When I was discussing this on another website, the other day, a post-op trans woman told me that I shouldn’t call myself a binary trans woman because a binary trans woman would die over the fact of having a penis between her legs permanently. She insisted that non-binary was my label. It kind of made me feel enraged and feel sorry for her narrow mindedness at the same time.
I mean, I am a woman, whatever my parts are.
You are absolutely correct.
I haven't made my decision on SRS, and it's years away for me even if I do choose to do it. I'm not even sure whether I'm going to do hormones! I may decide not to because of a family history of breast cancer. What good are hormones to me if I then get breast cancer? So I'll have to weigh that decision up.
And I've a long wait before I even have to make that decision! (UK NHS...)
I am a trans woman which is a subcategory of woman just as an equilateral triangle is a subcategory of triangle. It isn't that I have known since a young age or anything like that; all I knew from a young age was that I was significantly different than most boys. When I started experimenting, I found that I was considerably happier living life as a woman than as a man in nearly all experiments that I've carried out.
I accept the hardships that come with being female too. I wore pointed stilettos to an interview today. They absolutely killed my toes! If I was non-binary, I could have worn men's shoes to that interview; perhaps even I could have presented as male to it. There's just no way I was going to do that. I used to say for a long time that if I ever tried presenting as a woman, I'd do the best job I could. Well, now I'm doing it.
You're definitely in the club.
Ellie
