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Re: Getting Cloccked:
« Reply #20 on: November 16, 2020, 10:27:46 pm »
Hey Barbie,

You look like you are in front of La Bonbonera, "The Candy Bowl" soccer stadium for the La Boca soccer team in the La Boca district of Buenos Aires.  I have had dinner just around the corner from there, and I also lived in Buenos Aires for over 10 years.  A wonderful place.  You see those men looking at you?  They are not only working class but alsothey and no one else sees women there in the streets in any kind of shorts!  I really like your look there.  Thanks for bring back great memories.

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Re: Getting Cloccked:
« Reply #21 on: November 17, 2020, 07:39:26 pm »
yeah, that's another issue, In NY I'd sometimes wear the stuff you're just wearing at the market, but I'm in Bogota, fairly safe but still, don't wanna push the envelope; mostly because I tend to go out at night rather than during the day, things change drastically here after business closing


In South American cities, I tend to care about security, and do not wear high heels. I wear flat sandals or athletic shoes for running away at any time.


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Re: Getting Cloccked:
« Reply #22 on: November 17, 2020, 07:46:55 pm »
Right, that's the other thing, I was amazed when my wife made me realize: ALL women here use pants! only grannies or fancy ladies going out use skirts or dresses, it's cold all year round
Hey Barbie,

You look like you are in front of La Bonbonera, "The Candy Bowl" soccer stadium for the La Boca soccer team in the La Boca district of Buenos Aires.  I have had dinner just around the corner from there, and I also lived in Buenos Aires for over 10 years.  A wonderful place.  You see those men looking at you?  They are not only working class but alsothey and no one else sees women there in the streets in any kind of shorts!  I really like your look there.  Thanks for bring back great memories.

Allie

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Re: Getting Cloccked:
« Reply #23 on: November 18, 2020, 02:03:43 am »
Hey Barbie,

You look like you are in front of La Bonbonera, "The Candy Bowl" soccer stadium for the La Boca soccer team in the La Boca district of Buenos Aires.  I have had dinner just around the corner from there, and I also lived in Buenos Aires for over 10 years.  A wonderful place.  You see those men looking at you?  They are not only working class but alsothey and no one else sees women there in the streets in any kind of shorts!  I really like your look there.  Thanks for bring back great memories.

Allie

Yes. That's right. I forgot the team name, but you made me recall it. Thanks.
I didn't realize that most women were wearing long pants. I checked the photos taken there, and could confirm it. I saw the Tango dancers wearing a dress.



It took 36 hours by 3 air planes from Seoul to Buenos Aires via Abu Dhabi and São Paulo. I am not quite sure whether I will visit there again.

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Re: Getting Cloccked:
« Reply #24 on: November 19, 2020, 12:52:15 pm »
I think you are talking about just a very few European countries, maybe in Holland and maybe Sweden but in most  European countries there are very few women over 6 feet tall sadly. In Manchester I haven’t come across one woman as tall as me (im 1.88m) - it is different in Holland I know.

At Frankfurt airport, I saw a young woman whose height was probably 2 meters (6'7").

Here in Jeju island, I have seen a few young women whose height is as tall as me, but nowadays most of them tend to be obese and unbalanced in body shape. Occasionally, I see well-balanced and beautiful tall women in Seoul, and they also watch me.

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Re: Getting Cloccked:
« Reply #25 on: November 19, 2020, 01:03:07 pm »
yeah, that's another issue, In NY I'd sometimes wear the stuff you're just wearing at the market, but I'm in Bogota, fairly safe but still, don't wanna push the envelope; mostly because I tend to go out at night rather than during the day, things change drastically here after business closing

My impression solely based on the media reports here is that Bogota is the most dangerous city in the world. One of my colleagues said to me that he just stayed within the hotel during his visit to Bogota. But I guess the safety there might have been improved recently.

Here I can walk on heels alone at midnight.



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Re: Getting Cloccked:
« Reply #26 on: November 19, 2020, 05:19:37 pm »
Hi all,

I thought getting clocked was also an expression for when you are out as your true self and someone who you know sees you, but they don't know your are transgender and you can see their look of confusion because they cant think why you are familiar and then it dawns on them.

various outcomes are

you going over and saying it's me "Dave" and they hadn't seen you and it was just your paranoia

them responding yes I know, everybody knows

You hiding and hoping they didn't see you and avoiding them for months just incase

them coming over and chatting you up still without recognising you

them telling you you remind them of someone

A text message arriving on your phone

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Re: Getting Cloccked:
« Reply #27 on: November 19, 2020, 09:41:36 pm »
yeah, I know, people just make assumptions, it always amazed me when people would come up to me (I worked in tourism) and tell me how dangerous NYC was, go figure
My impression solely based on the media reports here is that Bogota is the most dangerous city in the world. One of my colleagues said to me that he just stayed within the hotel during his visit to Bogota. But I guess the safety there might have been improved recently.

Here I can walk on heels alone at midnight.



Cheers,

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Re: Getting Cloccked:
« Reply #28 on: December 03, 2020, 01:16:36 am »
I always was clocked, I was pretty transparent, not really understanding what gender they were supossed to be. They need more information before deciding if they feel like a girl or a boy. You have to be one or the other apparently.

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Re: Getting Clocked:
« Reply #29 on: January 28, 2021, 04:42:32 am »
I hardly get clocked nowadays. 3 years post op, also 8 years since start of transitioning. thankfully. a lot of effort was put into my appearance, getting used to the new voice I trained. before my voice was fully female, I had to use speech patterns to make myself more feminine. but now that my voice is more stabilized, based on my personality I rather speak more dominantly. a lot a lot of effort was made for me to reach this stage today.
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Re: Getting Clocked:
« Reply #30 on: March 31, 2021, 05:10:09 pm »
Being clocked is to be expected at times; but, hearing a very stupid question like, “I guess you must be gay but why would you then look so much like a woman?” is over the top.


Uggh!
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Re: Getting Clocked:
« Reply #31 on: March 31, 2021, 05:46:42 pm »
Unfortunately getting clocked is a somewhat normal part of most transition journeys, especially at the beginning. 
As we fine tune our appearance, our body movements, voices, hair and make up... and as HRT does it magic, along possibly with a surgery or two.... as we then get into Full-Time mode we then will hopefully be able to pass reliably ...and being clocked will not be a frequent event.

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Re: Getting Clocked:
« Reply #32 on: April 03, 2021, 09:46:16 am »
I have never been clocked when out with one or more cis-females.
Or, at least, I have never heard a disparaging word.
That is good.  But I am out and about more alone.  Sometimes, that odd look, rarely now anything worse.

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Be a good example of good behavior.  Always be kinder than needed.  Be tender to others.  You are as beautiful as the thoughts you think and the words that you speak.   Always stay cheerful, be polite, kind, and understanding.  Knowledge and action shown without love is not impressive.  If you look for the good in people you will find it. Healthy relationships are so important to good living.  Serve others.

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Re: Getting Clocked:
« Reply #33 on: April 03, 2021, 12:33:53 pm »
Well I live in British Columbia Canada and male to female seems quite accepted here despite height that most of us experience out in public - at one time my height was about 6' 1/2" , I'm 63 now and in Bangkok at the Kamol hospital they said I was 5' 11" but sounded absolutely wonderful but realistically more and likely I was still 6' tall - I suppose maybe I've shrunk a bit being 63 - It's interesting that being out and about in the last year I've had the word " mam " so far 100% said to me , so I must finally be fitting in the best I can tell - it seems if people see that your totally comfortable just being yourself as being a gal/female they don't care but people can sense if your somewhat looking over your shoulder all the time - Airports I've always had No problems , never a man checking me out but a lot that has to do with documentation from your own country and I had SRS etc. - there scanners hide nothing - the area that is devastating for me is after voice surgery in Spain and a second in Rochester New York that on the Phone I get " Sir " 100% all the time and it's cost me a small fortune so far trying to achieve a girl voice with a right vocal cord that is not working  - perception is 9 tenths of the law being a Transgender Woman - for me having a Voice that maches is CRITICAL and most important of all the surgeries a person can go through so I'm going to Portland in May to maybe get what I need absolutely if possible to fit in a world that can be very mean and biased toward someone that just wants to be yourself that should have happened at birth , I wouldn't wish being Trans on anyone , it's a very hard life to live , and I'm one of them !

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Getting Clocked:
« Reply #34 on: April 03, 2021, 02:32:55 pm »
Unfortunately getting clocked is a somewhat normal part of most transition journeys, especially at the beginning. 
As we fine tune our appearance, our body movements, voices, hair and make up... and as HRT does it magic, along possibly with a surgery or two.... as we then get into Full-Time mode we then will hopefully be able to pass reliably ...and being clocked will not be a frequent event.

Danielle
That’s true but some things are hard to hide. Because being 6’2” means I get more noticed and I still probably don’t always pass if someone looks close enough for long enough. C’est la vie n’est pas?


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