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Offline VickyS

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Re: Does Sexual preference affect your decision to Transition?
« Reply #40 on: October 05, 2018, 10:34:57 am »
Yes and no.  It has added to it.

I have always had a VERY strong attraction to male genitalia and up until a few years ago some attraction to female genitalia which has now gone and I now find it repulsive.  I have NEVER found the act of love making as a man comfortable, it just felt wrong.  I am very submissive and take on a 'girly' role whenever I had sex, whether it be with a man or a woman which was just confusing.  It was only after I came out to myself that it finally clicked and I realised that I had the sexuality of a mostly straight woman.  If I mentally put myself in the role of a woman it all fit perfectly.

Now that my mind seems to have accepted this, my desire to transition has become stronger as things make sense now but also I have trouble as I can't even masturbate properly anymore (not that I do much of that these days), and definitely not with it sticking out the front like a man!  This is another reason that I want SRS/GRS as then things will be in the proper place and I can look forward to a proper sex life that feels right at last!  Well, that's the hope anyways...  ;D
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Re: Does Sexual preference affect your decision to Transition?
« Reply #41 on: October 05, 2018, 12:56:02 pm »
If anything, my sexual preference has expanded to include men as romantic interests. 
 I am presently interested in men and women now and have spent time with both.

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Re: Does Sexual preference affect your decision to Transition?
« Reply #42 on: October 09, 2018, 10:02:52 pm »
I’ve been considering the same thing. I like women or someone who dresses feminine. Now, I just look at a woman and think I can’t wait to be one, look how they dress and wish I could present myself like her. I’ve also started having fantasies about being with a man when I have transitioned. I have a very high labido, just the tool I currently have doesn’t work very well, doesn’t help I don’t like it lol
I'm totally with you on most of this. In my fantasies I am exclusively a woman. The partner could be a woman or someone with male genitalia. The thing is, everything else about men repulses me. The abstract is "eh maybe" but once I think about male face/body desire plunges. It doesn't help that, for me, tattoos are the second-biggest turn-off behind smoking and now they're EVERYWHERE.

I wouldn't say I have the sexuality of a straight woman because I would more rather be with a woman. "Lesbian trapped in a man's body" mostly, "with maybe some bi tendencies" if pressed to think about it.

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Re: Does Sexual preference affect your decision to Transition?
« Reply #43 on: October 10, 2018, 06:56:58 am »
For me, I hadn’t realized I was attracted to the opposite sex until I was in therapy before I came out. It was another six sessions before I began to transition full time.
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