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I can't tell if I like girls, or if I want to be one
« on: May 26, 2019, 08:28:48 pm »
I've had this question for about 2 years now and it seems to be a question that I cannot answer, however much I try. Sometimes when I see a cute girl, a girl with nice hair, a girl with nice makeup, a nice outfit, etc. I'm not sure if I feel attraction or a feeling of "I want to be like that". Can somebody please help?

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Re: I can't tell if I like girls, or if I want to be one
« Reply #1 on: May 26, 2019, 08:52:27 pm »
I've had this question for about 2 years now and it seems to be a question that I cannot answer, however much I try. Sometimes when I see a cute girl, a girl with nice hair, a girl with nice makeup, a nice outfit, etc. I'm not sure if I feel attraction or a feeling of "I want to be like that". Can somebody please help?
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Re: I can't tell if I like girls, or if I want to be one
« Reply #2 on: May 26, 2019, 09:02:37 pm »
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Re: I can't tell if I like girls, or if I want to be one
« Reply #3 on: May 26, 2019, 09:09:31 pm »
I'm not sure if I feel attraction or a feeling of "I want to be like that"

why not both ?

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Re: I can't tell if I like girls, or if I want to be one
« Reply #4 on: May 26, 2019, 09:15:37 pm »
why not both ?

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Good point, but no. I don't know if I want the features a girl would have, or if I am attracted to them.

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Re: I can't tell if I like girls, or if I want to be one
« Reply #5 on: May 27, 2019, 01:16:44 am »
Hi Average,

I know exactly what you're saying. But with me I knew that 100%, without a doubt I wanted to be like them...I also wanted to be with them. That's why I've spent the last 35 years telling people I was a lesbian, which was LONG before I ever thought of transitioning. I think in my own little way I was also "coming out" to people without saying the words.

Sadly no one ever picked up on that so my secret stayed safe. I really wish it hadn't though because if I had had the courage, I wouldn't be just now starting to transition at the age of 50. I would have already had the body that I know I've wanted for most of my life. I knew that I wanted to be a female back when I was 5, and that never once changed for me.

Hope that helps,

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Re: I can't tell if I like girls, or if I want to be one
« Reply #6 on: June 29, 2019, 11:44:44 pm »
Heya,

As a younger person myself this was something I definitely considered.

For me it was the following: I used to sit in class and could never work out if I was attracted to or envious.
I had flings and serious relationships with girls and when with them I found I couldn't enjoy anything physical as I just wanted everything they had. Whenever I went out with my partner, sure I was attracted to them but was more uncomfortable with the realism that I dated people I wanted to be.

It's a question that even now I occasionally think about but with a little while on HRT, seeing breasts grow and me splitting pants because I have a butt, not to mention some severe fat redistribution and gaining ( I have always been lean) I have honestly never been so ecstatic and love my partner for who she is, not out of envy. Not to mention I have SRS in less than two months and am honestly stoked. Petrified to go under anesthetic but so very keen to be able to live the right way.

 

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