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Re: Sexual orientation?
« Reply #200 on: April 03, 2019, 12:58:47 am »
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Re: Sexual orientation?
« Reply #201 on: April 08, 2019, 03:21:02 pm »
I think mine has shifted somewhat but not done a dramatic 180. 

I discovered that my dial has another hand!

The hand my dial had before HRT stayed where it was and then, POP, there's another!  It's kinda pointing the opposite direction! :o

I'm still physically and emotionally attracted to women, but, contrary to the answer I always came up with to the question I'd been asking myself all my life, I COULD be attracted to a man, but only after beginning HRT.  I used to ask myself and ask myself if I even could  be attracted to a man and that answer was always "no".  I don't think it was internalized homophobia, I just genuinely did not see anything attractive about them, their bodies nor their minds.

Then it hit.  My best friend of a couple of decades was one of the first people I came out to.  He told me he fully supported me if I didn't hit on him  I'm like, yeah, no problem!  I'm attracted to women only!  That didn't last long.  Along comes HRT and I start fantasizing about him.  I realize that maybe there was a reason we'd been best friends for so long.  Then I did start hitting on him at parties when I'd lost my inhibitions.  Then came the inevitable end of our friendship.

Damned second puberty!

I've come to realize that I am now semi-demi-pan.  I can be aroused by a body, but in the end, I only want to be in a relationship with someone whose mind is compatible with my own.  I was madly in love with my ex-wife and I still love her, and I was madly in love with my soon-to-be ex-husband, and I will always love him, as well.

But physically, I am still more attracted to women and I miss being intimate with a woman.  Still, once I have GRS...I can certainly see the benefit of being intimate with a man! ;)

While I have this one remaining part, I have no desire to use it in any way and could happily exist pleasing my partner, only.  I need no physical pleasure to get intense romantic pleasure from my partner.  The thought of anal is not appealing to me, whatsoever, possibly from a dysphoria standpoint, but mostly because it's more like the back of a Volkswagon (Mallrats reference).

This is a very interesting subject for me and I'm sorry if I went long (again).
2003-2004 -- Gradual transition -- I didn't correct pronouns and people basically settled on the right ones on their own.
late 2004 -- Orchiectomy.
Late 2015 -- Stupidly saw the political climate and spurned on by my husband's request for a divorce I detransitioned.
2019 -- Rebuilding my wardrobe so I can retransition.  Turns out I cain't bury my true self, after all.  I call these last few years my failed experiment.  At least I found my true feelings were real.

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Re: Sexual orientation?
« Reply #202 on: April 08, 2019, 04:39:19 pm »

While I have this one remaining part, I have no desire to use it in any way and could happily exist pleasing my partner, only.  I need no physical pleasure to get intense romantic pleasure from my partner.  The thought of anal is not appealing to me, whatsoever, possibly from a dysphoria standpoint, but mostly because it's more like the back of a Volkswagon (Mallrats reference).

This is a very interesting subject for me and I'm sorry if I went long (again).
I am pretty much with you, pleasing is more rewarding than being pleased, and my back door will stay shut for good.  I never compared it with the rear of my beetle though, cause mine looked great.  I had it's engine replaced with the 1600 Porsche engine, and for extra cooling I had a device that kept the rear hatch open for several inches, which gave it kind of a spoiler look!
My baby (it was a convertible) was screaming hot!
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Re: Sexual orientation?
« Reply #203 on: April 08, 2019, 04:47:16 pm »
I am pretty much with you, pleasing is more rewarding than being pleased, and my back door will stay shut for good.  I never compared it with the rear of my beetle though, cause mine looked great.  I had it's engine replaced with the 1600 Porsche engine, and for extra cooling I had a device that kept the rear hatch open for several inches, which gave it kind of a spoiler look!
My baby (it was a convertible) was screaming hot!

Girls and their toys. :D

On the back door thing...I've tried a couple of times with my husband and found it extremely uncomfortable.
2003-2004 -- Gradual transition -- I didn't correct pronouns and people basically settled on the right ones on their own.
late 2004 -- Orchiectomy.
Late 2015 -- Stupidly saw the political climate and spurned on by my husband's request for a divorce I detransitioned.
2019 -- Rebuilding my wardrobe so I can retransition.  Turns out I cain't bury my true self, after all.  I call these last few years my failed experiment.  At least I found my true feelings were real.

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Re: Sexual orientation?
« Reply #204 on: April 08, 2019, 07:33:49 pm »
Ok since we are through the looking glass I will push the conversation a bit more.  Never been with a guy, would I ?
I don't know maybe.  But I got to tell you shortly after my transition my therapist suggested I go to an upscale sex toy store.  Actually quite nice.  Run by 2 lesbians in the hip area of town,  ( Linde, it's in uptown )  anyway my therapist says 'try a prostate stimulator'.  Uh, ok I guess.

So I go in there they were super nice and relaxed and I leave with my cis-girl/friend with a prostate vibrator.  Smaller than an average penis.  OH MY GOD !!!  It feels great. 

I could have never imagined myself getting anything back 'there'.  Seriously zero intention.  This thing is the best.
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Re: Sexual orientation?
« Reply #205 on: April 08, 2019, 07:44:02 pm »
Ok since we are through the looking glass I will push the conversation a bit more.  Never been with a guy, would I ?
I don't know maybe.  But I got to tell you shortly after my transition my therapist suggested I go to an upscale sex toy store.  Actually quite nice.  Run by 2 lesbians in the hip area of town,  ( Linde, it's in uptown )  anyway my therapist says 'try a prostate stimulator'.  Uh, ok I guess.

So I go in there they were super nice and relaxed and I leave with my cis-girl/friend with a prostate vibrator.  Smaller than an average penis.  OH MY GOD !!!  It feels great. 

I could have never imagined myself getting anything back 'there'.  Seriously zero intention.  This thing is the best.
You are really fancy?  Going shopping uptown the lady, eh?

I tried specifically one of those specially made prostate vibrators (from the same company that makes the blue tooth controlled vagina vibrators).
It did not work, it was worse than the cold finger of the doc during the annual inspection!
I just can't do anything back there!
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Re: Sexual orientation?
« Reply #206 on: April 08, 2019, 08:47:15 pm »
Uptown?

Does every large metro area have an Uptown?  Or are we taking Hennepin/Lake/Lyndale?

Sorry if that's too personal.  I'm just looking for resources in this general area. :)
2003-2004 -- Gradual transition -- I didn't correct pronouns and people basically settled on the right ones on their own.
late 2004 -- Orchiectomy.
Late 2015 -- Stupidly saw the political climate and spurned on by my husband's request for a divorce I detransitioned.
2019 -- Rebuilding my wardrobe so I can retransition.  Turns out I cain't bury my true self, after all.  I call these last few years my failed experiment.  At least I found my true feelings were real.

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Re: Sexual orientation?
« Reply #207 on: April 08, 2019, 09:39:17 pm »
Tribble !!!!  My sister from another mother  :D  Yes I am talking Hennepin/Lyndale/Lake.  I didn't know you are here.  :)

We have to get together.  Yeah it's called the Smitten Kitten.  It's just south of Lake on Lyndale.

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Re: Sexual orientation?
« Reply #208 on: April 08, 2019, 11:06:16 pm »
Yikes!  Sis!  I guess that's why we take shots in the dark, right? :D

I've heard of Smitten Kitten but have never been there.

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2003-2004 -- Gradual transition -- I didn't correct pronouns and people basically settled on the right ones on their own.
late 2004 -- Orchiectomy.
Late 2015 -- Stupidly saw the political climate and spurned on by my husband's request for a divorce I detransitioned.
2019 -- Rebuilding my wardrobe so I can retransition.  Turns out I cain't bury my true self, after all.  I call these last few years my failed experiment.  At least I found my true feelings were real.

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Re: Sexual orientation?
« Reply #209 on: April 08, 2019, 11:44:59 pm »
Ladies, we really have to have a get together when i am later this year.  I plan to be there (if i can, for June, July and August),  My son gets married in mid June, and I want to ride out the heat down here up north wit you guys.  if any of you know a place that I can park my motorome for an extended time for little money (I need hookups, but can pay for that extra), please let me know.  I will tow my car behind, and will be pretty mobile when up there!

We could do lots of fun stuff together!
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Re: Sexual orientation?
« Reply #210 on: April 09, 2019, 01:58:11 am »
Thanks, ladies! I love you! As a female, I've always been attracted to boys, men. I married a female to "cure" myself, but that didn't work. I currently date men.

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Re: Sexual orientation?
« Reply #211 on: April 09, 2019, 07:21:40 pm »
Ladies, we really have to have a get together when i am later this year.  I plan to be there (if i can, for June, July and August),  My son gets married in mid June, and I want to ride out the heat down here up north wit you guys.  if any of you know a place that I can park my motorome for an extended time for little money (I need hookups, but can pay for that extra), please let me know.  I will tow my car behind, and will be pretty mobile when up there!

We could do lots of fun stuff together!

ABSOLUTELY !!!  As for where to park the mobile home the only place I know of is at Mystic Lake Casino - They have what looks like a nice enough place but I doubt you would want to be there for a few months.  As for getting together that's for sure.
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Re: Sexual orientation?
« Reply #212 on: April 10, 2019, 10:34:29 am »
The best way to figure out if you like something is to try it.  That's my feeling on the subject anyway.
         IMHO this is correct, @Dieland posted a more lengthy reply elsewhere but think about it -> unlike male based "first experiences" enjoying heterosexual sex as woman does not come naturally, takes some getting used to is otherwise "learned".
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Re: Sexual orientation?
« Reply #213 on: April 14, 2019, 06:23:59 pm »
I am pansexual, though if I'm honest I feel the strongest pull towards other Trans individuals, of all shades.
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Re: Sexual orientation?
« Reply #214 on: April 15, 2019, 02:32:44 pm »
I considered myself asexual before transition... but now things are changing as I open up... I am attracted to other women, but as men get attracted to me their behavior usually disgust me (trying to impress, but failing horribly)... this led me to believe I am lesbian, although still with that sapioromantic view.

I even have more feeling towards trans men than cis men... But I can't describe it very well other than they don't seem like a ''wild beast'' in heat unlike cis men?

I once had a man try to impress me, as I walked my green light to cross the intersection... roared his engine when I was in front of his car... I ran ''to safety'' startled like no tomorrow... then waved my hand like shooing someone unimpressed.
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Re: Sexual orientation?
« Reply #215 on: April 28, 2019, 04:35:41 pm »
I consider myself to be straight.
I am into men.
Hormones have not changed that at all.
If anything it even strengthened my attraction towards males.

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Re: Sexual orientation?
« Reply #216 on: April 28, 2019, 04:59:13 pm »
I’m definitely a lesbian

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Re: Sexual orientation?
« Reply #217 on: April 28, 2019, 07:07:03 pm »
Lesbian as can be

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Re: Sexual orientation?
« Reply #218 on: May 02, 2019, 11:05:39 am »
In my teens, I was beaten up a lot, so I was afraid of most males.  I have never propositioned anyone but when I was young, women occasionally propositioned me and I tried to have sex with them but was unable to.  I was not disgusted by their bodies, though, and even got emotional satisfaction from trying to give them pleasure with my mouth.  It was not enough for them, though, and I gave up on women.

There was a period in which I fantasised about women with body hair, muscles and penises but after a while, I had to admit to myself that I physically like men.  No man has ever propositioned me, though.

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Re: Sexual orientation?
« Reply #219 on: May 02, 2019, 11:08:47 am »
This is a cool and relevant topic that I think would be a good poll.  I would love to see a breakdown of how we all feel on this topic. 

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