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Offline Sinead

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Keeping my birth name?
« on: May 27, 2018, 04:34:20 pm »
Anyone keep their birth name, or just change the spelling a little?

I haven’t seen this question asked anywhere, which is really surprising. I’m MTF transgender - currently pre-everything, I’m in the process of trying to choose my new name... I’ve gone through Nina, Sinead, Lily & Steph... none of which really seem to suit me, I’m a little unsure on whether anything will suit me. However, I’m fairly comfortable with my current name, it would be really weird to be called anything else.

I was thinking of keeping the same name (Sean), in case you were wondering, but changing it to a feminine spelling of the name (if one actually exists).

Also, I feel there should be a child board for choosing a name - if there isn’t one already (couldn’t find it), it’s a pretty important part of transitioning

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Re: Keeping my birth name?
« Reply #1 on: May 27, 2018, 04:44:02 pm »
A child board does seem pretty cool, but it definitely seems like many girls here don't struggle with a name at all. It's like something they may have liked or picked-up along the way.

Eryn is a name of a character that I built an elaborate backstory for in an online game. And also the name of one of my really old, and good friends(who I have no idea how to contact and haven't spoken to in over a decade) When I was searching for a pseudo-name to use when I joined Susans, it just popped in my head, like instantly.

But, here's where I'm sure I'll get some hate.

My birth name is, surprisingly, unisex. And I don't need nor want to change it, while I would love to completely embody Eryn- I am not her, she is a character. I am me, and I guess because of that small stroke of luck I don't really need to change much in various legal documents.

And also, my wife is relieved, I think...people having to change their name might be one of the hardest parts for a SO.
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Re: Keeping my birth name?
« Reply #2 on: May 27, 2018, 04:48:55 pm »
Sean can be a female name. It’s rarer than the male name, but there is an actress Sean Young

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Re: Keeping my birth name?
« Reply #3 on: May 27, 2018, 04:49:39 pm »
Anyone keep their birth name, or just change the spelling a little?

I haven’t seen this question asked anywhere, which is really surprising. I’m MTF transgender - currently pre-everything, I’m in the process of trying to choose my new name... I’ve gone through Nina, Sinead, Lily & Steph... none of which really seem to suit me, I’m a little unsure on whether anything will suit me. However, I’m fairly comfortable with my current name, it would be really weird to be called anything else.

I was thinking of keeping the same name (Sean), in case you were wondering, but changing it to a feminine spelling of the name (if one actually exists).

Also, I feel there should be a child board for choosing a name - if there isn’t one already (couldn’t find it), it’s a pretty important part of transitioning
This might help

http://www.sheknows.com/baby-names/name/sean

Maybe: Seanna, Shena, Shawna and many more.

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Re: Keeping my birth name?
« Reply #4 on: May 27, 2018, 05:19:05 pm »
My wife has a female cousin named Shawn.  Or you could go with Shawna to make the gender more obvious.
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Re: Keeping my birth name?
« Reply #5 on: May 27, 2018, 05:50:58 pm »
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I feminized my given name. It has just recently been made legal.  I chose Stephanie Rushelle to replace my two given names.  I remember, wistfully, writing out that at a very young age.  I finally got to make that bit of a wish a reality.

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Re: Keeping my birth name?
« Reply #6 on: May 27, 2018, 07:49:13 pm »
Since my given name is Kelly I just kept it. The middle one is masculine but I care not. Makes it really easy when it comes to changing paperwork.
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Re: Keeping my birth name?
« Reply #7 on: May 27, 2018, 08:46:06 pm »
My birth name is Randall but I’ve mostly gone by Randy. Very easy to flip that around to Randi. Staying as close as possible to my birth name feels right. I have never felt comfortable with the idea of a second self or a female persona. That doesn’t feel authentic for me. (Others mileage may vary.) It feels like it denies the reality of my lived experience.  I don't want a male me and a female me. I just want a me, if that makes any sense.

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Re: Keeping my birth name?
« Reply #8 on: May 27, 2018, 09:04:19 pm »
I kept the same initials and that’s about it. My wife picked Donna and I chose Ashley. That way my and my wife’s stories we write have the same letters as it’s our initials.
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Re: Keeping my birth name?
« Reply #9 on: May 27, 2018, 09:38:18 pm »
I intend to keep my initials and use the female gender form of my male name which I never really liked but I do like the female version, my birth name is Nicholas Brian, although I dropped that to Nick a very long time ago. I am changing to Nicole Brienne. It makes for very few changes such as my email etc. Some feel a total name change is necessary, like most other aspects of transitioning I think we all have our own preferences, I understand both sides. Sean works, however one thing I found is that initially I was happy for friends to continue to call me Nic, but as time goes by I am starting to hate the male association and prefer Nicole.


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Re: Keeping my birth name?
« Reply #10 on: May 27, 2018, 09:52:56 pm »
That has a nice sound to it Nicole
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Re: Keeping my birth name?
« Reply #11 on: May 27, 2018, 11:02:14 pm »
Yes haha. I literally had only two letters in my first name changed (“Alexand*r” to “Alexandra”). Middle name stayed the same (it’s my mother’s maiden name, all my sisters share it).

My birth name had always felt like my true name. It was the gender that needed changing.

I consider Alexandra to be my birthname.

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Re: Keeping my birth name?
« Reply #12 on: May 27, 2018, 11:18:49 pm »
Very pretty name
December 2015 noticed strange feelings moving in
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