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Offline SeptagonScars

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Re: Did you ever play with the idea you might be intersex?
« Reply #20 on: April 15, 2018, 04:48:51 am »
Have you ever thought about this? Why?
- I didn't have much time to think about if I'm possibly intersex before it was found out that I wasn't.

Do you think being intersex is a tempting idea that would validate your experience?
- No, I don't really think I would have been more valid had I been intersex. Being diagnosed as trans is good enough for that, for me.

Have you ever actually been medically tested? What was the result?
- Yeah, I got my chromosomes tested as part of the evaluation if I was trans or not (to get the diagnosis), at the beginning of my transition. Results said XX, and as far as anyone could tell about my body otherwise, I'm simply a biological female trans guy.

Were you relieved or disappointed to find out?
- I was a little disappointed, but mostly I just shrugged about it.

Has being or not being intersex played a role in your transitioning?
- I'm not sure. Could be that if I had been intersex taking T might have been more difficult, but I don't know. Depends on what type of intersex I could have been.

Would you like to be intersex? Why?
- I don't really care if I was or not, but no I probably wouldn't want to be, on second thought. Especially if being so would have come with more health issues than I already have.

And if you've been intersex and known about it your whole life, did that make transitioning easier or harder for you? In what ways?
- I'm not, so not applicable.

Or did you find out you do have some feminine/masculine characteristics you were not aware of such as atypical hormone balance etc.?
- I never knew what my natural hormone levels were before I started taking T, but they seemed normal/average. I didn't have much masculine features pre-T except from some in my face, and that my voice was rather low for a female (kind of alto). I didn't have any lasting health problems either, so I had no reason to suspect I even could be intersex.
Mar. 2009 - came out as ftm
Nov. 2009 - changed my name to John
Mar. 2010 - diagnosed with GID
Aug. 2010 - started T, then stopped after 1 year
Aug. 2013 - started T again, kept taking it since
Mar. 2014 - top surgery
Dec. 2014 - legal gender marker changed to male
Jul. 2018 - came out as cis woman and began detransition
Sep. 2018 - stopped taking T and changed my name to Laura
Oct. 2018 - got new ID-card

Medical Detransition plans: breast reconstruction surgery, change legal gender back to female.

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Re: Did you ever play with the idea you might be intersex?
« Reply #21 on: April 15, 2018, 05:23:09 am »
I was born with intermediate hypospadia, an intersex condition. I had a delayed/mild onset of puberty, and I have a female 2d/4d ratio.
I certainly went through a long 'why,  why,  why..' period earlier in my transition, trying to find a cause for my feelings. I had a Karyotype done and it came back as 46XY, though there are many minor known genetic variances and probably many more unknown.

I think there is some potential relationship between intersex and having a trans* identity, but it's certainly not a requirement or a guarantee either way.

It's possible a desire for an intersex diagnosis can simply be a way for a person with trans* feelings to abrogate some internal guilt they may feel, I certainly fell in this group.

I've now reached a point of comfort and acceptance with my trans* identity, that my physical/medical classification is irrelevant to me. I am who I am, the why is history, I want to look forward not back. X

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Re: Did you ever play with the idea you might be intersex?
« Reply #22 on: May 11, 2018, 05:47:09 pm »
I have thought about I have never been tested.  I've never been tested because the results would make no difference in my life.  I always wanted the validation I don't need others to validate only matters that I am valid to me (that took a lot longer to get there than it should have). 

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Re: Did you ever play with the idea you might be intersex?
« Reply #23 on: May 11, 2018, 07:51:05 pm »
My mother had a child that died shortly after birth 3 years before my birth.   I tried to find out if I am a DES baby...whether my mom took medication that could cause intersex.   The records are destroyed and I won't ever know.   It's ok....I am who I am.  And I love the fact I am female inside.   


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Re: Did you ever play with the idea you might be intersex?
« Reply #24 on: May 19, 2018, 05:59:17 am »
In the past. I think most other trans I talked to have entertained the idea, and some have even gone as far as to self diagnose themselves and tell everyone else they are intersex instead of just trans. Personally, if I have anything, it's working against me because i swear my body doesnt absorb estrogen good enough and i swear it lovesssss testosterone.  >:(

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Re: Did you ever play with the idea you might be intersex?
« Reply #25 on: May 22, 2018, 08:00:02 am »
I did think of that way, since my mom told me that I was born with an invisible genitalia - she couldn't really determined whether I was a boy or a girl.
Time skip, when I was around 1 yo, I suffered from hernia inguinalis on the right side, so I underwent surgery to cure it. At the same moment, the doctor also operated my genitals, and tadaa, I had a small penis. But as the time goes by (I'm 27 yo now, gonna turn 28 this June), that penis remains the same in size. And when I had examination done by my surgeon, she figured out that I don't have balls, on both side. 


Re: Did you ever play with the idea you might be intersex?
« Reply #26 on: May 28, 2018, 04:22:11 am »
I was born with normal functioning testicle and with a testicle that never grew more than the size of a pea and it has never functioned according to my pediatricians and if I can remember they said that it is just fat. I had genital surgery a few days after I was born and I developed with many female secondary characteristics so that is all included in me being an intersex person. Ever since I was a toddler I dressed like a girls and looked like a girl. There were times during my childhood that I made an attempt to come across more boyish in order to play the part and be socially accepted by other people. However, I always was into wearing makeup and girls clothing etcetera and I knew the truth. Those years and in recent years I had plenty of confirmation, including that my estrogen levels and testosterone levels are in the range of female.

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