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Re: How did you choose your name?
« Reply #20 on: July 11, 2018, 10:45:50 pm »
@Donica I am 100% with you on wanting to keep the same initials, it would make things easier I believe. Unfortunately my name is so masculine that it would be difficult to shape it into a female version.  ::)


@pretty pauline  Unfortunately I don't have the luxury of adding or subtracting letters from my birth name to feminize it. My mother did have a female name ready for me though, I might end up taking that as my new name.  :)

@NC_Rose That is a beautiful name I have an aunt named Rose and Iv'e always wanted to be named that too lol, but I would just feel awkward, anyways I don't feel like it suits me at all lol. Tess sounds lovely and now I will have to look up "Tess of the d'urvervilles".   ;)

@Melanie Jean OMG! Lmao I really need to be careful with not messing up my name, I don't want to be that one person who has a weird funny looking name that was chosen by silly parents!  :icon_giggle: Unfortunately I don't have the luxury of having supportive family & friends to "practice" anything with.  :(  It is the reason why I decided to come here and become true friends with all of you.  :) 

Part of the reason why I started this thread is to find inspiration for my new name and gain tips on finding it (which has been working out a lot better than I expected, thank you all for your tips and support!), soon I will post some details so that we can hopefully find my real name lol.  :D
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Re: How did you choose your name?
« Reply #21 on: July 12, 2018, 05:45:37 am »
My wife is having a hard time with the thought of me changing my name, the sheer amount of paperwork is daunting, especially as a naturalised citizen. She also has the fear that it will be losing "me" when I change it. I feel it's becoming "me" by finding my true name, but I understand her concerns. My name is "Andy" which could be used as a female context, but when I hear it, Its a reminder of who I was, not who I am.

Who knew that something as simple as a name, could mean so much! We were given these names at birth, but when we transition, we get to choose who we want to be, which is liberating and very powerful.
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Re: How did you choose your name?
« Reply #22 on: July 12, 2018, 06:08:42 am »
I chose the name Ariel. She was my first crush and I haven't seen too many people with that name. also it's two letters off from my dead name. (gabriel).

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Re: How did you choose your name?
« Reply #23 on: July 12, 2018, 06:13:02 am »
I chose the name Ariel. She was my first crush and I haven't seen too many people with that name. also it's two letters off from my dead name. (gabriel).
Hi, Ariel!

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Re: How did you choose your name?
« Reply #24 on: July 13, 2018, 11:23:21 am »
I was going to reply a few days ago but realised I hated the name I was using. Fortunately I hadn't posted yet to I deleted the accounts and spent a bit of time finding a name I liked even if it only a temporary one. 

I originally chose a name that would allow me to use my male nickname but it didn't feel right.

I ended up writing down a list of names of women from sci-fi shows and a few non nerdy names that I liked. As much as I liked many of them Samantha was the only one that felt right. I also had someone that knows me well help with taking away names that didn't suit me. I really wanted to use the name River, I really like it and it has the advantage of being connected to two awesome characters but after sleeping on it I had to agree it didn't feel like me.

It's still very early days for me though so I imagine I might feel differently at some point. Only time will tell. 


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Re: How did you choose your name?
« Reply #25 on: July 13, 2018, 11:49:40 am »
When I admitted to myself I am what I am and decided that I would need a new name, I spent half a day at work going over all kinds of options trying to find one that "Sounded Right".  I went through names of actresses and names from literature.  Names from movies.  Names of women I knew in the past and names of girls I knew as a kid...  NOTHING fit.

So a half hour before I was due to get off work and make the trek home, I gave up because that's when I would start getting depressed anyway.  I drove home thinking about fifty thousand different things having nothing to do with a name and when I get there I do what I always do.  I go change into my casual clothes in the bathroom in the back of the house.

I finished changing and found myself just blankly looking at myself in the mirror and then hear a common call from across the house in the living room.  "(Insert Male Name Here)!!!!".  My wife wanted help with something so I look at the bathroom door and shout back "I'll be right there!!!!"

I look back in the mirror and say out loud to myself without a thought to latch onto, "Alright Erin.  Time to go be a husband."

I giggled to myself all the way up the hall.  It stuck.

I have since come out to my wife (three weeks ago) and she is NOT processing well.  So, it's still a name I use here on Susan's and I have told my new therapist and my cousin.  But no one else yet knows.  My wife doesn't want to know.

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Re: How did you choose your name?
« Reply #26 on: July 13, 2018, 03:17:44 pm »
I was going to reply a few days ago but realised I hated the name I was using. Fortunately I hadn't posted yet to I deleted the accounts and spent a bit of time finding a name I liked even if it only a temporary one. 
 
Hi, Samantha!

Welcome to Susan's.

Thanks for jumping in with your perspective.  Susan's is a great place to try out names. 

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Re: How did you choose your name?
« Reply #27 on: July 13, 2018, 10:57:45 pm »
How were you all able to choose such a beautiful name?  :) I mean, there are literary a lot of names out there to choose from. There's a few names that I am considering, I'm also considering the name that my own mother had reserved for yours truly, until I was born physically in the wrong body.  :( Also, how difficult is the process of legally changing your name?
Well, legally speaking, my first name is Kyla, and my middle name is Cye.

Kyla sounds similar to my birth name, which is why I chose it.  I just wanted to make the transition easy on everyone, but they ended up estranging from me regardless.  I sort of hate it because everyone and their mom pronounces it as "Kayla", including my plastic surgeon, who should know how to read.

Cye (psi) was actually given to me.  I went homeless, and had to resort to some pretty crazy things, three years ago.  Eventually, a man took me in and helped me rebuild, and started calling me Cye because of a Greek myth involving someone named Alcyone, which reminded him of me.  I had no female name back then, and he wasn't going to call me by my birth name.

Legally, it's easy... I even showed up without a lawyer, and just told the judge why I'm intending to change my name haha.  I will probably change it to something a little easier to pronounce this time around.  My biggest advice is to make it as typical as possible.  The thought that "Kyla" would ever get mispronounced is something that never crossed my mind, and it's sort of invalidating.

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Re: How did you choose your name?
« Reply #28 on: July 14, 2018, 09:40:42 am »
It was actually my mom who suggested the name Julia. My boy name was Julian and she said it would be easier for people to use Julia rather than an entirely different name. That was the ONLY help/advice my mom ever gave me concerning transition.
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Re: How did you choose your name?
« Reply #29 on: July 14, 2018, 05:35:37 pm »
I can remember, when I was about four, my mother telling me that I couldn't be called Mary because I was a boy (she knew that because of my teeth).  I can't remember why I asked to be called Mary.  It cropped up a lot, though, as in "Mother Mary", "Mary had a little lamb" and "Mary, Mary, quite contrary".  It was also still a common girls' name in the 1950s and 1960s.

If I were starting from scratch, I would use a name that sounded nice when used with my surname.  I wouldn't necessarily choose from a list of names popular at the time of my birth.  However, I wouldn't want to use a name that was definitely invented by someone else AFTER the time of my birth.

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Re: How did you choose your name?
« Reply #30 on: July 15, 2018, 10:53:24 am »
My wife is having a hard time with the thought of me changing my name.....
My wife is starting to feel more comfortable with me changing my name. I see my male name as being who I was, not who I am. I also had issues with an abusive mother when she thought I was "different" so I have bad associations with being called "Andrew" I have always gone by Andy, my mother still calls me Andrew and I hate it.

Chatting with my wife, she realises it now. I feel the male parts of me are "ugly" when I step out of the shower and see myself in the mirror. The same goes with my name. Its not me. Choosing my name is taking control of me and is my decision and reflects who I am, not who my abusive mother forced me to be.

I have come to terms with my mother, she's a different women and old and frail, she's not the women I knew and has blacked out all memories of my childhood. I don't feel angry any more and I wish her well. When I change my name, it will sever the ties to memories which are nothing but painful.

Choosing a name is incredibly powerful, it means more than just changing a signature, it reveals who we are inside and tells people "this is who I am".

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Re: How did you choose your name?
« Reply #31 on: July 15, 2018, 11:15:27 am »
When I was very young my mum told me that had I been born a girl it would have been Emma.

After I came out, I told my mum that I'd chosen Emma in honour of her. Anyway she tells me that my name wasnt going to be Emma and that I'd obviously misremembered, but she liked the name and told me to stick with it

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Re: How did you choose your name?
« Reply #32 on: Today at 05:31:18 am »
I never really chose my name.

When I first discovered my true identity, I briefly went with the male version of my birth name. That lasted all of two seconds - and then I already took Alexander as my second name. I said I’d go as Alexander only after full transition, but as I said, I ditched the other name pretty soon.

I never chose Alexander. I just knew, if that makes sense? It just felt right.


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