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Shortygirl055:
So, I'm a cis girl who is dating someone for several months now, who is currently a male wanting to transition into a female at some point. First, let me say that I knew he's transgender before he mentioned it because on the website we're both on, he states it in his bio. (right now as well, he goes by his male name and everything) For several months, we just talked once in a while. Then one day we started talking a lot more and became closer, we started dating and it's been great, we're happy and everything and we both hope our relationship lasts and we both love each other.

The main reason why I'm posting this is because I guess I could use some advice. Now, he asked me if I would still be with him when the time came to him fully changing... my answer- I said yes, I would and that's the truth. Being transgender honestly doesn't me like it might some. I knew that eventually the topic of the transition would be brought up and possibly my answer surprised him because from what he has told me, his last relationship, the person he was seeing didn't approve of him being transgender. I went into this relationship knowing it and I don't think that mind-set will ever change as far as I can tell in the see-able future. 

My question for advice is this, currently my family doesn't know any of this. And to mention, my family has met my SO.
It's mostly because I know how they would react and I guess at the same time, I didn't know if I should be the only one to tell them, or if he should with me, if the time came? I haven't currently brought this thought up to him yet mostly because I honestly don't know what the reaction would be and sometimes when I need to bring up a topic to someone, I tend to over-think, freak out inside thinking that I'm going to make them mad ect with what I have to say. He doesn't know that I haven't told my family and in my opinion, I feel like I don't care what my family thinks anyway because it is my life and everything. But when the time came to me telling them, I'm not sure how to go about it exactly. Any and all advice is greatly appreciated, thank you.

Northern Star Girl:
@Shortygirl055
Dear ShortyGirl:
    Please know that I am not ignoring or trying to sidetrack your post... , but FIRST THINGS FIRST, you need to be Officially Welcomed and given important rules and information about the Susan's Place Forums.  I am very glad to see that you have signed up as a member.

    As you post here on the forums you will be able to exchange thoughts and comments with others that are experiencing many of the same things that you wrote about.
 
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Northern Star Girl:
@Shortygirl055
OH, and another thing ShortyGirl:
Please plan to write a post and briefly introduce yourself in the Introductions Forum so that other members will be aware of your arrival... therefore you will be able to share your thoughts with more members here.
     
Thank you again for joining Susan's Place and being involved in the Forums here.
Best wishes to you,
Danielle
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Jessica:
Hi ShortyGirl 🙋‍♀️ Welcome to Susan’s Place!
Communication is the key to relationships in general.  I would sit down with your SO and discuss this with them.  Clear understanding of each other’s thoughts is needed.  Do they want to transition soon?  If you both can develop a dialogue that can express the situation to family, it may be best to talk to them together. 
You say you know how your family will react, do you presume acceptance?
If they do, they may appreciate the face to face with your SO.

I purposely highlighted (in blue) pronouns that reflect indecision of gender as you have addressed your SO as “him” but that there is thought of future transitioning to female.  Does your SO have a preference at the moment?

I also noticed that our lovely Northern Star*Girl @Alaskan Danielle has greeted you with her charm and grace.  She provided some very helpful links to information that will help you get the most out of the site.  Please give them a look see 🌸🌸🌸

Another thought for you is there are other couples who are both members.  Maybe your SO might garner help themselves.

Hugs and smiles, Jessica

Shortygirl055:

--- Quote from: Jessica on July 10, 2019, 02:04:59 pm ---Hi ShortyGirl 🙋‍♀️ Welcome to Susan’s Place!
Communication is the key to relationships in general.  I would sit down with your SO and discuss this with them.  Clear understanding of each other’s thoughts is needed.  Do they want to transition soon?  If you both can develop a dialogue that can express the situation to family, it may be best to talk to them together. 
You say you know how your family will react, do you presume acceptance?
If they do, they may appreciate the face to face with your SO.

I purposely highlighted (in blue) pronouns that reflect indecision of gender as you have addressed your SO as “him” but that there is thought of future transitioning to female.  Does your SO have a preference at the moment?

I also noticed that our lovely Northern Star*Girl @Alaskan Danielle has greeted you with her charm and grace.  She provided some very helpful links to information that will help you get the most out of the site.  Please give them a look see 🌸🌸🌸

Another thought for you is there are other couples who are both members.  Maybe your SO might garner help themselves.

Hugs and smiles, Jessica

--- End quote ---

Hi, thank you for replying. Currently, my SO doesn't mind "he" or "she" when referring. When it comes to my family, I don't think they will accept it, more be against it and wonder why I would agree to be with someone who is wanting to change themselves like that. I don't believe the transition will happen anytime soon because they have said they've been transgender for roughly two years. I have only been in their life for a little over a year now, but they mentioned they want to start the transition at some point.

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