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Re: Have any of you took a week or so to try out "full-time" away from your city?
« Reply #100 on: July 19, 2021, 08:32:59 am »
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You need to be more like me, just do it with confidence and dont give a fig what anyone thinks.
Ah, the holy grail of confidence
It took me years to discard the paranoia and feel confident and that confidence remains a fragile creature for me - as you say, if one can develop your attitude the world really is your mollusc of choice


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Re: Have any of you took a week or so to try out "full-time" away from your city?
« Reply #101 on: July 19, 2021, 07:16:49 pm »
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The secret I think is to dial down the paranoia for a while if possible - Ironic me saying that of course


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Pammie,

Day 2 went smooth.  Day 3, today, was okay too. 
Enjoyed an early evening meal. 

Have a great week!

Chrissy
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Re: Have any of you took a week or so to try out "full-time" away from your city?
« Reply #102 on: July 19, 2021, 08:10:42 pm »
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Pammie,

Day 2 went smooth.  Day 3, today, was okay too. 
Enjoyed an early evening meal. 

Have a great week!

Chrissy
That’s brilliant! You must be feeling pretty good! Well done Chrissy!! Xx


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Re: Have any of you took a week or so to try out "full-time" away from your city?
« Reply #103 on: July 20, 2021, 12:42:09 pm »
And now day 4? Then 5? And ever onward! Good for you Chrissy.

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Re: Have any of you took a week or so to try out "full-time" away from your city?
« Reply #104 on: July 20, 2021, 02:45:24 pm »
I travelled across the country and lived in small towns in a few states since transitioning.  If I can do that, y'all should be able to do a week stint away from your cities, no sweat.
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Have any of you took a week or so to try out “full-time” away from your city?
« Reply #105 on: July 20, 2021, 08:06:21 pm »
Quote from: RandiL on July 20, 2021, 12:42:09 pm
And now day 4? Then 5? And ever onward! Good for you Chrissy.

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Your smart telephone is NOT smarter than you Randi.

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Good living, joy, unity, love, and happiness can come from following these practices: Never let selfishness or conceit motivate you.  Regard others as more important than yourself.  Do not limit attention to only your interests, but include the interests of others. 

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Re: Have any of you took a week or so to try out "full-time" away from your city?
« Reply #106 on: July 20, 2021, 08:08:17 pm »
Quote from: Lady Sarah on July 20, 2021, 02:45:24 pm
I travelled across the country and lived in small towns in a few states since transitioning.  If I can do that, y'all should be able to do a week stint away from your cities, no sweat.

Well this does not come easy.  I may never go full time.  I got a number of looks today.  Calling them “curious” may be a generous and kind description.

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Good living, joy, unity, love, and happiness can come from following these practices: Never let selfishness or conceit motivate you.  Regard others as more important than yourself.  Do not limit attention to only your interests, but include the interests of others. 

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Have any of you took a week or so to try out “full-time” away from your city?
« Reply #107 on: July 20, 2021, 08:09:40 pm »
Quote from: RandiL on July 20, 2021, 12:42:09 pm
And now day 4? Then 5? And ever onward! Good for you Chrissy.

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Yup, day four.

Randi, I wish you a wonderful evening and the rest of the week too!

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Good living, joy, unity, love, and happiness can come from following these practices: Never let selfishness or conceit motivate you.  Regard others as more important than yourself.  Do not limit attention to only your interests, but include the interests of others. 

It is not usually about how fast you transition, it is about how well you transition.  

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Re: Have any of you took a week or so to try out "full-time" away from your city?
« Reply #108 on: July 22, 2021, 01:46:15 pm »
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on July 20, 2021, 08:08:17 pm
Well this does not come easy.  I may never go full time.  I got a number of looks today.  Calling them “curious” may be a generous and kind description.

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Dear Chrissy:
I have been avidly following your "week or so" journey being out and about as Chrissy.
Do not despair regarding the curious looks that you have been getting.... 

Consider your adventure this last week as a learning experience.  As you continue to
be out and about you can learn and practice....

Please stay as POSITIVE as you can regarding being out as Chrissy and your thoughts
of perhaps going Full Time... negative thoughts can produce negative results.

How many more days to you plan to be out and about? ???

Thank you for sharing and posting.

HUGS and warm thoughts to you from me.
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Have any of you took a week or so to try out "full-time" away from your city?
« Reply #109 on: July 23, 2021, 08:05:51 pm »
Day 7 today.

I think at best some days have exceeded expectations much of the time, most days get a “passing” grade, and one or maybe two not that good - but it has been good to try again.  I may try again this fall.  We will see what the next day brings. 

At least I do not have such an extreme dysphoria where I think continually that I absolutely must be full-time.
I should be grateful, and am for that, because I am not ready for full time.

It is nice to be out though and to be away from many responsibilities.

I know that when out as male no one seems to think I am female.  Would not it be nice to have male fail no matter how you are dressed?  A veritable MTF’s dream situation that is.  When out as female, there is not a 100% perception that I am female.  Maybe better though this time as compared to prior multi-day outings on a couple of days. 

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Be a good example of good behavior.  Always be kinder than needed.  Be tender to others.  You are as beautiful as the thoughts you think and the words that you speak.   Always stay cheerful, be polite, kind, and understanding.  Knowledge and action shown without love is not impressive.  If you look for the good in people you will find it. Healthy relationships are so important to good living.  Serve others.

Good living, joy, unity, love, and happiness can come from following these practices: Never let selfishness or conceit motivate you.  Regard others as more important than yourself.  Do not limit attention to only your interests, but include the interests of others. 

It is not usually about how fast you transition, it is about how well you transition.  

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Re: Have any of you took a week or so to try out "full-time" away from your city?
« Reply #110 on: July 24, 2021, 12:46:18 am »
Chrissy, awesome that you're getting out there as yourself! Step by step...

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Have any of you took a week or so to try out full-time” away from your city?
« Reply #111 on: July 24, 2021, 04:18:52 pm »
Quote from: RandiL on July 24, 2021, 12:46:18 am
Chrissy, awesome that you're getting out there as yourself! Step by step...

My smartphone thinks it's smarter than me. It's probably right.

Well I am headed back home soon, although I am not too far away on this adventure.
In fact I needed to get back home one day for an appointment so I already was back once.

Lots of hiking, shopping, meals away from home, and relaxing too.  It has been nice.


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Be a good example of good behavior.  Always be kinder than needed.  Be tender to others.  You are as beautiful as the thoughts you think and the words that you speak.   Always stay cheerful, be polite, kind, and understanding.  Knowledge and action shown without love is not impressive.  If you look for the good in people you will find it. Healthy relationships are so important to good living.  Serve others.

Good living, joy, unity, love, and happiness can come from following these practices: Never let selfishness or conceit motivate you.  Regard others as more important than yourself.  Do not limit attention to only your interests, but include the interests of others. 

It is not usually about how fast you transition, it is about how well you transition.  

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Re: Have any of you took a week or so to try out "full-time" away from your city?
« Reply #112 on: July 25, 2021, 01:11:41 pm »
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on July 24, 2021, 04:18:52 pm
Well I am headed back home soon, although I am not too far away on this adventure.
In fact I needed to get back home one day for an appointment so I already was back once.

Lots of hiking, shopping, meals away from home, and relaxing too.  It has been nice.


Chrissy


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Well done you! I think that’s such a great way of getting used to presenting as the real you! Xxx


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Have any of you took a week or so to try out “full-time” away from your city?
« Reply #113 on: August 01, 2021, 10:04:44 pm »
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Well done you! I think that’s such a great way of getting used to presenting as the real you! Xxx


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It did not come easily.  It seems like a lot of work.  Voice is still not good enough.
I will strive to improve.

But it is nice being out and about more than usual.  The mask may have made it easier at times but if it did, perhaps this was not as helpful of an extended experience as in the past.   

Wishing everyone the best as they transition….  :)

Be safe.

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Be a good example of good behavior.  Always be kinder than needed.  Be tender to others.  You are as beautiful as the thoughts you think and the words that you speak.   Always stay cheerful, be polite, kind, and understanding.  Knowledge and action shown without love is not impressive.  If you look for the good in people you will find it. Healthy relationships are so important to good living.  Serve others.

Good living, joy, unity, love, and happiness can come from following these practices: Never let selfishness or conceit motivate you.  Regard others as more important than yourself.  Do not limit attention to only your interests, but include the interests of others. 

It is not usually about how fast you transition, it is about how well you transition.  

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« Reply #114 on: August 02, 2021, 08:30:15 am »
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on August 01, 2021, 10:04:44 pm

It did not come easily.  It seems like a lot of work.  Voice is still not good enough.
I will strive to improve.

But it is nice being out and about more than usual.  The mask may have made it easier at times but if it did, perhaps this was not as helpful of an extended experience as in the past.   

Wishing everyone the best as they transition….  :)

Be safe.

Chrissy
I think that voice might well be a permanent WIP - it is for me anyway! Don’t underplay what you did, it’s great experience and an important part of your journey. Well done hun! Xxx


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« Reply #115 on: August 15, 2021, 08:50:50 pm »
Quote from: Pammie on August 02, 2021, 08:30:15 am
I think that voice might well be a permanent WIP - it is for me anyway! Don’t underplay what you did, it’s great experience and an important part of your journey. Well done hun! Xxx



Thank you @Pammie

I still have a lot more confidence to gain. 


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Be a good example of good behavior.  Always be kinder than needed.  Be tender to others.  You are as beautiful as the thoughts you think and the words that you speak.   Always stay cheerful, be polite, kind, and understanding.  Knowledge and action shown without love is not impressive.  If you look for the good in people you will find it. Healthy relationships are so important to good living.  Serve others.

Good living, joy, unity, love, and happiness can come from following these practices: Never let selfishness or conceit motivate you.  Regard others as more important than yourself.  Do not limit attention to only your interests, but include the interests of others. 

It is not usually about how fast you transition, it is about how well you transition.  

Pammie

Re: Have any of you took a week or so to try out "full-time" away from your city?
« Reply #116 on: August 16, 2021, 04:12:57 pm »
Quote from: ChrissyRyan on August 15, 2021, 08:50:50 pm

Thank you @Pammie

I still have a lot more confidence to gain. 


Chrissy
Rome was not built in a day but from your posts it feels like you are getting more confident and that’s all really good progress! Go you hun! Xx


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Have any of you took a week or so to try out "full-time" away from your city?
« Reply #117 on: August 21, 2021, 06:39:47 am »
Weekends can make for a nice time out and about too when taking a week or more cannot fit in your schedule.

Speaking of weekends, everyone enjoy yours!   :)


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Be a good example of good behavior.  Always be kinder than needed.  Be tender to others.  You are as beautiful as the thoughts you think and the words that you speak.   Always stay cheerful, be polite, kind, and understanding.  Knowledge and action shown without love is not impressive.  If you look for the good in people you will find it. Healthy relationships are so important to good living.  Serve others.

Good living, joy, unity, love, and happiness can come from following these practices: Never let selfishness or conceit motivate you.  Regard others as more important than yourself.  Do not limit attention to only your interests, but include the interests of others. 

It is not usually about how fast you transition, it is about how well you transition.  

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Have any of you took a week or so to try out "full-time" away from your city?
« Reply #118 on: December 29, 2021, 09:45:04 pm »
With COVID-19 falling up again, I will wait until safer times to try this again.

Try to stay warm everyone in the Northern part of our world!


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Be a good example of good behavior.  Always be kinder than needed.  Be tender to others.  You are as beautiful as the thoughts you think and the words that you speak.   Always stay cheerful, be polite, kind, and understanding.  Knowledge and action shown without love is not impressive.  If you look for the good in people you will find it. Healthy relationships are so important to good living.  Serve others.

Good living, joy, unity, love, and happiness can come from following these practices: Never let selfishness or conceit motivate you.  Regard others as more important than yourself.  Do not limit attention to only your interests, but include the interests of others. 

It is not usually about how fast you transition, it is about how well you transition.  
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