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Offline Dotus23

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Seeking understanding
« on: February 28, 2018, 12:48:20 am »
Hi, Im new here. So long story short, my "boyfriend" who now identifies as my girlfriend, is getting ready to start hormone therapy. I love my other half dearly. I'm so proud that she feels comfortable enough to take me on this journey. I'm mostly excited for this new chapter of life but I also feel apprehensive. Not in the sense that I don't think it will work. I am very much in love with my partner and I have no doubt once so ever that we will remain close and strong. I have just never been in a situation like this before and change is always a little nerve-racking. I'm concerned about health related side affects of hormone therapy. I aslo don't know anyone who's experienced anything like this. I'm reaching out for advice, or success stories, tips, anything that would help me understand the process and everything so I can get an idea of what to expect. I know everyone is different and unique in their own way but it also helps to hear from people who have been in the same position. As I've said before, I'm so so so proud of this new chapter thats about to begin. Positive thoughts!

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Re: Seeking understanding
« Reply #1 on: February 28, 2018, 12:54:46 am »
Hi Dotus 🙋‍♀️ Welcome to Susan’s Place!  I’m Jessica, a transgender woman.  I’m so glad you are supporting your love in a time most needed.  There is a board for Significant Others that may help you with any question or pose it on a thread and I’m sure you’ll get a helpful response.  I’m so happy you found us.
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Offline Cassi

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Re: Seeking understanding
« Reply #2 on: February 28, 2018, 12:55:52 am »
Hi Dotus,

A moderator should be along soon to give you some links to better use Susan's Place.  Until then, let me be the first to welcome you to Susan's Place!

I've been going thru trans via HRT for almost 2 months and while I'd love to have a loving and caring significant other, I am in one sense lucky that my "self" isn't effecting a significant other.

By that I mean no disrespect to anyone trans or significant other. 

I think most might tell you that you both avail yourselves to therapy as this is new to you both.

I wish you luck and find it refreshing that you care enough to be willing to go thru this adventure with your mate!

HRT since 1/04/2018

Offline PollyQMcLovely

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Re: Seeking understanding
« Reply #3 on: February 28, 2018, 02:22:48 am »
HRT is pretty benign considering all the changes it produces. When your endocrinologist goes over everything with you they'll undoubtedly inform you of the increased risk of blood clots due to the estrogen. They'll take your blood pressure and if it's high you should cut back on salt, quit smoking, exercise more etc.

Other than that and the occasional case of spontaneous combustion there's not too much to worry about.

Edit: Oh and welcome and thanks for being an understanding partner to a future member of the Trans Cabal.

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Re: Seeking understanding
« Reply #4 on: March 03, 2018, 12:14:16 am »
I have a very complicated relationship with my wife. We have been married 13 years and of course she married me, as a man. This is a very difficult time for her but we are making fabulous headway. We make sure we talk anytime we feel the need. We argue and disagree and we agree and it can all be in the same conversation. Don’t clam up always talk and be open and honest about how you truly feel. He will be going thru major emotional changes that he is going to have to adjust to but not know how to handle it. IMHO guys don’t have the emotional range women do and they need to learn them. Be patient with his coping with these changes as they are for the better. I am 62 and I cry at the drop of a hat. I had a huge revelation today that “pretty” was an emotion and fell right apart with my wife at my side. It is going to be a wonderful journey but slow and steady is the best way. Don’t rush and make sure each change is adjusted too as it happens. Take time to learn and understand and you should find that this is a wonderful trip.
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December 2015 noticed strange feelings moving in
December 2016 started to understand what my body has been telling me all my life, started wearing a bra for comfort full time
Spiro and dutastricide 2017
Mid year 2017 Started dressing and going out shopping etc by myself
October T 14.8 / 456
Came out to my wife in December 2017
January 2018 dressing androgenes and still have face hair
Feb 2018 Dressing full time in female clothing out at work and to friends and family, clean shaven and make up
Living full time March 1 2018
March T 7.4 / 236
April 19th eligard injection, no more Testosterone
June 19th a brand new freshly trained HRT and transgender care doctor for me. Only a one day waiting list to become her patient 😍


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Re: Seeking understanding
« Reply #5 on: March 03, 2018, 05:37:52 am »
You should find lots of posts about HRT on this site, the main implication is she will have new health concerns such as eventually needing breast exams.

That said lots of people approach HRT with a lot if expectations. I would caution you both to minimize that, just expect that she will become medically female and there will likely be changes in her emotions.
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