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Offline EmilyRyan

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In a bad situation
« on: January 30, 2018, 12:58:24 am »
Back on the 13th my parents discovered my hormones and have forced me to either stop or kick me me out since them it's been a total nightmare since and my parents are determined to stop me from ever transitioning and are back to the same abuse that I tried escaping from last summer.

I need a way out and I can't just sit around waiting to save up either I need to get out ASAP can anyone please help??

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Re: In a bad situation
« Reply #1 on: January 30, 2018, 06:45:03 am »
I would start with family or friends to see if they have an extra room or bed. If that doesn't work, maybe check with the local Transgender community. I would give you a place to stay, but I live across the country from you.

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Re: In a bad situation
« Reply #2 on: January 30, 2018, 07:32:55 am »
Emily, I am so sorry to hear this.  AmyDane has good advice. 

In addition to friends, do you have relatives in other locations that might understand?  Moving away from local friends and your job or school may seem unthinkable, but your future and safety are most important.
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Re: In a bad situation
« Reply #3 on: January 30, 2018, 12:55:27 pm »
Hi Emily,

I'm assuming they took your hrt away from you.  As a quick fix, I would get a new prescription and hide it better this time, maybe someplace outside of the house.   I would then concentrate on finding a new home.

I wouldn't normally suggest being deceptive but your parents are being rather nasty.

Do you have a therapist that can help you plan your next moves?

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Re: In a bad situation
« Reply #4 on: January 30, 2018, 01:01:24 pm »
I don't have any family that's understanding and no one in position to stay with I been asking around all month long and nothing.

My living situation has yet again turned abusive and there are no shelters and no resources to help either. Please again can anyone here help me find somewhere and I need to stick around Columbia/Spring Hill, TN for my job 

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« Reply #5 on: January 30, 2018, 01:03:09 pm »
Hi Emily,

I'm assuming they took your hrt away from you.  As a quick fix, I would get a new prescription and hide it better this time, maybe someplace outside of the house.   I would then concentrate on finding a new home.

I wouldn't normally suggest being deceptive but your parents are being rather nasty.

Do you have a therapist that can help you plan your next moves?

Take care,
Paige :)

I still have my hrt pills  thankfully I have them in my work locker now and unfortunately I have no access to a therapist that can help

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Re: In a bad situation
« Reply #6 on: January 30, 2018, 01:08:09 pm »
How old are you? Because if your 26 like your profile says it’s time to be on your own regardless of what’s going on and especially living in a bad situation. I mean if you 15 you don’t have many options. But at 26 and dealing with what you are get the hell out of there!!

You said you have a job so start looking for cheap housing with multiple roommates. With living with a couple people in a cheap place you should be able to get you rent down to under 500 a month.


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« Reply #7 on: January 30, 2018, 01:23:44 pm »
http://www.tvals.org/    Emily this is 37 miles away,   Hope they can help you.
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Re: In a bad situation
« Reply #8 on: January 30, 2018, 02:09:47 pm »
There is no cheap housing even with room mates i cant even find anybody to room with or that'll rent to me

and I left the tvals because a couple members kept attacking me on Facebook

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« Reply #9 on: January 30, 2018, 07:23:59 pm »
Please someone help  :'( :'( :'( :'( :'( :'( :'( :'(

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Re: In a bad situation
« Reply #10 on: January 30, 2018, 10:25:36 pm »
Emily,

You could try at the local women’s refuge, they may be able to help, or simply provide advise and they know the local district. Don’t worry about anonymity, they will keep all your details confidential. They have to maintain a reputation for trustworthiness as a sanctuary.

Another odd, possible long shot is if one of the local churches is lgbtqa+ friendly then they might be able to help out (although no guarantees).

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« Reply #11 on: February 04, 2018, 02:22:01 am »
Emily,

You could try at the local women’s refuge, they may be able to help, or simply provide advise and they know the local district. Don’t worry about anonymity, they will keep all your details confidential. They have to maintain a reputation for trustworthiness as a sanctuary.

Another odd, possible long shot is if one of the local churches is lgbtqa+ friendly then they might be able to help out (although no guarantees).

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There's no women's refuge I don't think anything like that exists in Tennessee or even the U.S.??  Also none the churches in my area are accepting.

Oh and I've been given notice to get out yeah my parents have had it apparently I think I have like a week or two before I'm in the streets 

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Re: In a bad situation
« Reply #12 on: February 04, 2018, 03:56:12 am »
Try Center of Hope, a shelter in Columbia that includes trans populations in their profi
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Re: In a bad situation
« Reply #13 on: February 04, 2018, 12:53:12 pm »
Already tried they're full and they stay full

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Re: In a bad situation
« Reply #14 on: February 04, 2018, 01:58:15 pm »
Already tried they're full and they stay full
I don't know about that place and I'm sorry you're going through all this. I recently went to a lgbtq shelter and they told me beds aren't always available. It could mean I may not get in when I need it most. But still you have to try. If you're 13-21 come to nyc (if you can) there's a few teen lgbtq shelters and they offer services. I'm sure most major cities have this but I know nyc. It's a bit of a process but it's doable. I can try to answer any questions you have if you need. Just let me know!

Edit: I just noticed your age and that's okay! I'm 27, mtf transgender. There's marsha's place in nyc for 21-30 if you end up here. That's where I was heading myself. I have the contact info if you need just message me- you can call them directly from wherever you are.

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Re: In a bad situation
« Reply #15 on: February 05, 2018, 05:46:00 am »
I wish I could help but I live in a totally different state and don't have room here (just me and my dog in my studio apartment, even then it's already cramped!) But I do wish you luck and I'm sorry you're going through this. Nobody should be forced out on the streets just for being themselves. My condolences.

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« Reply #16 on: February 05, 2018, 06:46:30 am »
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Re: In a bad situation
« Reply #17 on: February 12, 2018, 01:25:42 am »
Nothing is getting any better only worse I'm no longer safe at work as my mom came and saw me wearing a cardigan and a headband and flipped out (after I got off work) and I still have nowhere to go I'm freaking miserable I have no way out there's nothing I can do

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Re: In a bad situation
« Reply #18 on: February 12, 2018, 10:06:27 pm »
Frankly, blowing off Tvals was a really bad idea.  They were the only people physically near you that are motivated to help you and have access to knowledge or resources that can help you.

Me, I can’t do anything for you.  I’m over 1500 miles away from you.

I don’t know what really happened between you and them, but patching things up with them may be the only way to keep your transition going, because you need help that if not trans specific, at least needs to be trans supportive.



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Re: In a bad situation
« Reply #19 on: February 14, 2018, 01:55:17 am »
I'm sorry for the pain your parents are causing you. I really wish there was something I could do to help. I live in west Tn. but too far to help. I'll say a prayer for you.


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