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Hi sisters
« on: February 12, 2018, 05:29:50 am »
Hi everyone, my name is Bernadette, I've only just begun my transition to being the girl i always knew i was. i expect its a familiar story, ever since i was little I've wished i was a girl, my mum used to get upset with people who saw mw as a child when they would say "what a pretty little girl".
My problem is i have left it soooooo long to finally admit to myself that this isn't something i can hide anymore, i was convinced i could that for my whole life, but i can't, and i was frightened of loosing my family, but Bernadette is here to stay and I'm so happy, but scared too. i came out to my best friend over the weekend, i almost threw up with nerves, they were very kind and supportive which was a massive relief, i know its going to be the same for everyone i tell but i have to do this, i don't have a choice. i hope to make new friends on this site and to offer support and a shoulder to cry on as well. Id love you to come and say hi.
love and hugs, Bernadette.   
(((^_)) xxx

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Re: Hi sisters
« Reply #1 on: February 12, 2018, 06:35:26 am »
Hello Bernadette, welcome to Susan's!

Your friend is indeed the best type of friend we can hope for - completely supportive of who you really are.  I bet as time goes on you will be surprised how many people around you immediately accept and respect you as someone who defines the best things in life on your own terms and then achieves it.  I can relate to the nervousness you describe... coming out to two people in particular (my parents) was one of the most difficult things I have done.  And so worth it.

Since this was your first post I'll add information to help with initial navigation and site guidelines. 

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Bernadette, I am very happy for you.  You are such a sweet lady - I am really glad you joined. 

All the best,

Assigned male at birth 1963.  Decided I wanted to be a girl in 1971.  Laser 2014-16, electrolysis 2015-17, HRT 7/2017, GCS 1/2018, VFS 3/2018, FFS 5/2018, Labiaplasty & BA 7/2018. 

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Re: Hi sisters
« Reply #2 on: February 12, 2018, 08:19:10 am »
Welcome Bernadette,
           I dealt with repressed feelings from puberty until a month ago and they are repressed no longer!  Congratulations on taking your own steps.  You are absolutely correct, you HAVE to do this, otherwise it is just going to eat you alive.  The ladies here are very helpful, warm and accepting.  Please ask us anything and someone knowledgeable will chime in.

1/4/18 - Admission to self of trans - Start of transition
2/10/18 - First time out in public
2/12/18 - Ears Pierced
2/16/18 - Started Laser Hair removal on face
7/4/18 - Down 101 pounds since 1/4/18.  Maybe start HRT at 210-15
9/22/18 - Weighed in @207 (down 113 lbs) this morning.
10/1/18 - Started HRT

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Re: Hi sisters
« Reply #3 on: February 12, 2018, 08:58:37 am »
Welcome Bernadette!  I’m Jessica.  Most folk, be they friend or family, if they love and respect you, chances are they will accept you.  The ones that don’t, didn’t have your best interests at heart in the first place.  Today’s society is in flux.  Even though it seems to be sliding backwards with today’s politics, but society on a whole is moving forward much faster.
I am so happy you are here, willing to learn, wanting to help others and meet new friends!
(((Big welcome hug)))
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Re: Hi sisters
« Reply #4 on: February 12, 2018, 11:05:01 am »
Hi & welcome, Bernadette!

Repression kept me from my true gender for 40+ years. Happy but scared - you certainly sum up how I felt after breaking through, and truth be told, I still am scared sometimes. But, mostly happy, in a deeper & more real way than ever before. 

I'm glad you're here!
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Re: Hi sisters
« Reply #5 on: February 12, 2018, 02:25:05 pm »
Hi Bernadette  :icon_wave:

Welcome to Susan's Place  :)  Glad to have you here, join on in the fun


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Re: Hi sisters
« Reply #6 on: February 12, 2018, 05:28:21 pm »
Hi Bernadette.

Welcome!  :)

Always stay cheerful, be polite, kind, and understanding.

Good living, joy, unity, love, and happiness can come from following these practices: Never let selfishness or conceit motivate you.  Regard others as more important than yourself.  Do not limit attention to only your interests, but include the interests of others.

It is not usually about how fast you transition, it is about how well you transition.  

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Re: Hi sisters
« Reply #7 on: February 19, 2018, 01:25:49 pm »
Thank you so much for your lovely welcomes, they mean so much to me.
i am moving forward everyday, and have a million questions  :)
bernadette (((^_)) xxx