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Re: Just another mtf tale
« Reply #180 on: July 01, 2020, 04:42:07 pm »
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It is certainly good to get out there and get some good exercise and perhaps enjoy the comraderie of being with other participants.
There are times that when I do some of the runs that I may just walk at a quick pace for some or all of the event... it can still get your heart-rate up into the range that will burn calories and improve your muscle tone.
Walking at quick pace is sometimes called Aerobic Walking ... you might want to look it up and investigate the benefits, one of which is that Aerobic Walking is much lower impact than with jogging or running.

Thank you for the information, Danielle! I'll look up aerobic walking. I did look up information about the impact of running and most people think it's high impact but I'm not sure there's peer-reviewed evidence that that's the case. It is certainly known that walking is confirmed to be good for you though!

Right now, nothing is going on because of lockdown in terms of group exercise. I'm hoping that will end soon with the proviso that it has to be safe; I don't want a situation like what happened in Leicester to develop in Cardiff.

Hey Ellie, congratulations on completing the Couch to 5K program (sorry for my misspelling... American Autocorrect lol). That's a great accomplishment! Have you done any organized events before? Those can be fun, the infectious enthusiasm alone will propel you out the gate at two minutes faster than your intended pace (with suitable payback later ).

I have not! (Well, not since school, anyway.)

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My wife and I used to run events, usually 3 or 4 a year. My favorite was the local Pikes Peak Ascent and Marathon, which I did 17 times before I retired a few years ago. It was getting too stressful when I just wanted to have fun, all due to my own internal pressure. Now I just run for fun, almost always on our single-track trails in the mountains. I inevitably walk much of the uphills.

I always dress femme for running, which helps make it fun! I hope it's fun for you too!

I'm full-time female; I do sometimes wear unisex clothing for business (my new job means I have to interact with people from many different cultures and my focus is on business rather than my gender; I don't even care if I get misgendered while working - making money is what I need to do, and also I'm a key member of the team, so if I don't get my work done, it could negatively affect the entire contract.)

When I ran my 5k, I was wearing a sports bra (and I did think that was useful); a women's T-shirt; and running leggings if I remember correctly. I wasn't wearing any hair, though. I did pay for that because the back of my neck got slightly sunburnt...

I need to keep up the momentum, though, which I'm not brilliant at! I have not run since Friday (although I have done some forms of exercise).
Started seriously questioning: 24 Aug 2019
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Official name change by deed poll: 11 Nov 2019
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Re: Just another mtf tale
« Reply #181 on: July 03, 2020, 01:56:19 pm »
Congrats on completing the 5k program! I'm guessing a couple of months ago when you started you wouldn't have felt great about being able to go out and actually run five kilometers. Now you probably think it isn't that hard. That's a great accomplishment!

I need to keep up the momentum, though, which I'm not brilliant at! I have not run since Friday (although I have done some forms of exercise).
Today is your next chance to get out for a run! What you've already done is awesome. If you can keep going I bet you will be glad you did. Good luck!
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Re: Just another mtf tale
« Reply #182 on: July 05, 2020, 04:21:45 am »
Congrats on completing the 5k program! I'm guessing a couple of months ago when you started you wouldn't have felt great about being able to go out and actually run five kilometers. Now you probably think it isn't that hard. That's a great accomplishment!
Today is your next chance to get out for a run! What you've already done is awesome. If you can keep going I bet you will be glad you did. Good luck!

Thank you! You're absolutely right. I have completed longish runs before (never 5km) and not trained beforehand for them, and I've always had significant delayed onset muscle soreness afterwards. After doing that 5k, there was no soreness in the following days at all.

Also, it may be my imagination, but I think it's improving my shape!

I did another run today. Unfortunately that's nine days since the last. It has been rather rainy recently and I'm a fair-weather girl. I started on the beyond 5k podcasts... I did the pacing one, which is 10 minutes of 150 bpm music to run in time to, followed by 15 minutes of 155 bpm, and then 5 minutes of 160 bpm. None of that was a stretch.
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Re: Just another mtf tale
« Reply #183 on: July 15, 2020, 10:17:18 am »
I seem to be doing about one run a week right now. I'm pretty busy with work...

Also, I'm now on Finasteride to "treat my male pattern baldness." Since technically that is a HRT, I'm going to update my signature. I was able to access that medicine perfectly legally and it has been prescribed by a UK doctor, although not through the NHS (as it is not prescribed for this purpose by the NHS; male pattern baldness is considered cosmetic, and I doubt that being registered as female would make any difference).

Note that I am NOT encouraging anybody else to do this as HRT; it would actually be great if it does work to treat my male pattern baldness, and who knows? Might as well find out. I am using it completely legitimately for its on-label purpose. It isn't particularly expensive; it was obtained online, and I went with the "generic" version as opposed to the "branded" one, which has exactly the same value, but is quite a bit cheaper.
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Re: Just another mtf tale
« Reply #184 on: July 15, 2020, 11:51:04 am »
Actually I have another update too; I have had advice from somebody who has spent a long time collating information for transgender people in Wales that's not easy to come by.

What always put me off going private was that I would have to pay for everything up to the point where the NHS would take over. If that included prescriptions, medication and tests, that's an awful lot of money.

I was advised of the best way to approach a shared care agreement, and what to do if the GPs at the practice refuse to enter into a shared care agreement. There is then a route via the Wales GIS to get hormones. I already know the doctor who would do the prescribing, actually, on a semi-personal level; we met at a support group.

My understanding is that it is likely to cost about £600 to get the letter recommending hormones (two appointments from different specialists) and then it's likely to be £170 to £340 per annum after that for monitoring until the GIS sees me and takes over care. If the costs are limited to that, or possibly a little more, I believe I can manage that.

So today I wrote to a consultant about that who is part of Gender Care. All of the transitioning I have already done I'm certain will be enough to provide a compelling case for hormones during the first appointment.

I'm feeling a bit happier now!
Started seriously questioning: 24 Aug 2019
Referred to GIC: 23 Sep 2019
Full-time female presentation since: 21 Oct 2019, unbroken since 12 Dec 2019
Official name change by deed poll: 11 Nov 2019
HRT: "kind of" started 15 Jul 2020
Most of my story is in the Just another mtf tale thread!
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Re: Just another mtf tale
« Reply #185 on: July 15, 2020, 12:02:43 pm »
Fingers crossed for you .XXX
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Re: Just another mtf tale
« Reply #186 on: July 15, 2020, 02:18:58 pm »
That's fantastic news on the hormones! I wish it were easier and cheaper for everyone over there, but I'm glad it looks like you found a way to move forward without waiting for several years. Good luck!

I'm also glad to hear you are keeping busy with work. I'm sure you'll do what you can to balance your life and get whatever exercise you want to in, but especially in these times, a job where you are needed is important. Hopefully, you are also enjoying it and find it fulfilling.

Love and peace!
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Re: Just another mtf tale
« Reply #187 on: July 19, 2020, 08:30:02 am »
That's fantastic news on the hormones! I wish it were easier and cheaper for everyone over there, but I'm glad it looks like you found a way to move forward without waiting for several years. Good luck!

I think it's gonna turn out to be a dead end. What it said on the website was simply not up-to-date; it takes three to four months to see the first consultant. To see the endo is then another eight months. At least, that's what one of them said; I have emailed the other one and I expect the answer to be similar. If the wait will be that long for private, I think I'll just abandon that path and go via the NHS; it won't take too much longer than that I think. I have been on the NHS waiting list for almost a year now.

I'm also glad to hear you are keeping busy with work. I'm sure you'll do what you can to balance your life and get whatever exercise you want to in, but especially in these times, a job where you are needed is important. Hopefully, you are also enjoying it and find it fulfilling.

The real problem is I am now self-employed, and having to determine exactly how much work I do because I'm in a sort of company partnership. If I take too much work on, the others lose out. However, I need to take a fair bit of work on to fill a buffer. I was made redundant in January from a "normal" job and most of my savings are depleted, so I need to build up my rainy-day fund again. Also, I need to not work too much so that I maintain my health. But I need to account for what might be leaner months.

Right now, though, it looks like there will be plenty of work for me to do. It's just a bit worrying that it's from one source.

That's life, though, and my transness is irrelevant to that...
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Re: Just another mtf tale
« Reply #188 on: July 20, 2020, 05:03:09 pm »
Update: The other endo had about a six-month waiting list. I thought maybe it's possible to get on both waiting lists at the same time, and it turns out that that is the case, so I have decided to go for the shared-care approach to get on hormones. It will eventually transition over to the NHS. I think it will save about a year and cost me £600 to get on hormones and £170 for six-monthly to annual reviews. There may be a slightly higher cost if I have any trouble with getting the NHS to accept shared care, but as I said before, I know who to talk to in the system to help.

I am fortunate to be in a position where I can afford to do it, even though that was not my initial intention. I am probably more patient than most trans people, but even I couldn't continue to hold out. Covid 19 has caused delays. There could be other delays in the pipeline...
Started seriously questioning: 24 Aug 2019
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Official name change by deed poll: 11 Nov 2019
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Re: Just another mtf tale
« Reply #189 on: July 21, 2020, 07:11:45 pm »
Good luck with it, whatever happens. Your plan looks good. I know you're not the first person to have to deal with this and it is great that you do seem really patient, but it sounds like a real pain.
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Re: Just another mtf tale
« Reply #190 on: July 24, 2020, 05:39:57 pm »
Feeling great today!

I was streaming, and two members of my chat got engaged through the chat!

My streams are normally pretty quiet... so it was great to see that!
Started seriously questioning: 24 Aug 2019
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Re: Just another mtf tale
« Reply #191 on: July 27, 2020, 07:21:44 pm »
Wow! That's amazing! They must really think your streams are special to them in order to decide that was the place to get engaged. Great job to you and good luck to them :)
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Re: Just another mtf tale
« Reply #192 on: July 27, 2020, 08:22:00 pm »
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Dear Ellie...

Wishing you
....a very :icon_flower: :icon_flower: Happy Birthday :icon_flower: :icon_flower:

HUGS and best wishes on your special day and birthday.
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Re: Just another mtf tale
« Reply #193 on: July 28, 2020, 01:50:55 am »
Happy birthday dear, have a gud un (as they say around here!!)
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Re: Just another mtf tale
« Reply #194 on: July 28, 2020, 01:06:52 pm »
They say it round these parts too!

Thank you so much! Cake is in the oven! I'll post a picture of it later - well, maybe tomorrow! :)
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Re: Just another mtf tale
« Reply #195 on: July 28, 2020, 01:25:20 pm »
Ellie,
 Pen-blwydd Hapus merch annwyl!!
 Mae cacen yn swnio'n dda.!!!      🤗
Mae'n anodd byw mewn byd sy mor bel o fod yn berffaith!

Ymlaen rydyn ni'n mynd!

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Re: Just another mtf tale
« Reply #196 on: July 28, 2020, 01:42:45 pm »
Happy birthday! :icon_birthday:
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Re: Just another mtf tale
« Reply #197 on: July 29, 2020, 04:02:27 pm »
Ellie,
 Pen-blwydd Hapus merch annwyl!!
 Mae cacen yn swnio'n dda.!!!      🤗

Diolch yn fawr i ti!  :D :D :D
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Re: Just another mtf tale
« Reply #198 on: July 29, 2020, 04:02:47 pm »
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Official name change by deed poll: 11 Nov 2019
HRT: "kind of" started 15 Jul 2020
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Re: Just another mtf tale
« Reply #199 on: July 29, 2020, 04:03:13 pm »
I did bake my cake! I need to have more of it... :)
Started seriously questioning: 24 Aug 2019
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Full-time female presentation since: 21 Oct 2019, unbroken since 12 Dec 2019
Official name change by deed poll: 11 Nov 2019
HRT: "kind of" started 15 Jul 2020
Most of my story is in the Just another mtf tale thread!
Twitch streamer MusicEllie

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