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5 Months Post and constant Discomfort
« on: October 23, 2019, 06:19:55 am »
Hi. Another Newbie who has been following this wonderful site for some time.

It's just over 5 Months now since my GRS in the UK and have a similar problem to a few other girls regarding the Clitoris, but post here as I cannot find details about the problem at 5 Months Post.  I was signed off at 10 weeks with my question about being uncomfortable explained away as it would clear eventually.  But at 5 Months it hasn't one bit and causes me discomfort 24/7.

Reading the Rules I know I cannot post a photo so hopefully will be able to describe what my Clitoris looks like.  It's about 13mm long and 6mm wide with a slight vertical cleft in the middle.  It does fairly resemble a small penis glans with the skin being exactly the same. 

The feeling of discomfort can be described variously as a tightness, as though there is something like there is a small object inside of me stretching around the Clitoris, especially behind it.  It is only painful (slight to medium) if I touch it or the immediate area and more so to the (my) right hand side.  (The right outer labia was far more swollen post surgery than the left.)

I've left it this long before enquiring because of my age.  I am now 66 years old and accept that my body will take longer to heal than a fit young lady.  I emailed, with a photo the hospital to ask their advice, but have received no reply.  This is probably due to the fact that funding from the NHS for this operation has now ended and the surgery itself was at s private hospital paid for by the NHS.  I understand that the possible protocol now would be to go back to my doctor, but since my GRS I have moved and now live in Spain.

Has anyone had this experience, not so much shortly after surgery, but the length of time that's happened in my case?  Indeed, any comments would be welcome.   Living on my own I'm trying to keep positive, but it's starting to wear me down and I guess like any woman who has had problems post GRS, find it such a disappointment to what was an otherwise wonderful major event in their Transition.

Thanks so much,
Janet


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Re: 5 Months Post and constant Discomfort
« Reply #1 on: October 23, 2019, 04:01:33 pm »
Hi Janet

Welcome to Susan's. I hope you enjoy your time here.


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Re: 5 Months Post and constant Discomfort
« Reply #2 on: October 23, 2019, 04:11:20 pm »
Hi. Another Newbie who has been following this wonderful site for some time.

It's just over 5 Months now since my GRS in the UK and have a similar problem to a few other girls regarding the Clitoris, but post here as I cannot find details about the problem at 5 Months Post.  I was signed off at 10 weeks with my question about being uncomfortable explained away as it would clear eventually.  But at 5 Months it hasn't one bit and causes me discomfort 24/7.

Reading the Rules I know I cannot post a photo so hopefully will be able to describe what my Clitoris looks like.  It's about 13mm long and 6mm wide with a slight vertical cleft in the middle.  It does fairly resemble a small penis glans with the skin being exactly the same. 

The feeling of discomfort can be described variously as a tightness, as though there is something like there is a small object inside of me stretching around the Clitoris, especially behind it.  It is only painful (slight to medium) if I touch it or the immediate area and more so to the (my) right hand side.  (The right outer labia was far more swollen post surgery than the left.)

I've left it this long before enquiring because of my age.  I am now 66 years old and accept that my body will take longer to heal than a fit young lady.  I emailed, with a photo the hospital to ask their advice, but have received no reply.  This is probably due to the fact that funding from the NHS for this operation has now ended and the surgery itself was at s private hospital paid for by the NHS.  I understand that the possible protocol now would be to go back to my doctor, but since my GRS I have moved and now live in Spain.

Has anyone had this experience, not so much shortly after surgery, but the length of time that's happened in my case?  Indeed, any comments would be welcome.   Living on my own I'm trying to keep positive, but it's starting to wear me down and I guess like any woman who has had problems post GRS, find it such a disappointment to what was an otherwise wonderful major event in their Transition.

Thanks so much,
Janet

Hi Janet

Now that I have the formalities out of the way I wanted to address your post.

I am just about 11 months PO and like you still healing. Whilst the majority of my healing is now complete I do still get the occasion evidence that things are continuing to improve both in feeling and visually. I am not sure exactly what you mean and a photo would of course help immensely. You can always email me a photo  lizk@susans.org and I can look at it and give you my nest guess compared to my own but my suggestion would be to seek further advice from your surgeon directly. However I know you have already tried with no success, maybe keep trying and they will eventually respond? I can only then suggest you try and get an appointment to see another surgeon who does GCS and ask for an opinion. I don't know how practical that is in your situation.

You are right, at our age things do take a lot longer to heal but what I am imagining from your description does sound a bit odd but I also know my surgeon told me it will take up to 2 years for the final appearance to be seen.

Take care

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Re: 5 Months Post and constant Discomfort
« Reply #3 on: October 23, 2019, 04:16:14 pm »
@Janet_Spain
Dear Janet:
As you continue to post on the forums you will certainly find some answers to your questions.

       Please find your way to the following area of the Forums and read the postings there and feel very free to start you own topic to look for more answers that you are seeking.
                         
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Welcome to the forums, lots of answers are here waiting for you to find and discuss with other like-minded members.

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Re: 5 Months Post and constant Discomfort
« Reply #4 on: October 23, 2019, 04:25:08 pm »
@Janet_Spain 
OH, and another thing Janet:
As our member @LizK  suggested in her Welcome Message to you, please if you feel so led, plan to write a post and briefly introduce yourself in the Introductions Forum so that other members will be aware of your arrival... therefore you will be able to share your thoughts and questions with more members here.
     
Thank you again for joining Susan's Place and being involved in the Forums here.

Best wishes to you,
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Re: 5 Months Post and constant Discomfort
« Reply #5 on: October 24, 2019, 02:44:27 pm »
Thanks for the welcome and I'll set up a post in the Introduction section.

@ Liz.   Thanks for your comments.  I have tried to send an email to the address given, but it's being returned.

Janet

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Re: 5 Months Post and constant Discomfort
« Reply #6 on: October 24, 2019, 02:50:37 pm »
Hi @Janet_Spain

Is there anyone local with the expertise? What about a gynecologist?

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Re: 5 Months Post and constant Discomfort
« Reply #7 on: October 26, 2019, 02:32:04 am »
I am 10 months post op at 71 years old.  I have had a similar, continuing problem.   I have been under the care of the Israel GRS team, and they think I need a revision.  I recently returned to the US for an examination by my original GRS surgeon and to get his opinion.  His observation was that "the right border of the neoclitoris and urethral flap (labia minora) is tender, elevated and spongy to palpation over a total with of 5 to 6mm and extending over the length of the clitoris and urethral flap."  In his opinion "this could represent some residual or hypertrophic corpora spongiosum, semi-erectile tissue."  The solution is corrective surgery to remove this residual tissue.

You have to have a GRS surgeon examine you.
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Re: 5 Months Post and constant Discomfort
« Reply #8 on: October 26, 2019, 02:37:08 am »
Janet, I might add that the doctors here said this type of complication has absolutely nothing to do with age!   It is the surgeons fault.
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Re: 5 Months Post and constant Discomfort
« Reply #9 on: October 28, 2019, 07:21:03 pm »
Hi Janet,

I had GCS 11/15/2016. Three months post op I had a clitoplasty. Prior to that The glands was exposed. I was very tight in that area. I had GCS then the clitoplasty procedure. Then a revision that also surgically revised the clitoplasty and did a bunch of other things. Next I had another revision. All toll I had 3 operations and two procedures with one more to go. 

I had a graft that partially died. There was scar tissue and a lot of vaginal canal pain. The clit was exposed for 3 months then covered. The entire glands penis was used. I am 3 years post op and my clit is smaller then 50% of woman. It is cute :) .

The pain
So one thing you can do is help your brain associate the pain with pleasure. So when I would dilate and pee and whenever I would gently rub the nerves and stimulate them. Then associate a pleasurable area with the rubbing at the same time. Maybe it was the massage, maybe it was the stimulation, maybe it was the association but the pain went away and I have very strong sensation and pleasant . 

Be patient. Gently stim the area where the nerves are associated with pain and stim an area that provides pleasure near by. Repeat often. It takes time.

Oh, the texture of my clit is super smooth and extremely sensitive. In order to have a clitoral orgasm you need to gently stim the area and very gently stim the clit. As you get aroused you can apply more stim. It is a super sensitive area.

Orgasm is a sneeze. Builds up over time then you just cannot hold it back. I used a series of vibrators. One time I used an anal, vaginal and clitoral vibrator simultaneously. Never damaged my V and that was a concern starting out. Most enjoyable buy sadly the O came very quickly.

Nerves some how when they rearranged themselves after the operation got mixed up messages. Some thought stim was bad. Through retraining and perhaps time and healing the nerves sense pleasure now. The clit is ultra sensitive and need very gentle handling until it is ready for more stim.

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Re: 5 Months Post and constant Discomfort
« Reply #10 on: November 20, 2019, 01:37:24 am »
I had SRS October of 2015 with Dr Meltzer. Everything was great until about February and I started to notice weird swelling around my clit. I also developed very angry, red, inflamed and even bleeding sores around my clit.
I was beside myself. I went back to Dr Meltzer who gave me a treatment for it and reassured me that all would be well. He was right...eventually.
It probably took a full year at least before the area was completely better.
A year and a half ago I met my husband who is the only man I've had vaginal sex with. It took me a good 6-8 months to get used to penetrative sex vs dilation.

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Re: 5 Months Post and constant Discomfort
« Reply #11 on: April 22, 2021, 07:58:34 pm »
It is normal. 5 months it’s reasonable. It takes time and relax ok? Not do so much effort my dear and take care of that beautiful vagijoo
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Re: 5 Months Post and constant Discomfort
« Reply #12 on: April 23, 2021, 12:57:24 am »
The erectile tissue in both men and women are the same its the way they are encased thats different. The surgeon should tell you that they want to make sure you have erectile tissue for an orgasm and more is better than less. You can always have a surgery to reduce the erectile tissue  but there is no surgery if the surgeon has removed too much.

Excess erectile tissue causes discomfort and surgery could be considered after a year or two when healed.. Good luck
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Re: 5 Months Post and constant Discomfort
« Reply #13 on: April 23, 2021, 06:30:32 am »
I had tightness and it lasted a long time, perhaps a decade or more. It was annoying, but not painful. When I say tightness, I don't mean tightness that made penetration problematic, but a tightness I could feel 24/7. It eventually dissipated.

I am amazed that you were able to precisely measure your clit. You are flexible!

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