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Offline noleen111

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Re: As a mtf, how did you cope with others who disapprove?
« Reply #60 on: December 02, 2020, 07:15:02 am »
When I came out I was kinda disowned by my father, my mother followed her man. He passed a few months later

But after he passed, without acknowledging his daughter, my mother reached out and we reconnected. Now we have a very close mother and daughter relationship.

I was heart broken, but I had a very close female friend who was with me, She supported me 110%. She taught me the ways of a woman,, Along with how to apply makeup, walk in heels, what outfits fit me best etc. So that support helped me a lot and made me the woman I am today.  The only negative, I was kinda a social smoker when I came out and I used cigarettes as crutch and became hooked on them. I could not quit or maybe did not want to quit, once I was stable in my new life and did not need the crunch anymore.

That is habit I did manage to kick almost 2 years back, but I was a daily smoker for about 9 years. My mother and I reconnected about 2 years after my fathers disowning, so I smoked a lot longer than I needed. A health scare made me quit. I got a growth on my tonsil, nothing cancerous, but it was enough to scare me right.

People in the street, I really don't care what they think of me. Once I accepted, I was a woman and hormones was the right path for me, I did not worry about strangers thoughts over me life choice. Only parents reaction hurt me. I never had many friends, so no real loss there.

But womanhood has rewarded me with a good life, I have a  husband, a close group of friends, a closer relationship with my mother and the latest, my husband and I adopted a baby girl, so I get to be mother. (My favorite part, my wedding day is my 2nd favorite)
Enjoying ride the hormones are giving me... finally becoming the woman I always knew I was

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Re: As a mtf, how did you cope with others who disapprove?
« Reply #61 on: February 15, 2021, 01:42:21 pm »
When I came out I was kinda disowned by my father, my mother followed her man. He passed a few months later

But after he passed, without acknowledging his daughter, my mother reached out and we reconnected. Now we have a very close mother and daughter relationship.

I was heart broken, but I had a very close female friend who was with me, She supported me 110%. She taught me the ways of a woman,, Along with how to apply makeup, walk in heels, what outfits fit me best etc. So that support helped me a lot and made me the woman I am today.  The only negative, I was kinda a social smoker when I came out and I used cigarettes as crutch and became hooked on them. I could not quit or maybe did not want to quit, once I was stable in my new life and did not need the crunch anymore.

That is habit I did manage to kick almost 2 years back, but I was a daily smoker for about 9 years. My mother and I reconnected about 2 years after my fathers disowning, so I smoked a lot longer than I needed. A health scare made me quit. I got a growth on my tonsil, nothing cancerous, but it was enough to scare me right.

People in the street, I really don't care what they think of me. Once I accepted, I was a woman and hormones was the right path for me, I did not worry about strangers thoughts over me life choice. Only parents reaction hurt me. I never had many friends, so no real loss there.

But womanhood has rewarded me with a good life, I have a  husband, a close group of friends, a closer relationship with my mother and the latest, my husband and I adopted a baby girl, so I get to be mother. (My favorite part, my wedding day is my 2nd favorite)



Sorry you experienced a lack of acceptance, and it hurt a lot. 
It sounds like now things are much better, and I am very happy for you. 

How is it like to be a mom?

Chrissy


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Good living, joy, unity, love, and happiness can come from following these practices: Never let selfishness or conceit motivate you.  Regard others as more important than yourself.  Do not limit attention to only your interests, but include the interests of others

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