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Re: Why are many people unaccepting of transsexual people?
« Reply #80 on: March 08, 2020, 08:03:39 am »
Thank you Chrissy and Yes I agree.

Always nice to chat with you. Enjoy the rest of the weekend.

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Why are many people unaccepting of transsexual people?
« Reply #81 on: May 19, 2020, 07:03:37 pm »
I was wondering why trans-women are often portrayed with a straight man being attracted to her, then making a pass at her, then at some point, often soon, he has a big surprise finding out she is transgender.  You know, she is typically portrayed as pre-op and he gets upset, panicked, and embarrassed as he is attracted to her.  “She was obviously trying to deceive.” 

Really?  Maybe she was just trying to be her dignified self.   Disclosure makes sense at the right time in a relationship, but really, right away before a relationship has been made?  In fairness, in a dating type of relationship, disclosure timing might be trickier as compared to other relationships that we may be developing.

But why not depict transgender people simply as people who happen to be transgender?
There are many types of transgender people too, not just us MTFs or FTMs.

A greater understanding of transgender folk is needed by society, as well as more truly open minds.

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Re: Why are many people unaccepting of transsexual people?
« Reply #82 on: May 19, 2020, 07:54:09 pm »
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on May 19, 2020, 07:03:37 pm

Plus why not depict transgender people simply as people who happen to be transgender?


Exactly...that was the most awesome thing about Laverne Cox's role in Orange Is the New Black. For the most part, she was just another inmate. And the backstory they did on her character was nuanced and didn't rely on cheap stereotypes to portray the character.

The reality is...most transgender people, especially those who are way past transition, are pretty boring!

I remember a long time ago there was a great cartoon on SFGate during the whole gay marriage hullabaloo back around 2008, and the cartoon depicted social conservatives going completely bonkers about SF legalizing gay marriage, with the second-to-last panel having some priest screaming something to effect, "Who are these crazy people in gay marriages?"

And the final panel was two unshaven, sleepy-eyed guys in their pajamas eating cereal in their breakfast nook looking like any other boring couple in the world.

The reality is the same in our community. Folks out there in the non-trans world: our lives are actually really normal (for the most part)!

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Why are many people unaccepting of transsexual people?
« Reply #83 on: May 31, 2020, 08:51:57 am »
Against Me!:  Transgender Dysphoria Blues

This song has a few “not so nice” words so perhaps I should not post a link to it.
You can find many videos of it on YouTube.  Here is a small lyrics excerpt though. 

I think this song came out about seven or eight years ago.
Maybe someone here knows more about its history and can comment.

“You want them to notice
The ragged ends of your summer dress
You want them to see you like they see any other girl
They just see a fa***t
They hold their breath not to catch the sick.”

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Re: Why are many people unaccepting of transsexual people?
« Reply #84 on: June 04, 2020, 05:54:42 am »
for what's worth, lack of understanding
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Re: Why are many people unaccepting of transsexual people?
« Reply #85 on: December 06, 2020, 09:40:04 pm »
Thank you all for sharing out your thoughts.

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Be a good example of good behavior.  Always be kinder than needed.  Be tender to others.  You are as beautiful as the thoughts you think and the words that your speak.   Always stay cheerful, be polite, kind, and understanding.  Knowledge and action shown without love is not impressive.  If you look for the good in people you will find it. Healthy relationships are so important to good living.  Serve others.

Good living, joy, unity, love, and happiness can come from following these practices: Never let selfishness or conceit motivate you.  Regard others as more important than yourself.  Do not limit attention to only your interests, but include the interests of others. 

It is not usually about how fast you transition, it is about how well you transition.  

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Why are many people unaccepting of transsexual people?
« Reply #86 on: December 20, 2020, 08:51:30 am »
Sometimes people can be so unkind with their actions and words.

Have a nice day everyone.  Show love to others, as I think many of you likely do regularly.

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Be a good example of good behavior.  Always be kinder than needed.  Be tender to others.  You are as beautiful as the thoughts you think and the words that your speak.   Always stay cheerful, be polite, kind, and understanding.  Knowledge and action shown without love is not impressive.  If you look for the good in people you will find it. Healthy relationships are so important to good living.  Serve others.

Good living, joy, unity, love, and happiness can come from following these practices: Never let selfishness or conceit motivate you.  Regard others as more important than yourself.  Do not limit attention to only your interests, but include the interests of others. 

It is not usually about how fast you transition, it is about how well you transition.  

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Re: Why are many people unaccepting of transsexual people?
« Reply #87 on: February 13, 2021, 04:56:18 am »
Thank you all for sharing!

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Be a good example of good behavior.  Always be kinder than needed.  Be tender to others.  You are as beautiful as the thoughts you think and the words that your speak.   Always stay cheerful, be polite, kind, and understanding.  Knowledge and action shown without love is not impressive.  If you look for the good in people you will find it. Healthy relationships are so important to good living.  Serve others.

Good living, joy, unity, love, and happiness can come from following these practices: Never let selfishness or conceit motivate you.  Regard others as more important than yourself.  Do not limit attention to only your interests, but include the interests of others. 

It is not usually about how fast you transition, it is about how well you transition.  
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