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Offline Deb Roz

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First wig advice?
« on: February 14, 2018, 04:57:19 pm »
I've been experimenting with dressing lately, and I really enjoy it.  In fact, I'm developing a shopping addiction, and I have to work really hard not to buy new shoes and dresses every day! eep!   

One thing that I would love to have is long hair.  I can get there eventually, but in the meantime, I'd like to take a shortcut, and pick up a wig.  Unfortunately, I have no idea where to start!  Can anyone lend me some advice? 

Is it worth buying a cheap one for now, or is it better to get an expensive one?  Is there a good middle ground?  Where can you even buy something like this? 

Thank you for your time,

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Re: First wig advice?
« Reply #1 on: February 14, 2018, 10:06:39 pm »
I've been experimenting with dressing lately, and I really enjoy it.  In fact, I'm developing a shopping addiction, and I have to work really hard not to buy new shoes and dresses every day! eep!   

One thing that I would love to have is long hair.  I can get there eventually, but in the meantime, I'd like to take a shortcut, and pick up a wig.  Unfortunately, I have no idea where to start!  Can anyone lend me some advice? 

Is it worth buying a cheap one for now, or is it better to get an expensive one?  Is there a good middle ground?  Where can you even buy something like this? 

Thank you for your time,

D
Experimenting (& shopping!) IS fun, isn't it!

I have two wigs right now: a cheap human hair lacefront I bought online and a synthetic wig from a local wig shop.

I like the synthetic one the best for its quality and color. It's also the one my husband likes better, FWIW.

The other one needs more hair density to look decent, and the color turned out to be a lot lighter than expected. I dyed it a better color and mostly use it to learn how to use a curling iron.

I recommend checking out any wig stores in your area. If you're comfortable with one, chat up whoever's behind the counter. If you really intend to purchase one there, start trying on some to see what you like, what size fits, and what's in your price range.

Also, I think you'll find a great deal of helpful info throughout this site.  Best of luck & have fun!

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Re: First wig advice?
« Reply #2 on: February 15, 2018, 12:08:40 pm »
As someone who has worn long hair (every length possible for me) and various wigs for many years I'm pretty qualified to advise you here. For starters, nothing comes close to looking as good as your own long hair. If you've got some hair, start growing it. Be who you are. If you love long hair make the world get over it and live with it.

As for wigs, this all depends upon what you want to do. You don't say whether you're going to out and around or just looking at yourself in the mirror at home. If you're just staying at home, you might be fine with any cheap plastic wig. I've owned a few synthetics and here is what I've experienced. Blonde synthetics almost always look phoney as heck. Darker synthetic wigs can be styled to look OK. I never wear a synthetic out of the house, though.

The most convincing wigs are the human hair type, which cost more. And no matter how tactfully you style one, if the wig isn't the front-lace type it will probably look wiggy because of the hairline. There are also great differences in the quality of human hair used in wig making. Some are quite stiff and hard to style while higher quality human hair (usually the most expensive) can have a very beautiful texture.

However, human hair wigs have to be carefully cut and styled and maintained or they'll look like an old mop. Buying the wig is just the beginning. You need to learn to care for it, too. Since the hair doesn't grow back, wigs must be handled much more delicately than one's own hair.

That's something for you to start with. I can answer further questions if you have any.
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Re: First wig advice?
« Reply #3 on: February 21, 2018, 03:42:40 pm »
Lyric... I myself have recently started wearing wigs because my hair is not going to grow that long... ever...  :D 

I have 1 human hair and 2 synthetics.  Absolutely love the human hair one.  I learned with my synthetics that you really do have to care for them.  Go figure, that's what I've been focused on a lot lately.  The 2 synthetics I have had knots and has turned into a fluffy frizzy mess.  I brushed the knots out and getting ready to use a steamer and detangler to fix them. 

So now my human hair one is starting to frizz up a little and i really don't want to cut it as it is a longer wig.  I've learned that appears I shouldn't use a spray detangler on human hair.  I've washed it with shampoo and conditioner.  But I'm curious if you have any suggestions with regards to caring for a human hair wig?  Ways to get frizz out and/or straighten curls.  Also looking to lower the 'poof'.  I bought the wig in Asia presumable coming from an Asian woman.  A local wig store informed me that people in different countries have different types of hair sometimes creating that poof.  Either way the one way i've found to temporarily get the poof down is to rub my hands together until enough heat is generated and then use that heat on the top of my head while the wig is on and hold my hands there and move them away from the part slowly.  It works but doesn't last.  Look forward to your response.... 

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Re: First wig advice?
« Reply #4 on: February 22, 2018, 12:48:46 pm »
Hi, Boldy and welcome to Susan's. This is a great forum and I suggest you check in often.

Synthetic wigs generally have shorter lifespans than human hair ones. If you browse around on YouTube you can find all sorts of drastic tips for revitalizing them that can help, but rule tends to be that you're lucky to get six months of steady wear out of one.

Your description reminds me of years ago when I bought a waist-length synthetic-- in blonde, no less. Long wigs are a constant pain to de-tangle. I had maybe about two days of use out of that thing before I gave up. I wear my own hair from between shoulder length and nipple length and don't want any wigs any longer if I can avoid it.

I assume your "poof" problem describes the way the hair stands off the wig cap. Many wig makers and wearers actually consider that a preferable feature, but like you, I prefer a flatter look. It could be caused by the way the hair is attached to the cap. It could be the density of the wig (thus it could be thinned). And, as you suspect, it could be the hair texture.

Wigmakers tell me the stereotyping of "Asian" or "European" hair as texture descriptions is not universally valid. You can find very soft and fine Asian hair and very thick European hair. It's a very individual thing.

You might try a high quality shampoo and conditioner designed for softening. Jon Renau makes one designed for HH wigs. I've recently been trying a line called Mielle Organics some wig wearers love that's about half the price of Renau. It seems to give a nice shine, especially with the leave-in conditioner. Either way, it will probably take more than one shampooing to soften the hair much.

I haven't tried this myself, but you might have luck with just hitting the top roots with some hairspray and then wearing a cap or headband for awhile. I wear baseball style caps with some frequency and they certainly lay my hair down.
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Re: First wig advice?
« Reply #5 on: February 22, 2018, 02:35:02 pm »
Lyric... I myself have recently started wearing wigs because my hair is not going to grow that long... ever...  :D 

I have 1 human hair and 2 synthetics.  Absolutely love the human hair one.  I learned with my synthetics that you really do have to care for them.  Go figure, that's what I've been focused on a lot lately.  The 2 synthetics I have had knots and has turned into a fluffy frizzy mess.  I brushed the knots out and getting ready to use a steamer and detangler to fix them. 

So now my human hair one is starting to frizz up a little and i really don't want to cut it as it is a longer wig.  I've learned that appears I shouldn't use a spray detangler on human hair.  I've washed it with shampoo and conditioner.  But I'm curious if you have any suggestions with regards to caring for a human hair wig?  Ways to get frizz out and/or straighten curls.  Also looking to lower the 'poof'.  I bought the wig in Asia presumable coming from an Asian woman.  A local wig store informed me that people in different countries have different types of hair sometimes creating that poof.  Either way the one way i've found to temporarily get the poof down is to rub my hands together until enough heat is generated and then use that heat on the top of my head while the wig is on and hold my hands there and move them away from the part slowly.  It works but doesn't last.  Look forward to your response....

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Re: First wig advice?
« Reply #6 on: February 22, 2018, 11:00:45 pm »
Thanks for the info. My wife and I are looking for a wig for me as my real hair doesn’t grow in too well. Her hairdresser is setting us up with a specialty shop for wigs. Hopefully I can find something nice. I started makeup lesson this past weekend from my wife and nice hair will make me feel better.
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Re: First wig advice?
« Reply #7 on: March 01, 2018, 03:14:49 am »
Thank you for all of your advice, I'm currently searching for a wig ( or 2 )  so this is very helpful.

Sonja.

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