife from my bag(also got training on hand to hand combat before coming out, definite fighter) and proceded to disarm and knock out or otherwise incapacitate these individuals, of course, attacks on transgender people in my area are ignored and not publicized because its the most bigoted place in all of California( I live in the central valley and it sucks) but I just thought that since this was somewhere to discuss bullying and the like, id share that the bullying can end up as a good thing, like in my case incidents like that caused the people to be afraid to face me even by jumping.

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ps: never fear to keep those who aim to hurt you from failing, because nobody has the right to bully, harrass, abouse, neglect, insult, degrade, or otherwise attempt to inflict harm on another human being no matter the reason.

this happened all after i came out, and none of the attemts succeeded.


stay true to yourself, and none of what others do will get to you......one of my many things i use to keep others words from impacting me, because without the ability to ignore what peole say, i wouldnt have been able to stay out and would have gone back into hiding when faced with all the shit that i get daily. people seriously need to grow tf up.
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Re: What's your worst bullying experience?
« Reply #27 on: July 14, 2018, 03:56:41 am »
What happened? Do you still know each other?
Sorry if I'm being nosy it's just that it seemed really sweet that you and your bully ended up getting along!
X Maria
Hi, Maria

No, I don't mind...

Yes, I still know him. He is now a quiet, thoughtful and considerate man. I've not seen him for much too long.

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