@Jane.Shannon
Dear Jane:
This type of surgery would make most men cringe, but as the transitioning woman
you are this certainly can be an important step.
HUGS and as always, best wishes to you,
Danielle
Thank you, you are always so supportive!!!
I think that is a very interesting note, about this procedure making most men cringe. I cannot think of "how trans are you?" questions. I guess since I see such a surgery being a step forward, a step in a positive direction means I am trans enough. I know the "trans enough" question process is toxic, but I cannot help but reflect on it, as I used to wonder that very question. I have known I was trans for years now, but I only started figuring out what being trans means in the last two years.
I will admit to a certain sadness about it, but ironically not at the loss of a body part. I think this will be too far for my wife, she has no interesting being physical with another woman. I have known I needed to transition for a long time, but I still wish I didn't need to do so. As the dysphoria wanes, I know more and more what I need to do to feel like a whole person. We still have a very close, loving relationship, but I miss having a love affair that is emotional, spiritual, and physical.
I think back on a question poised years ago on another forum. "If you ran into Morpheus, from the Matrix, and he offered you the blue pill, to be fully male, or the pink, to be fully female. Which would you take?" My answer then, and still today, is that given the choice I would take the pink pill. Without hesitation, doubt, or looking back, But if he me offered me only the blue pill, I would take that it just to not be trans.