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Offline MissKatie

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Re: Does the "turn on" matter for those thinking of transition? How much?
« Reply #20 on: September 26, 2018, 11:13:11 pm »
I dont find putting on clothing at all erotic but putting in lipstick does make me aroused a bit.
It is an erogenous zone after all and it links in my mind to kissing which is the most erotic thing you can do in my head.

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Re: Does the "turn on" matter for those thinking of transition? How much?
« Reply #21 on: September 30, 2018, 02:10:55 am »
My personal experience is that to express femininity, whether by clothes or makeup, or whatever means is a sensual experience.  Sensuality definitely adds to sexuality.

Earlier in life, when hampered by fear, self doubt and lack of confidence, or other restrictions like time, the duration of my experimentation with expression tended to be brief, and also tended toward the sexual.  In that context, I believe the drive for sexual relief may be influenced by the need for an instant strong emotional synthesis of the experience.

Once I had the luxury of being able to take my time, and finding more confidence in my presentation, the sensuality remained, but the sexuality that used to accompany it, started drifting more into the background.  It can occasionally still rear its head, but has definitely lost its urgency.

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Re: Does the "turn on" matter for those thinking of transition? How much?
« Reply #22 on: September 30, 2018, 08:53:21 am »
She is happy. I also have a sexual component to my dressing. I also have dysphoria. How much do you think the sexual component matters?

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Re: Does the "turn on" matter for those thinking of transition? How much?
« Reply #23 on: September 30, 2018, 09:55:28 am »
My trauma therapist explained that people often mistake masturbation as being tied  to sexuality. Children also do this for pleasure, to learn about their body and as a way comfort themselves. I am a survivor of childhood psychological and sexual abuse with Dissociative Identity/Multiple Personality Disorder. My mind developed a female alter to cope with the abuse. Womens clothing and makeup are the norm for her. Another part of my mind is triggered into sexual arousal by them.  She has dressed this way 2 days a week for nearly ten years.  A complex response intertwined with having been forced to wear my grandmother's clothes when I was raped, the sexual response only comes on a handful of time a year. I am not far enough along in therapy to understand the circumstances that trigger it.

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Re: Does the "turn on" matter for those thinking of transition? How much?
« Reply #24 on: September 30, 2018, 11:48:46 am »
I knew a post-op who told me she used to get off looking at clothing magazines. Now, post-surgery, she just looks at the clothes. She is happy. I also have a sexual component to my dressing. I also have dysphoria. How much do you think the sexual component matters? Trying to peel back the layers.
Certainly, there used to be an erotic component when I cross-dressed.  Having male plumbing and hormones and seeing a woman in the mirror will do that.  But I quickly realized that that's not what it was really about.  I felt good about dressing, quite independently of the erotic component.  And that, in turn, was a clue that eventually led me to conclude that I was trans.

Once I had recognized myself as trans and was dressing part-time, pre-HRT, the erotic component was gone.  I was just dressing properly.
2015-07-04 Awakening; 2015-11-15 Out to self; 2016-06-22 Out to wife; 2016-10-27 First time presenting in public; 2017-01-20 Started HRT!!; 2017-04-20 Out publicly, beginning full-time; 2017-07-10 Legal name change

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