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Re: Kathryn's Chronicles
« Reply #360 on: May 18, 2021, 10:42:32 pm »
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Dear Kathryn:
I feel so badly for you as you are going through these post-op issues.
I am so very glad to read that you made your doctor aware of
the second hematoma and was able to quickly drain it.

Be certain to follow hour doctor's orders and if problems persist
please get back to your doctor ASAP.

I am wishing you a quick healing... please keep me and your other
followers updated as you feel comfortable doing.

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Re: Kathryn's Chronicles
« Reply #361 on: May 27, 2021, 12:44:20 pm »
Well it’s hard to believe things really start to get going for bottom surgery next week.

I have a class and a pre-op appointment with with the transgender surgery program starting next week.

Class is June 2nd and my appointment is the following Monday.

I took a little hiatus from electrolysis as I recovered from FFS.  I need to get going on that again. 
(Actually it was my truck that took the hiatus.  During my recovery it decided to disown its emissions system.   A full week in the shop, split between two failures, and $2300, later it seems to be fixed.  That said, I’m holding off on the GM Dealership survey until I’m convinced it’s fixed this time.)

Also next week I’m starting the legal work for my name change and gender marker change.  Kansas is a lot more respectful of trans people and their process is a lot less onerous and the legal fees are lower.

Memorial Days going to be low key this year. 

Because of my truck issues our boat is still in temporary storage on her trailer.  So I’m going to get that taken care of next month also.

Still a little swollen from FFS.  I developed a third, small hematoma.  Kinda stalling to see if it will be re-absorbed.  I’m looking forward to less swelling.  Then I’ll finally re-do my apple face-Id.

Yes, my iPhone doesn’t recognize me anymore!

(Just another unexpected result of transition!)


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Re: Kathryn's Chronicles
« Reply #362 on: May 27, 2021, 01:12:05 pm »
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Dear Kathryn:
Thank you for sharing your latest update regarding what is going on in your life and your transition journey.

Certainly exciting news for you to finally getting going with your future surgeries.

Arghhhh.... vehicle repair costs, you are certainly not alone in that department.   On my truck, the 4 wheel drive started acting up last winter, of course in the worst snow and ice conditions, and the final bill was $2515.87 ...  after reading your truck's repair cost, even though a different problem, I am thinking that over $2,000 for a vehicle repair bill, no matter the problem, seems to be some kind of collusion or conspiracy!!!   LOL   ::)

I am wishing you well and a speedy name change and gender marker change... sometimes these things go fairly quickly and sometimes, depending of mysterious issues, the procedure can be much more arduous.

I am saddened to read about that you are still a little swollen from FFS.... it can take more time than we wish for the swelling to go away.   Patience!!!!
OH no!!!!  You developed a third, small hematoma.  Hopefully it will be re-absorbed.

I had to chuckle at your comment regarding your Apple Face ID....
Even though my transition face changes are in my distant past, if I get carried away with my hair style, eyebrow shaping, makeup and other things that my iPhone doesn’t recognize me anymore either!
The price of beauty!!!! ::) ;)

As one of your avid followers I will be eagerly looking for your future blog/thread updates and posts around the various forums topics/thread.

HUGS, and as always, I am wishing you success and happiness...
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Re: Kathryn's Chronicles
« Reply #363 on: June 02, 2021, 06:07:55 pm »
Well today has been an emotional high.

Heard from my attorney.  My name and gender marker change petition has been filed.  Yea!  Another step forward! 

We’re both kind of curious what my birth state of Ohio is going to do when I submit for my birth certificate correction.

If you remember Ohio, is one of two states, the other I believe is Tennessee, that refuse to correct gender on birth certificates.  Ohio was sued in federal court and has lost at both the district and appellate court level.  I’ve seen nothing indicating they’re appealing to the Supreme Court.  So, hence, we shall see.

I had my zoom class with NYU Langone also today.

It was so incredibly powerful. Also many of us, including myself, were crying tears of joy from time to time.

I’m thoroughly convinced I made the right choice in applying to their program.

At the end they had a panel of three women that went through the program and have completed their surgeries in the last year or so.  Their story’s were so inspiring. 

They also had practical tips like get one of those claws on a stick to pick things up off the floor.  It seems bending over is rather uncomfortable for a while.  Like I never thought of my iPhone disowning me after FFS, I would have never thought of bending over being a problem for a while.

Also, I found out their protocols surrounding hormones have changed.  I stop my hormones the day of surgery, and they will provide me estrogen while I’m in the hospital.  Then I restart my hormones after I’m discharged.  That will make Patty sooooo happy!

This is slowly starting to get exciting!

The only hiccup is the NP who I was supposed to see next week has left the practice. So we had to reschedule to 6/24.  I’m ok with it as long as we don’t mess with the 10/22 date.  “That’s” the one I care about!


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« Reply #364 on: June 03, 2021, 06:29:58 pm »
Got another quick update.

I’m on both estradiol and progesterone now.  My body change pause has ended!

My heels and sandals that I wore all last year, without a single problem, are now telling me my feet are different.

Amy, a very close MTF girlfriend was in a bad accident on Memorial Day.  She shattered her right ankle.  Surgery to externally stablize it was done Tuesday.  She was discharged yesterday and Mitzi, spent the day with her.   

Today was my day!

I took her back to Lake Ozarks MO, and we brought her cat back to KC and the place she shares with 2 other people.  (The cat was fine until we tried to put him in the pet taxi.  Yeah, I got scratched…. ) Then I took her to Walmart where I shopped per her instructions to get her the food and personal care items she needed.  I put everything away and we talked a bit.  She went to the living room to sit down and I used the bathroom.

I left quietly as she was sound asleep with the cat on her lap!

So why am I telling this story.  My sandals apparently don’t fit my feet properly any more.

Last summer they were perfect.  This evening I have a blister the size of a dime on my little toe.


Aren’t hormones wonderful!


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Re: Kathryn's Chronicles
« Reply #365 on: June 03, 2021, 11:01:11 pm »
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Dear Kathryn:
Thank you for sharing your update with me and the rest of your followers.
YES INDEED, hormones are powerful things and can change your body in ways that are pleasing to you and/or they can raise havoc.

Regarding changes in feet, in my own personal experience, after just a couple years of HRT my shoe size and width went down a little more than ONE full size.  Then of course the expected and welcome changes in my figure, breasts, face, etc.

Kudos to you for being a wonderful and caring friend to Amy after her accident and injury.  I know that she appreciates the time that you devoted and the things that you have done for her....
.... you have a very kind heart   ... and again Kudos to you !!!

HUGS and more HUGS from me to you.............
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Re: Kathryn's Chronicles
« Reply #366 on: June 04, 2021, 04:49:03 pm »
An update on my legal name change.

My attorney found some updated info from the Ohio Department of Health.

Ohio has decided to comply with the federal court order, and NOT appeal Ray vs. Himes / Ray vs. McCloud.

On May 26th, 2021, the Ohio Department of Health issued a series of guidelines for changing the gender marker on an Ohio birth certificate.  It’s interesting that Ohio uses their probate courts to handle this:  Kansas uses their district court system to process name and gender marker changes.  We obviously noted this little discrepancy.

Well one step at a time.  Let’s get the order from KS first.  That covers my day to day life where I live, and allows me to correct my Federal identity.  Then we can chase Ohio.

At my age, yeah I’d like to have a correct birth certificate, I’m not sure it matters that much to my day-to-day life.

With regard to my shrinking feet…

At least my favorite ballet flats aren’t causing blisters yet.  However, they are looser than they used to be!
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« Reply #367 on: June 09, 2021, 10:48:08 am »
One thing about moving is all the legalish junk.

I am sooo tired of being dead named and misgendered.


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« Reply #368 on: June 10, 2021, 07:13:04 pm »
Progress!!!!!!




(Now I have an excuse!!!)


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« Reply #369 on: June 11, 2021, 12:19:14 am »
I really like the lighter color in my hair!


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« Reply #370 on: June 11, 2021, 02:16:54 am »
Looking great dear and a smile !!!
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« Reply #371 on: June 13, 2021, 06:25:51 pm »
Well not much happening today.

Patty & I went furniture shopping to try and find the last few pieces we need for our new villa.  No luck on finding the ‘That’s It!’ piece.

We did find some possibilities.  Maybe they’ll grow on us.

My mind would wander as we walked through the furniture stores.

It’s starting to become real to me that I’m actually going to be a complete, whole, human woman.  I was asked if I was getting excited yet.  My answer was:  “No.  Actually I think I’m still in disbelief.”

We’re all set to visit NYU next week.

I’ll let you know how that goes!


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« Reply #372 on: June 19, 2021, 07:45:01 am »
Still not much happening.

We go to New York Wednesday & Thursday.

I’ve scheduled my pre-surgery examinations with my Primary Care Physician and Cardiologist.

I see Dr. Markey for my 6 week FFS follow up on Tuesday.  I still have swelling which is starting to bother me.  I feel I went backwards and we undid some of the first surgery.   That said, I know my body’s going to heal in it’s own time.  (It just time for it to get going!)

Finally, I thought I might finally have a ‘you look fabulous darlin’ picture.  I’m glad I looked at it again before I posted it.




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« Reply #373 on: June 20, 2021, 02:32:36 pm »
Well I guess I’ve changed.

We went back to the church where Patty & I went when we first married, this morning. We also took our 92 year old friend Jeannine with us.

Patty & Jeannine were welcomed with open arms.  I went in a few minutes later after I parked our car.

People I knew, including the retired/former pastor (who I’d already outed myself to) kind of blew right past me.  I wasn’t recognized.

I caught up to Patty & Jeannine in the back of the church.  During the conversation somebody asked where Keith (my dead name) was.

Patty calmly answered “She’s standing right behind you.  She goes by Kate now.”


I got a few questions about when I transitioned, and why I made the decision.  I didn’t feel any transphobia or criticism, just people trying to catch up with me and my life.


Next Sunday we’re going back to our church in Joplin MO.  Our priest there has been transferred and it will be his last Mass before he takes over his new parish.  There will be a celebration afterwards.

I consider Fr. J part of my transition team.  When I first came out to him, he didn’t reject me, or lay Catholic doctrines on me.  He simply accepted me as a human trying to be the best person I can be, and ministered to me as any other member of his flock.


We will go back to our old church again.   There is also another church, where I am known, we want to check out.

I guess that’s where I’ve been so blessed.  My family supports me.  My church family supports me.  And, the most important person in my life, Patty, support me.  I can’t ask for anything more.


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Re: Kathryn's Chronicles
« Reply #374 on: June 20, 2021, 10:31:09 pm »
One other note about today.

The progesterone that has been added to my hormone routine has upset Lilly & Rachel - especially Rachel.  Every little bump or rub to Rachel registers an 8 on the 0 to 10 pain scale.

Even a padded bra has not appeased Rachel.  I guess she’s going to be a ….. today!


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Re: Kathryn's Chronicles
« Reply #375 on: June 21, 2021, 12:52:51 am »
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Dear Kathryn:
I really enjoyed reading your recent updates....

Your Patty was so very supportive of your transition...
...I like how she handled the question "Where's Keith?"

The fact that your old pastor did not recognize you should
be a very affirming result of how completely you have changed.

Your comments regarding Lilly & Rachel
and how they are reacting to your HRT now that progesterone
has been added...  is not unusual.   
If you read some of the reports by other members here you will see
that the breast development and sensitivity can many times be unequal.   
For some MTF transitioners, me included, breasts development was uneven
at first but after about 2 years my breast size did finally become just
about equal size.

I loved viewing your photos!!!

Thank you for sharing and posting.
HUGS and more HUGS,
Danielle
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« Reply #376 on: June 23, 2021, 01:32:03 pm »
Well I'm currently airborne to New York.

In the past 90 Minutes I've been dead named and misgendered at least a dozen times.

It just reinforces my belief that a human being airline passenger is nothing more than self-loading cargo as  in Cattle!!!!

I guess it's time to take more Xanax!


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Re: Kathryn's Chronicles
« Reply #377 on: June 23, 2021, 08:26:41 pm »
Well- my flight to New York ended with the following being filed with the US department of transportation:


DAL 5720  MCI-LGA, 6/23/2021

Late in the flight during the period where the flight attendants were collecting the service items prior to landing I was hit with a transphobic slur / micro-aggression.

The flight attendant tried to move past me, even though I had a drink cup to surrender. I caught his attention and handed him the cup at which point he said "Now I have to wash my hands."

Yes I am MTF Transgender. I started my transition in 2018. My legal changes are in work but not yet complete, yet my physical changes can no longer be hidden. He clearly had the information of my status by simply comparing the passenger manifest against my appearance. The comment was deeply hurtful and I left the plane at LGA visibly upset. I did stop and inform the crew of DAL 5720 that I would be filing this complaint.

My trip to New York was not to make any political statement but to meet with my doctors on the morning of the 24th.

I find no reason for a Delta or Republic employee to hit me with a trans slur for simply making a trip to see my doctor. This is totally unacceptable.

I know your simply going to forward this to Delta and/or Republic (it must go to Delta since the flight operated as DAL 5720).

I'm also notifying my attorney of the incident and depending on the response from Delta and Republic I reserve the right to file further legal action.

I was totally compliant with the crew's requests. The flight attendant’s comment was totally unprovoked, uncalled for, and was a clear indication of their prejudices.

Minimally I'm entitled to a formal and professional apology with an indication that the cabin crew of DAL 5720 is being disciplined.

Thank You
Kathryn Janelle Redman
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Re: Kathryn's Chronicles
« Reply #378 on: June 24, 2021, 02:21:31 am »
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Dear Kathryn:
I am deeply saddened to read of your very bad experience as you traveled to see your doctor in NY.

I have no words that will remove your feelings of disappointment, discouragement,  and being demeaned with an uncalled for trans-slur.

In my opinion you did the right thing making sure that the crew was informed of your unsavory experience and that you also submitted a formal complaint to the Airline.

A sincere apology from them would be in order but it will never erase the memory of what you went through.
I also hope and pray that your return flight back home will be much less eventful.

Thank you for sharing.... and I am wishing you well, and wishing your success and happiness in your continued journey.
HUGS, and more HUGS   
Danielle

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« Reply #379 on: July 03, 2021, 07:59:30 am »
Ok.  I’m a little Re-miss in getting this posted.  Actually I started it last week and never finished it.

Sorry ‘bout that.

Thursday’s visit with the Transgender Surgery program at NYU went smooth as silk.

I think Patty asked more questions than I did, which is good.  I’ve been working with the program for roughly a year, this was her first time meeting with them.

We went over the surgery, hospital stay, dilation and pelvic floor physical therapy.  During the second appointment I underwent a bit of a mental health evaluation.

The things that came out of the visit were a mixed bag.

I want to get off the antidepressant because it interferes with my losing weight.  Basically, I’m hungry all the time.   And when I’m not on the antidepressant, I lose 30 pounds like it’s nothing.  NYU’s take is ‘bad idea’.  They’re concerned about a post surgery depression.  OK, they’ve worked with hundreds of women, I’ll accept their recommendation.

I will be working with some pelvic floor PT in New York.  They suggested if I can start early, it would benefit me.

Finally a bummer.  The letter my psychiatrist sent recommending me for surgery misgenders me all over the place.  NYU is concerned that will give Aetna a reason to deny coverage. 

(If you’re wondering about my reaction, just know if I described how I truly felt, this post would end up severely edited by an admin….)

Finally, they took pictures.  What is it with plastic surgeons and pictures???

So when I got back to KC, I made an appointment with therapist, and messaged my Primary Care Physician.

My therapist helped me get set up with a different psychiatrist for a second opinion, and my PCP referred me to a physical therapy practice the can work with the pelvic floor.

I have a copy of the offensive letter, and if need be I’ll talk to Aetna to find out if misgendering would be a problem.

I’ve also made contact with a women’s medical spa who is going to finish up my hair removal and has a medical weight loss program.  I’m going to hold off on the weight loss until I talk to the new psychiatrist.

So how do I feel about this? 

I’m scared!  I’m scared of losing the October 22nd surgery date.  That thought brings tears every time.

Finally, yesterday, Patty and I finalized our travel arrangements for our month in New York.


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