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Max-the-Mer

Questions About Life After Transition
« on: August 07, 2018, 03:46:40 am »
What is daily life like after finally having finally transitioned? Does dysphoria sort of fade to the background? And will mental health improve drastically, especially if before transition, daily dysphoria was a main contributor to bad mental health? I guess what I am asking is, what are the thoughts and emotions you have when you wake up in the morning knowing your finally in the right body?

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Re: Questions About Life After Transition
« Reply #1 on: August 07, 2018, 05:29:04 am »
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Re: Questions About Life After Transition
« Reply #2 on: August 07, 2018, 05:54:54 am »
"Before Enlightenment chop wood, carry water. After enlightenment chop wood, carry water".
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Re: Questions About Life After Transition
« Reply #3 on: August 07, 2018, 06:10:49 am »
For myself, my gender dysphoria is a distant memory, completely gone from my mind. My dysphoria did not slowly fade into the background. It was suddenly and completely gone the minute I woke from genital surgery. Then there is the recovery period which is a challenge with pain medications and being so sore down there. Once your body  heals and you settle into a routine, life is remarkably normal. What we obsessed about before, is not not a problem. It is time to get on with the rest of our life.

It is important to plan for a life after transition. I see too many girls so completely focused on transition that they have little or no plans for their life after they finally feel proper. 

On a daily basis, I do carry water, but I have no need to chop wood.  :D



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Re: Questions About Life After Transition
« Reply #4 on: August 22, 2018, 01:42:00 pm »
Thanks so much for your input. I was so glad to hear from somebody who had already transitioned, as I have been trying to get an answer to that exact question for months. Thank you so much! I already have so many plans to attend university, travel, ect. so I am ready to go for my transition.

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Re: Questions About Life After Transition
« Reply #5 on: August 22, 2018, 01:49:52 pm »
I used to suffer GD on a daily basis, it's now been more than a year since I'd say I've experienced it, so transition has certainly helped me.
Regarding mental health, if you believe any issues you have stem from your GD, then you might reasonably expect it to improve, but this takes time effort,  and the right attitude.

Good luck. X

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Re: Questions About Life After Transition
« Reply #6 on: August 25, 2018, 05:07:40 pm »
 :D Thanks so much for the well-wishes! They are very significant to me especially because I am really struggling with my  depression because of it.

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Re: Questions About Life After Transition
« Reply #7 on: August 25, 2018, 05:08:47 pm »
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Re: Questions About Life After Transition
« Reply #8 on: August 25, 2018, 05:52:05 pm »
:D Thanks so much for the well-wishes! They are very significant to me especially because I am really struggling with my  depression because of it.

I am still most definitely transitioning but before I started, I also suffered from depression and anxiety.  They are almost completely gone now although through the process they have returned for very short periods when I hit a couple of slight hurdles

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Re: Questions About Life After Transition
« Reply #9 on: August 31, 2018, 08:04:29 am »
I was on hormones for almost 2 years. Could never pass due to my large frame.

If anything, the hormones made me feel more womanly than before, so being misgendered triggered me with more insane rage than ever before. No way to win.

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Re: Questions About Life After Transition
« Reply #10 on: August 31, 2018, 12:23:04 pm »
To me, it is interesting how much we all desire external confirmation of who we know in our heads we are.

In my head, I know exactly who I am, and I shouldn't need anyone, especially people I don't know, to help remind me, right? If I look straight out, and don't look down, whether in boy mode or girl mode, the world looks the same to me. I try to be consistent in my actions, behavior, etc regardless of which mode I am in. And, it still really bugs me when people say He/Him/His, regardless of my mode. We call it "Hate Speech" and "violent" when people misgender us. But if I really do know who I am, why should it matter what you think I am? But it does...

If only that were the weirdest thing about being trans...  ;D

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Re: Questions About Life After Transition
« Reply #11 on: August 31, 2018, 12:51:09 pm »
We never stop our transition but the transition becomes a journey to experience thr wonders of our second life in one lifetime. I started HRT 7 years ago and my GRS, BA and FFS, three years ago. I love my amazing new life.
When we first start our journey the perception and moral values all dramatically change in wonderment. As we evolve further it all becomes normal again but the journey has changed us forever.

SRS January 21st,  2558 (Buddhist calander), 2015

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